I think i've lost my mojo!
Ok so i have been dancing well over a year now, i started off at a club in the next town to me and i did well there, got on well with the girls and the staff but the club isnt exactly the ritz and the guy who owns the place is a money grubbing bastard who wont spend a penny on the club so basically the club has just got so run down and not many good money spenders come in anymore cause its not a very classy enviroment, but still i felt comfortable there so i stayed but i was starting to earn less and less cause for some reason i just didnt dare ask if the guys wanted dances.
I have never been the type of girl who just walks up to a customer and says "do you want a dance darlin" and if he says no just walk off and try the next guy, i think its nice to sit and chat to them 1st for a bit then ask but now I JUST DARNT ASK! I feel cheeky asking even though i know they are probably thinking "oh gee when's she gonna ask me if i wanna dance cause i darnt ask her"!
So i thought maybe it was the club and i just felt too comfortable there and needed to try somewhere new, so i went to a club quite a drive away from me, which was a beautiful club, but to be honest i just felt like a dick!
I still didnt dare ask customers, the girls couldnt have been less friendly if they had drop kicked me out the door and i basically just looked like a kid that had lost its mother in the mall!
I went home a cried my eyes out that night, i kept thinking, "god i must be a shit dancer now" "have i put weight on" "why didnt i fit in", i totally feel like i have just lost my mojo and ability to talk to customers and be sexy even though i know im a fucking good dancer(lol, modesty gets you nowhere).
Has this ever happened to anybody else?
What can i do to boost my confidence back up to where it was in my 1st year of dancing?
Should i just get out?
I really hope yall can help....
Re: I think i've lost my mojo!
i think you jsut need a break! your just burnt out!
Re: I think i've lost my mojo!
The first time I went to a new club I had been dancing for several months. I was a different girl in the new club. I was very intimidated and all I wanted was to go back to my home club. If the club is a lot different than your first club, like size, try a club more similar to your home club. That will help you become more at ease with the different environments of different clubs. Slowly work your way to different atmospheres. It also might help to bring a friend with you. This will help you feel at home, but you should bring a girl that has experiance with working n different clubs so she will be comfortable.
Also, even now, some clubs just dont fit well for me. Its like sometimes Iwill go into a new club and feel great in it and comfortable, then others, even smaller or not as nice clubs feel intimidating. You just have to find a shoe that fits.
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Take some time off if you can afford to do so.
The alternative, which I used to do when I worked in one club routinely, is to work in another club in another state or anywhere else quite awhile away from your 'home' club... except try to work in a club (like Lady has mentioned) that is similiar to your home club (size, layout, rules, decore etc etc). If you can find another club that is similiar (not totally the same of course) as your 'home' club... work there for a little bit (anywhere from a week to a month).
Being in a different (yet similiar) club is refreshing as I'm surrounding myself by four different walls. I then learn about the positives (not just keep focusing on the negatives) about my 'home' club due to working in a different environment.
My third suggestion involves an investment of money (and let's face it.. it might work)... Dancer Wealth Training. You may just need to learn how to sell... as it is quite obvious that your current "hustle" (selling style) is not working for you.
;D Best of luck whatever you do
Re: I think i've lost my mojo!
I have the same issue--it is so hard for me to ask guys for a dance. I know I would make so much more if I was more assertive. I know this is a self-confidence issue for me (and a fear of rejection) so I have been listening to a tape on improving self esteem. I listen to it most nights before bed and then on the way to work in my car. I also have positive statements that I typed up and posted on my bathroom mirror so that I will repeat them daily. I make so much more when I listen to my tape and repeat my positive statements! Good Luck! Jenna
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Dont Feel Bad My Mojos Broke Too Hope It Returns For Biketoberfest!!
Re: I think i've lost my mojo!
The last club I danced at, I was there for eight months. It happened to me, but I we seen other girls burning out and taking time off too. I think it happens to most of us. Take some time off or try to work less days a week for a while. Take more time for your personal life. Whatever you like to do most hobbies,friends, etc. Clear your mind sort out your priorities, think abaut your goals and get a lot of sleep. Eventually you are gonna get it back. Thats what I did. Good luck.
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I agree about personal life. I find doing something outside of work and sleep is really important.
Watch movies, go to the gym, read, do something good for you. That helps keep yoru spirits up. Work can be tough, hell for sure. But you can handle. The guys dont have power over you. Sitting and chatting is great. But dont wait until u r too comfortable. Get around to closing the deal. Thats what these guys are used to. they do it in their jobs.