The doubt phase of the cycle...
Okay, so I have about a week left until I'm supposed to start. I'm basically just waiting for my next paycheck so that I can get my permit and some more outfits, I have like, one. How many do you need when you start? And I was planning on getting separate pieces that I can mix and match, is this a good idea or is it better to have "sets"?
But I was just skimming through the photo gallery, and like, all of you are GORGEOUS! Virtually NO visible stretch marks, skin imperfections, most of you are tanned. Now I'm a little more shaken up. I'm going to do it because I've invested too much mental energy into the idea, choked down too much damn Slim-Fast not to. But I read the post where the girl panicked on her first night and left, and I can totally see myself being faced with the urge to do the same. I really want to see this through, make it through the entire first night, really give it a fair shot. I love my body and I currently look better than I ever have, but is it good enough to strip? How forgiving are men of a little bit of cellulite, stretch marks, the occasional body acne? And can I truly handle it when I AM faced with the asshole that tells me to get my fat ass off the stage?
I consider myself to be fairly intelligent, and I know that if this doesn't work out, I have marketable skills in the way of secretary-ville. I can quit whenever I want, go back to being some rich businessowner's workhorse....but fuck that! I just want this so badly!
This post doesn't really have a point, I don't necessarily have a question, my questions will only be answered when I try it for myself. I'm just sort of obsessing and freaking myself out and my boyfriend and friends are pretty sick of this whole topic, still supportive, but I made the decision to try this several months ago, and I want to quit talking about it and DO IT! Money sucks when you barely have any.
Thank you for letting me vent.
Re: The doubt phase of the cycle...
To paraphrase a famous acronym, KISS! Keep It Simple, Sweetie.
If I could go back to my first days as a dancer (when I would get butterflies in my stomach and cotton mouth before I had to dance- shy) I would remember that men come into Gentlemen's Clubs for the social experience of having a pretty girl talk to them. It's the human connection. If the man wants to get off right away, he can stay at home and juice himself in front of the TV or computer monitor. But no, he went out looking for something. For someone.
OK, so work on your hustle. Get good at listening to people. Your looks draw them in and your bait seals the deal. It's like fishing, but more entertaining.
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Originally Posted by madmaxine
To paraphrase a famous acronym, KISS! Keep It Simple, Sweetie.
If I could go back to my first days as a dancer (when I would get butterflies in my stomach and cotton mouth before I had to dance- shy) I would remember that men come into Gentlemen's Clubs for the social experience of having a pretty girl talk to them. It's the human connection. If the man wants to get off right away, he can stay at home and juice himself in front of the TV or computer monitor. But no, he went out looking for something. For someone.
OK, so work on your hustle. Get good at listening to people. Your looks draw them in and your bait seals the deal. It's like fishing, but more entertaining.
KISS, I like that. So at my next audition I'm going to be walking around saying "kiss Kiss kiss KISS kiss" under my breath hehe.
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Hon, you sound like me right before I started with wearing everyone out around you about the topic, etc... no one wanted to hear another word until I actually did it. I was wearing myself out mentally before even starting... so.... I finally called my best friend from out of state... and here is what he said that got the ball really rolling for me...
The only regrets you'll have in life are the risks you didn't take.
It sounds like you really want to do it. And regardless of the outcome, or how you will do your first week, when you do it, you will OWN your experience, instead of always wondering how it would have worked out for you. It sounds like you need to do it just to see. So do it.
Good luck. You can do it.
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Okay, well, I've got the permit. I keep staring at it. I have a permit to dance exotically. WOOO!
Now I just gotta get paid....and buy outfits! And get a haircut. What is a good number of outfits to start with? Sets or separate pieces?
It's so close! I'm getting so excited!
Re: The doubt phase of the cycle...
When your new it's probably easier to have matching outfits, but if you can get some that all match that you can pair together then that works! Practice taking them off seductively at home so you don't feel funny doing it for a crowd. And as for the kiss method, just remember... the more difficult you make it in your head the harder it will be for you to actually do it. Smile, think happy thoughts! You'll do fine. Good Luck!!!
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Get a few seperates in just one or two colors. This way they'll match everything, and you'll only need one pair of shoes, to start. I don't know if you sew at all, but most outfits you can buy at a lingerie store for $70 are super cheap and easy to make yourself.
As for nervousness, nobody's perfect, and you'll be fine. Just SMILE!!!!
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About imperfections:
First off the lighting in the clubs is usually set best to flatter and hide these common issues.
If you watch some of the girls on stage and then check them out in the dressing room, you'll see what I mean.
You will get lot's of bruises at first, I highly recommend Arnica gell, it's natural, not greasy or smelly, and heals them FAST.
For dealling with "flaws" try these tips:
Use tanning beds or self tanner (Mystic Tan is awesome - quick and no hassle); tanning camouflages a LOT - cellulite, bruises, stretch marks, etc., and makes you look slimmer.
Try experimenting with body make-up (make sure it is transfer resistant and waterproof); for cheap, Sally Hanson's airbrush is awesome, for a bit more $$, Dermablend has excellent coverage and really stays put, also good for covering tatts.
For cellulite, creams containing caffiene work well for temporary improvement, and to avoid cellulite or reduce it, drink tons of water, cut back on soda's, alcohol & smoking, and get plenty of rest. Regular deep massage on those areas helps too, not to mention helping out with the inevitable soreness you'll feel when first starting.
Baby wipes and hand sanitizer are indispensable for helping prevent breakouts, esp the nasty bumps that tend to show up on your butt. (You'll want wipes on hand anyway if you dance nude) If you do get bumps/acne, use baby wipe or sanitizer, dab with some cortizone or Prep H cream (not ointment), to quickly reduce redness, and cover with a little make-up. You may want to apply some zit cream first so the make-up doesn't make it worse.
Many/most of us have some or all these problems, as you will see in "Body Business", you just can't see them!! Often custies don't notice it doesn't bother them, but that really depends on the clientelle.
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Hey Girl, I just wanted to say DONT WORRY. you said you read that a girl on here went in and walked out, i think you were talking about me. Its funny, because i fully scared myself and rushed myself to the ppoint that nothing was really planned. BUT now ive been dancing for a little while and i love it, the atmosphere is cool, customers vary but hey theyre people and were all different on different days. just go and have fun, you know u want to do it. just like i did but i scared myself because its not something that was ever thought of as ok in my upbringing but i always wanted to do it, so i thought there must have been something worng with me. but there wasnt, its just for me, i love the dancing, as to the way you look, all girls are different and all men like different girls so dont stress im sure ur just over analyzing your body because your nervous. whatver u do, DONT BACK OUT, youve spent enough time with it on ur mind and $$ on it to regret not doing it and going back to your stuffy office job (believe me i feel you, todays my last day as an admin. assistant and thank god they fired me,LOL) because i cant do it anymore. Rather dance something i enjoy than something i hate for the rest of my life, just because its STABLE. life is too short, and i know everyone knows that here. Hope that helps with you confidence, you should even post a pic, ill tell u right now im 100% positive that ur SUPER HOT:))
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You are beautiful..
Any man in that club would be silly to not want to have you in his lap, writhing all over him like you wanted to fuck his brains out!
KISS!
R