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Waitress stole dancer's $$$; how would you handle it?
Hi Ladies,
A customer owed my friend $40 for dances. He only had a $100 bill. He owed the waitress $10 for a drink. He gave the waitress $100 and told her to give the change to the dancer ($40 for the dances + $50 tip).
The waitress brought my friend $40 and kept the $50.
The dancer told the manager who said he did not care.
The dancer tried to talk it over with the waitress, but the waitress began insisting that the tip was meant for her, not the dancer. Dancer offered to split the tip with the waitress, waitress told her to fuck off.
So what would you do in this instance?
I told my friend that on the one hand, she did get paid for the dances she did ($40), not to be so mad. On the other hand, the offending waitress was basically gloating and bragging about what she did all night.
What would you do?
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Re: Waitress stole dancer's $$$; how would you handle it?
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Re: Waitress stole dancer's $$$; how would you handle it?
Im all for taking care of the staff...but damn I dont expect the staff to steal from me. I know they work hard too also having to deal with people who dont know why they have to get a drink etc. But, we're the strippers getting naked for money and having to deal with alot more than they have to deal with.
For that waitress to take the dancers hard earned tip is just flat out stealing. MM...I would probably think of doing the same. Cant get your money back at least have a good laugh while tripping her. Yea, Im a meanie but I dont steal hard earned tips.
There could be more to the story than this...maybe the waitress helped hustle a custy for the dancer previously and was not tipped for it? In any past experience with that dancer the waitress had no right to 'gets hers'.
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Well the surpising thing was that it was a pretty new waitress. She had nothing coming to her from the dancer because they had not even worked same shift before last night!
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OK...yeup Im with MM trip the bitch. Also, if managment cares Id let them know too. Might not do much but if she steals tips she could be stealing from the club as well. You never know new people.
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or ...in my old dressing room a girl had a problem with the bartender and made a big issue of it. the bartender being a sweetheart , one of the dancers waited outside the door til the girlwas going to walk through and then pushed the door as hard as she could so it appeared as though she was just walking in but hit the girl in the face ...no blood or anything but she got hers....and our bartender told us that was wrong...such a sweetheart. so tripping sounds good just make it look good....or you could just wait around for karma.....it always does
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she isn't going to last, how many times do you think this is going to fly so casually.....why does anyone have to steal?....give it a week, it won't last.
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Re: Waitress stole dancer's $$$; how would you handle it?
It was probably a misunderstanding- I'm sure the waitress really did feel the tip was meant for her- no one would steal and then brag about it at a new job (or, almost no one). Are you certain the guy wasn't lying when he told your friend he'd told the waitress to pass on the $50 tip?
I had a similar instance happen with a bartender. I just hated him for a year, then he started dating my friend, so I looked into it further...it was truly a miscommunication.
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This doesn't make sense...
how does the dancer know the tip was for her?
If he was going to tip her $50 on top of the $40, why wouldn't he just give her the hundred?
if a customer owed me money for dances and we were just waiting for change, I would make sure he found change....not leave it up to a waitress (that I didn't know!) to hand me the money
And if the drink was $10, then the wairess got no tip, which also doesn't make sense.
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No matter who was right in this case, it still sucks that the manager said, "Oh, well." Trip him. You'd probably have to find another club, though...never mind.
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Sounds like a communication issue. I still cant figure out why the custy would give the money to the waitress to give to the dancer. I know thats a HUGE no no at my club. Besides why wouldnt the dancer go with the custy when he was getting change from the waitress? I know the dancers at any club i've been to are on the heels of the custy till they get their money. So I think its a dancer/custy/waitress mistake. All three are at fault. The dancer for not sticking with her custy till she got her money the custy for not coughing up the money and the waitress for not handing the money over she was told to. And if the dancer wasnt with the custy when he gave the waitress the money how does she know he wasnt lying? Id say tripping her is pretty imature. Seeing as it is partly the dancers fault to begin with...
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Oh and if she really wants to deal with it I would try talking to the waitress calmly asking her why she didnt give her the money? Then ask her how she would feel if she was in the dancers postion. Really though I would just cut the loss, yea it sucks you worked hard for the money but honestly there is nothing that can be done now. If the waitress kept the money to be a bitch then she will get her own eventually. And we all learn from out mistakes.. next time stay on the custys heels till he pays up.
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Well I wasn't there so I don't know eactly what happened you are right. But like I kept telling the dancer, you got paid for the work you did (2 dances) so fuggedabout the tip.
I dunno, maybe it was the dancer's fault.
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IMHO~ the dancer should've waited for her money. If she left it up to the waitress to get her money for all her dances then the waitress deserved the tip for having to track down the dancers money. I would never leave it up to the waitress to collect my fee's, if I did then whatever tip she gets for doing it is HERS since I wasn't doing my job by hustling the custy.
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Originally Posted by madmaxine
Trip her. Seriously.
Exactly. Wait til her tray is FULL of drinks then "opps! oh I'm sorry" - all the while grinning like a possum in a hailstorm. :biggrin:
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Im sorry but why trip her? Seriously its just as much the dancers fault as the waitresses. And seeing as 424_Fair wasnt even there when it happend she could be missing out on part of the story. For all we know maybe the dancer ripped the waitress off at some point. Im sorry but dancers are REALLY bad for this at any club i've worked at. Or maybe the custy didnt even tell the waitress to tip the dancer but told the dancer he did just to get a spat going. But im still wondering why the dancer didnt stay with the custy till she got money. Or make him go to the bar to get change. This story sounds funny to me im sure there are a lot of details missing. Tripping the waitress is just very imature. Unless you know for a FACT the waitress stole the money on purpose. Even still the dancer was stupid for not staying with the custy till she got the money.
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I agree.... I've never left a customer till I got my money.....
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Sure, I can't imagine why anyone would leave a customer without getting paid unless it's a trusted reg situation and you're coming right back. Maybe that's what happened with that girl.
BUT, the waitress apparently was being dishonest. Maybe I'm being naive or whatever, but I'm honest dammit and I expect to be treated as such. So if I were the dancer who had to leave before getting paid for some odd reason, and I knew the waitress took my intended tip, you bet your ass I'd trip her with a trayfull of drinks.
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Clearly both the dancer and waitress have some 'claim' to the 'disputed' customer tip money which apparently wasn't clearly earmarked for either the dancer or waitress - splitting it was a fair offer.
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Originally Posted by Melonie
Clearly both the dancer and waitress have some 'claim' to the 'disputed' customer tip money which apparently wasn't clearly earmarked for either the dancer or waitress - splitting it was a fair offer.
I've done this before when the waitress and I couldn't figure it out. They never had a problem with it since I was a nice dancer and I didn't give them any problems, and had been sitting with the guy longer than it took her to get a drink. I always take care of my servers so they take care of me.
I just think it's the fair thing to do, but even if the waitress didn't want to do that I don't think she should have been running around bragging about it. That just makes the situation worse.
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I agree if she took the money and the custy did tell her to give it to the dancer then the waitress deserves whats coming to her. And if she was bragging about it... well id make sure she never did it again. Im very honest and very caring and expect to be treated the same way. I take care of the dancers at my club and in return they take care of me. Id never in a million years think about taking intended tip money from a dancer. We will never know the whole story behind this. But if she took it and bragged about taking it and you know FOR SURE the custy told her to give it to the dancer... well id kill her :)
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I fI didn't know for sure that she stole, I'd do nothing but fume silently.
If I knew beyond a doubt, I'd beat the living shit out of her. I hate thieves.
ETA: no, actually I'd get a large male friend to do it, so I wouldn't get fired.
I had someone steal 180 lei (about 60 in US dollars, or 50 euro) when i was dancing in Romania. It was a big deal, because $60 might not be a lot here, but the equivalent goes a LONG way over there. I thought I knew who did it, but I couldn't be 100% sure. If I had known for sure, I would have had him beaten so badly he wouldn't be able to walk straight for a week. There is nothing that makes me angrier than a thief stealing what little I have and work hard for.
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Girls,
I have to tell you, that money definetly was promised to the dancer. It's been several days, and the dancer is so upset she has missed work and not called.
I talked to her today and she started crying really bad.
She re-told me the story and it makes perfect sense. The club is near the airport and the customer was leaving Canada and he had his last $100 bill from this country. He didn't want to change it back to american $, he didn't have enough time for more dances. He owed the waitress $7.50 for his beer, and 2 dances ($20 x 2) from the girl. He told her clearly that she was the nicest person he'd met in Canada and she should take his 'last dollar' before he got on his plane. It took so long for the waitress to come to make change, that when she said she had to 'break' the bill at the bar (meaning check it under the counterfit light), the customer just said 'give all the change to the girl' and he left. That's when the waitress gave the dancer $40 not $90.
It seems there was something poignant about that $50 that none of you or I can understand.
The girl just kept talking about how the customers try to rip us off all the time (like saying they had less dances than they did), how now the waitresses are out to get us, she can't take it any more.
I think also that when she offered to split the tip she thought she was doing the moral or Christian thing... when the waitress told her to fuck off (in front of many other people) she just felt like there is no limit to what our own staff will do to screw us.
We talked on the phone since 6pm till now (7:00)... she said she feels so pimped out she can never work at the club again. Kept on talking about how it feels to get pimped out by a woman, the waitress.
She usually makes $5-700 a night, I really feel bad for her that $50 experience is costing her so much. And I miss her because she's my friend and we support each other at work. I don't have anyone else without her. At work I mean. Sad.
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242 - the girl is obviously ready to leave. The business is not for the feint of foot. Even if we believe you absolutely - the waitress could viably thought the tip WAS for her and, unfortunately there is no way of handling this outside of avoiding having her handle the money in the future (and the manager, at first it seems terrible, but ultimately he can't really know who it was for either. It's just she said, she said). But, ultimately, she was screwed out of $50. It sucks, but if she is making that money it is not ruining her week, and I hope we can understand from this reaction that this kind of thing doesn't happen every week. I think she obviously just needs break to shake it off.
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Re: Waitress stole dancer's $$$; how would you handle it?
True Jenny, but everybody has a breaking point and this girl is not 'feint of foot'. She also worked in Guam, if you know what that means.