custies asking for phone #'s and dates
Hi!
I'd like to know what you guys say when a custie asks u to go out with them (just for dinner) or for you phone #.
I really don't wanna go out with anyone (not even regulars), since in my experience, they always want more.
And the 'I don't have a phone" line, it's just too lame. Most of them know I'm lying, and I don't wanna be rude anyway.
What do you do in those situations? Of course I'd like to keep them as regulars, but I just don't wanna have any type of contact with them outside the club.
Thanks in advance
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Scroll down in the forums a bit this has been discussed recently.
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First you need to be aware of what constitutes assertation for prostitution in your area. In some places giving out any contact info to a customer can get you arrested. I have seen it happen to.
Secondly , you should never do anything that is beyond your comfort level even if it is trading contact info with customers.
Now if it isn't illegal and you do decided to trade info I suggest either a website where you have a blog and a schedual of when you are working or business cards with a prepaid cell phone number on it. You want to use the pre paid variety for your safety, so it ca't be traced to your personal info.
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I'd rather hear "no" than some bullshit answer. My ego doesn't bruise that easily, and I'll still buy dances.
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Originally Posted by Hef
I'd rather hear "no" than some bullshit answer. My ego doesn't bruise that easily, and I'll still buy dances.
You're a rarity. Keep that in mind.
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I just laugh and act surprised and say something like, "But you just met me!" If they get really persistent to the point that it becomes irritating, I tell them my boyfriend wouldn't like it. They usually let up after that.
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No no no....you are begging for some "lovelorn" freak to trace your home address through your number, so you can find out what having a stalker is like.
Don't give away the candystore, hon.
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I give them the Better Business Bureau number.
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Originally Posted by Lilith
You're a rarity. Keep that in mind.
Not that rare. Who want's to be led on or lied to? "No" or "No Thanks" is direct and not mean, its just an answer to the question.
I think if you make up something, most guys will be thinking: 'At least that wasn't a NO' and keep trying.
My .02
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This has been covered in Hustle Hut - you may want to check there for possible solutions. ;D Just a heads up :)
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I'm curious about this as well. What if you said, "I'm a lesbian?"
But would a customer appreciate you more, or would he kind of resent you?
I guess if you said, "I have a girlfriend," and said you were bisexual then it works. I dunno. I'm bisexual.
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This is kind of a touchy subject... some guys can respect honesty while others simply don't want it.
I personally am not too comfortable about going out with guys from work. I'm just very busy and am selfish about what little free time I have to spend with my boyfriend. What I do instead is inform them I am busy but offer up an email address which I have set up specifically for work. It doesn't contain any personal information and I reply to emails when I want. Plus it gives my regulars a direct line to find out my ever changing scheduale.
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Originally Posted by Kicks
Not that rare. Who want's to be led on or lied to?
So you expect me to believe that men goes to the strip club in the fervent hope that they will not be led on. Or lied to.
Excuse me while I laugh myself silly.
Speaking from the position of having been asked out by a few more customers than you (I presume), customers do not want honesty and forthrightness. They want to hear, "Sure, I fuck anything that holds still long enough. Say, are you gonna drop them jeans or what?" Preferably those exact words.
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Originally Posted by Lilith
So you expect me to believe that men goes to the strip club in the fervent hope that they will not be led on. Or lied to.
Excuse me while I laugh myself silly.
Speaking from the position of having been asked out by a few more customers than you (I presume), customers do not want honesty and forthrightness. They want to hear, "Sure, I fuck anything that holds still long enough. Say, are you gonna drop them jeans or what?" Preferably those exact words.
Guess what -- your experience is not all-encompassing. You might believe you know what other people are thinking but in reality, you don't, you only know what they say and do.
I can't believe you are actually telling someone that you know what he wants better than he does.
You are a human being, and so are your customers. Neither dancers nor their customers are one-dimensional cliches. People are complex and they certainly aren't all the same just because you've decided to pigeonhole them with a label.
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Guess what -- your experience is not all-encompassing. You might believe you know what other people are thinking but in reality, you don't, you only know what they say and do.
Guess what - experience counts. What customers say and do has shown repeatedly, to the loud agreement of every experienced dancer on this site, that a dancer who gets "real" and "honest" with a guy and tells him that she's happily married with children and has no interest in a customer as anything but a customer will see his eyes glaze over as he goes looking for someone willing to entertain his fantasy. I've yet to see anyone but a man argue different.
I'll take a stab at repeating myself - just once though, as it's tiresome and anyone who doesn't get it on the second go won't ever get it. I did not tell Kicks what he was thinking. I told him he was rare. We respond accordingly and if Kicks wants to be upset with someone, then he should lay the blame at the foot of all the customers who have made it clear that a gentle "no" is the worst possible answer.
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Originally Posted by Lilith
I'll take a stab at repeating myself - just once though, as it's tiresome and anyone who doesn't get it on the second go won't ever get it. I did not tell Kicks what he was thinking. I told him he was rare. We respond accordingly and if Kicks wants to be upset with someone, then he should lay the blame at the foot of all the customers who have made it clear that a gentle "no" is the worst possible answer.
Actually, you told Hef that he was rare. Kicks is a different person. I know the idea that the people you deal with - whether customers or in another context -- are indivduals, can be a hard concept to entertain but it might be worth the effort.
Kicks is the poster to whom you said: "customers do not want honesty and forthrightness. They want to hear, "Sure, I fuck anything that holds still long enough. Say, are you gonna drop them jeans or what?" Preferably those exact words. You didn't say or imply that you were only talking about a subset of customers. He said Who want's to be led on or lied to? and you responded by saying: Excuse me while I laugh myself silly.
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Originally Posted by tRoUbLeMaKeR
This is kind of a touchy subject... some guys can respect honesty while others simply don't want it.
Exactly.