I'll gently remind them: "This is going to be song 4. Keep going? *nodding head*"
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I'll gently remind them: "This is going to be song 4. Keep going? *nodding head*"
I think my club may be different than some because we generally leave it up to the guy to say "Stop" and remind him every couple songs what he is at. 9 months and I've never been stiffed so I guess my club is lucky. VERY rarely do I get a surprised guy either.
I guess that just rubs me wrong, I like to be honest and straight forward about how many songs we're doing aka how much they owe me. But if it works...
Best thing for getting repeat dances is lots of eye contact and sensual touching of the face, legs, arms, etc. Mimic the physiological traits that occur when you are having sex (heavy breathing, slightly parted lips, very tiny moans when he touches you or you get into a sexy position). Act like he's the hottest guy in the universe. I personally like to pretend I'm on E, and I touch everywhere that's legal. If you REALLY make him believe you are really enjoying yourself and not obvious or mechanical about it, you'll get regulars and tips without even asking.
I think this is what lola said on here, and also what she taught me , (the girl is a GREAT hustler, you can't deny that if you've ever worked with her)
" you don't want me to stop now, do you?" while whispering in their ear with boobs in face.
Lola Rose worked my club, if that's who you mean, and if it is, completely disagree.
But the line is a good one.
a good thing i learned from watching the other girls at work, is this :
after the dance, if theyve said that yes, theyd like to stop, i say "well lets just kick it here for a mintue and chat- ive been dancng for you so i havent gotten a chance to ttalk with you, get to know you" blahblahblah
this way, theyre already with you when the dj announces a special, theyre already n the booth, and they ususally just take the special with you :)
it also makes it easy for the waitresses to get him ot buy me a drink, since were chilling there talking :)
and i dont have to worry about other girls figuring out that this guy has money, is buying dances, because theyre kept away by the fact that were in a booth together talking :)
Not really a tip, but even if he looks bored or broke ask anyways. It's happened that a guy looked really bored so at the end of the song I got up to get dressed and he asks for another. After a couple of those I decided to always ask, regardless of how much fun it looks like their having.
^^^same. I try to look at bored as "needing my entertainment" :)
Glad this thread is back.
I have a tip and a question...
My tip: When I get in the booth with the guy and the next (our first) song has not started yet, I say something along the lines of, "This song doesn't count but I'm going to start anyway." They say, "Cool/ Wow/ Thanks." I say, "Here's where I work for my tip!" *flirty, cute smile* I time it where I'm just teasing them for a few seconds to a minute max. Then when we're all done dancing I ask for a tip with payment. "You owe me $90 and whatever you'd like to tip. Come on sweetie, show me just how much you liked (whatever they complimented me on: smell/ boobs/ ass/ hair." Always works.
Here's my question: Lately with the overflow of broke ass negotiators that have flooded the club, my problem has been in the transition and close of additional dances. Example: dance for guy, just before end of dance I say, "Do you want me to stop?" Normally this is met with a "No. keep going." Or " Just one for me, thanks." Here lately I get 'The Staller". He kinda mulls it over... tells me how much he wants another dance... how good I am... (We are now into the next song)... I put him on the spot, "Yes or no baby, do you want me to stop?"...He doesn't know if he should keep going... I stop and hop away. "Are we done or would you like another dance?" We are always done. And I am left feeling like he got free-ness while I was trying to close sale. Frustrating.
*positioning my ass to be kicked out of HH for posting a tip and being WAY too new to do so*
I can count on one hand the custies that I've only danced ONE song for (I do work days so this isn't the young, drunk, or broke crowd). Thanks to SW - while I'm dancing, I incorporate the heavy breathing, 'lock' eye contact...nuzzling the neck/face...and I always say (really breathing hard near the end of the song right in their ear)..."I don't wanna stop". They will without fail, say, "don't". I let myself get really into the dance and I think they notice.
Rinse, and repeat - until they have no more $$.
*runs like hell*
From DW: "you'd realllllly like another one, wouldn't you?" They almost always say yes
always say the most suggestive form of a sentence, "you wanna keep going, right love?" "you dont want to stop, do you?"
Tips from a semi-n00b:
I ask how it was and they say great good excellent whatever, then I say well I still have a few more tricks in my bag! They always say oh well lets see them! ;D Then after that one I say well lets just see if the third time is the charm why don't we?
I say "Are you having a good time, honey?" about 10 seconds before the song ends. Of course, he says yes, then a few seconds later, I ask, "So you don't want to stop, right?"
This seems to work fairly well for me, but I think how a dancer positions herself is a lot more powerful than any line. I try to be sitting on his lap and leaning back on him, or on my knees between his legs.
What if its a no contact club? how do you get them to buy more than on table dance or vip?
If I can't really touch them or get close.
Like for a table dance Im up 3 feet higher than them, and I can't bend down more than 45* when Im naked or squat.
This is really strange...and some might find it gross but for some reason it works for me. I get hot really really easily and after one song I'm alil sweaty (not disgusting dripping sweat but my skin isnt all soft dry and smooth). I usually lean towards them and whisper in their ear "sorry I'm kind of hot...just kind of worked up as you can tell *giggle*" or "I'm sure you can tell I'm pretty worked up for you" Usually they say "I don't mind" or "I like it, keep going" I'm guessing its because during sex people both get kind of sweaty so when they feel me getting hot and kind of sweaty they think they are getting me all hot and bothered.
Or sometimes I say "I just got started *smirk and eye contact*, lets keep going yea?" I usually smile every once in awhile, it gives it a bubbly flirty feel to it.
yeah, i got this once when i was dancing for - of all people - this seriously gorgeous young guy who was having his bachelor party. after 2 or 3 dances i asked, "do you want me to keep going?" and he looked at me and asked, "do you?" i said, "of course i do! you're really sexy." which was true. and then i took a risk, leaned over, and whispered, "look at every other guy here. you're definitely the hottest guy here, and i know every other girl here is jealous of me right now." it worked. this approach probably wouldn't work with fat/unattractive guys - it would be laying it on too thick - but i bet it would work with most young, good-looking guys.
my club doesn't have a cr, but he did buy me out for the rest of the night, not only to dance but also to talk. when i danced, i'd lean over every few songs and whisper things like, "i don't want to stop! i'm so turned on right now," and, "i think we have a real connection." again, that kind of stuff could border on cheesy, but it worked. AND his friends hired me for a private bachelor party a few days later. score!
another interesting thing i just realized: i just started dating someone who knows that i dance, and when i tell him about grabby/disrepectful customers, he'll be like, "aw, baby, i feel so sorry for you! you don't deserve to be treated like that," and i'll say, "i'm just glad that you treat me well," and he LOVES it. i think he likes to see himself as my protector against the big, bad custies, haha.
this could probably be applied to hustling somehow. a lot of custies say, "you're not like most of the other girls," and i'll say, "well, you're not like most of the other guys." any other ideas of how to play the "protector" card - to make it seem like you want to keep dancing with that custie because you don't want to have to go back on the floor with the other guys?
i will do this to keep a custie, I will say something like "wow, I really love dancing for you! I can tell you're not like the other guys in here, you're such a gentleman! I can tell you actually respect women, blah blah blah." it also works great to cut down on any perverted ideas he may have and wandering hands, b/c he feels inclined to not be like one of those "other guys"
i especially love these three points. i hadn't really thought of it that way before. :O i used to be really bad about asking for additional dances. lately (the last 6mos or so) i changed my attitude from "idk if they Really want to spend the Money" to a Much more positive "they are here, they Want to get dances from sexy ladies. just ASK for one more. Tell them they Should get one more. the worst they can say is no". this change in outlook has really helped me feel better about trying for 2nd and third/fourth/etc dances w/ custies. i've been racking my brain trying to think of clever lines though and i am Super glad i stumbled across this thread. much love!;D