What do you love best about your house mom? What does she provide for you? What three things do you wish she would provide/change? :-*
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What do you love best about your house mom? What does she provide for you? What three things do you wish she would provide/change? :-*
Well our "housemom" is actually or head dj/dancer mgr. So we really don't get the care in that aspect that some clubs/girls get.
But I can tell ya, I wouldn't trade him in for the world!!!!
I've been hired as the house mom/makeup artist/hairstylist at Showgirls SF and I want to rock this job. The girls are all super cool and I want to make sure I have everything they may need or be the person they would need there for them.
I've been house mom in San Antonio but it was completely different. I didn't do anything for the girls and was told by the manager to stay away from them. Huh? Her idea of house mom was running the store at the Palace and acting as a snitch. I quit a month later. Crazy place.
This time it's really different and the girls are depending on me for anything and everything... What are some good tips or ideas?
I used to work at that club and our housemom used to be this cute gay boy. I wonder what happened to him!! I've been a house mom, and it is hard work. If you want advice that isn't banal or cliche, feel free to private message me.
I don't just want to throw stuff out, because i don't know what your experience level is...
have all supplies we might need.
be able to sew.
be nice to the girls.
the nicest think a house mom did for me was lace my boots up on me while did something on my make up becuse i was on stage in 2 songs and had the the bright i dea to change my out fit to do a theme show i could not of pulled it off with out her.
Having been through more housemoms then I care to mention.
Id like to say a house mom that tells the girls to quit being catty would be nice . Since hanging out in the dressing room doesnt make the girls money as is.
having snacks, odds and ends of sprays..hair crap and lotions.
Our house mom keeps a constant updated list of whos on stage when. it's really super helpful.
Best thing my housemom ever did for me was to run out to Barnes and Noble for the midnight selling of the new Harry Potter book. Fought off an eight year old during bookseller's Black Friday so I could have my book. She rocks. (But the wench kept it locked away until the shift was over... dammit. She knows me too well, by god.)
I very rarely use the services of the housemom so I wouldn't be the best to make suggestions but, yes, some snacks, toiletries and such would be the basic requirements.
My advice to you, as a housemom, is bring in good supplies (I've had house moms who brought in like body splash and stuff that was all gross and obviously from the dollar store. Not to be a bitch, but that's gross. Get better supplies, the girls will tip you way more)
Also, more importantly even than good supplies, be a mom!! Really... listen to the girl's problems, never ever ever yell at them, be supportive. My house mom is so cool.... she brushes my hair for me because she knows I think it's relaxing, or she'll put my hair in pigtails... and she always gives me hugs. I like hugs. Everyone needs more hugs.
You don't have to treat every girl like that, but if you can tell that girls sort of want your attention or to be taken care of, treat them like they are literally your kids and you're taken care of them. If they're drunk or whiney, don't get pissed, they probably are just having a bad night and trying to make themselves feel better.
I don't know how big your club is, but if you get a couple girls like me that you baby and take care of (we have a washer/dryer, and mommy even does my laundry for me when I need it, or fixes my outfit! I love her!) you should be set. I usually give my house mom 20 dollars a night ( I don't really use her supplies, other than body splash, I tip her for being attentive and sweet) , and if I have a really good night, I've been known to slip her 40, 60 dollars.. plus when the girls pay her in funny money, I cash it in for her.
I'm a really affectionate person by nature and I like taking care of people and treat everyone like family. My husband thinks it's sort of a problem, but, I never make anyone prove themselves to me at first meet, I apply the golden rule and then, if they're butt-holes, I back off. There is a shower at our club and I have been thinking of having clean towels ready for the girls before or after work. Maybe a little ice box or cooler since the dressing room is so warm and the girls always come back pink-cheeked after a set. I don't know how to sew, really, but I have a kit in case it's needed. Pretty much everything you can think of, I have just sitting out, ready to use. I even have little samples of facial washes, eye creams, moisturizers, shampoos, conditioners and lotions from trips to Sephora for the girls. One of the dancers mentioned she hadn't had a chance to brush her teeth since morning... I had thought about buying Brush Ups or travel toothbrushes but I thought that might be a little much. Maybe not. I've thought about buying t-backs, bra tops, thigh-highs and items like that but the girls range from itty bitty to long, leggy amazon women. Should I buy one of each size or stick with mid-range mediums?
Only if you've never been in the position of entertaining a table where everyone insisted you join them for honey garlic wings and shots before VIP.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aleah
Find the closest adult store - which will hopefully be within easy driving distance - and offer to drive there with a list. That's what our housemom does. Keep spare emergency bottoms in black, two pair and two styles only, as those are the one item most likely to be needed in drastic monthly emergency and the one item sane dancers would never share.Quote:
Maybe not. I've thought about buying t-backs, bra tops, thigh-highs and items like that but the girls range from itty bitty to long, leggy amazon women. Should I buy one of each size or stick with mid-range mediums?
That's friggin' funny, Lillith... And a very good idea.
We really don't have a house mom where I work but I would love to have one.We have one floor manager and one dj that's really good about getting us the things we need and helping us when we need it.
Ive worked at your club - Since Ive decided Hawaii sucks and will be back in Cali in a couple weeks maybe Ill stop by and work at Showgirls a couple nights in Nov... Ill tip ya :)
BTW - when I work with housemoms I tip her out whether I use her stuff or not... esp at that club where you average a take home of $800-$1000 a night whats $10-20 bucks...?
Girl, exactly. I'll keep my eyes open for you Audrey! You won't be able to miss me, I think I am the only house mom in the world with a shaved head... Long story about that but I will say, coloring your hair too much and using a lot of products truly does make your hair break off/fall out. Shaving it to the scalp and starting over is the only remedy. Just have to start over.
My housemon happens to be one of my best friends.She does absolutely everything for me from putting everything in my personal and professional life in perspective for me,to helping me look beautiful.She's wonderful.
^^^^^^^yeah man...........things for a housemom NOT to doQuote:
Originally Posted by velvet
Don't solicit more tips if its not required
Don't be nasty to me if I don't tip u. (Most of the time, I bring in my own flat iron, make up, designer perfume and lotion. Depending on how good ur clothing line is, I might buy an outfit or two.
******Don't be ghetto fabulous.********
A few years ago, I met a girl who said she used to be a make up artist at Score's. She was a customer at a club I was working at outside nyc. Cute, pleasant attitude, her boyfriend bought me a drink and a dance for her-if she was my housemom, I'd tip her well just 'cause she was so down to earth, chill, whateva........but the housemom at that club-this cracked out, low class, old lady who couldn't dress, had ghetto sprays and was always trying to get me to buy something or was a bitch because I wouldn't tip her-forget her. I think I tipped her once, (cuz it wasn't mandatory, she gets paid nightly to be there) she should get over it. This other housemom ALWAYS had a cigarette in her hand, stunk, and looked like she was on drugs all the time. She had one of those husky, hooker, old lady smoker voices too. Yea, she was fired in my book too. So being young, being classy, knowing whats up, or just being courteous and having RESPECT for yourself and others goes a long way too.
Yeah, I am not any of those roller-in-hair-camel-in-hand house moms. It just bugged the hell out of me when these few girls used my stuff all night and them split without a word. I wouldn't care if they just used the deoderant once and snagged a piece of gum or if they needed one of the hot irons for a quick fix... These girls went through half the snacks, most of the body spray and hairspray, smoked half the cigarettes, etc and then never once thanked me, looked at me or tipped me. It's stupid but I felt so totally low. For a split second, I was left there thinking, what the hell did I do? I couldn't have been any nicer? I wasn't pushing anything on them, I leave everything out during the night so it was there at all times. I never hovered, got into gossip, sat on my ass or anything. Oh my lord, has anyone seen this show on TV Guide chanel for Celebrity Look-Alike? I just caught a glimpse. So bad.
The house mom at a club I worked at had a sign above all her products.....
YOU DONT WORK FOR FREE SO WHY SHOULD MAMA!
You will know who freeloades off you fast. Make a note and next time charge them and say " It cost me money for these products and I have not been fairly compensated , it will be a dollar for that.
I love it, you don't work for free so why should mama! That's awesome! I know, my roommate is a really bad tipper, and she gets my goat by never tipping the house mom and also, by tipping everyone else really shitty as well. Including the dj... and then she wonders why she's always on a shitty stage! Some strippers don't understand the rule of mutual reciprocity...
The only people I don't tip out excessively are the management, because they usually don't do shit for me. Sorry, but I don't understand why I automatically owe them money every time I go to VIP, when they don't even seat me, and I always ask my customers to tip them anyway!! But, sadly, I still give them 20-40 dollars each time I go back there ( more if I made like a rediculous amount of money) just so as to not look like a bitch.
The house mom at my club has been there since the club opened. She's really old and all she does is gossip about everyone's buisness and moan and complain about everything. My advice to you would be to not take sides and steer clear of the gossip or you'll "cut your own throat" if you want to get tipped. Of course if you know how to sew you could always sell outfits. My old house mom did that and she made bank from us. good luck.
brandi's advice seems to be right on -- make sure its clear that you KNOW who is using your stuff. leaving a cute little note like that is a good idea -- keeps it light and applicable to everyone (obviously, we girls have enough pressure with high payouts and tip outs -- especially on tough nights). politely reminding girls that know are taking advantage of you is also in your best interest. i would advise NOT leaving out your best, most expenisive, or most likely to be uncompensated things (cigarettes for example). if a girl really needs something she will ask, and by having to see you face to face about something will be a much bigger reminder/incentive to tip out.
i hope the longer you stay the girls will warm up and get to know you and start shaping up. you also might want to casually ask the girls how tipout works for the housemom -- i bet you will get varying answers -- you could probably make an observation/suggestion to whoever you talk to and word may spread. good luck!
in addition:
as far as my relationship with housemothers go, it sounds like you've got pretty much everything down. i usually try to take care of my own basic needs (out of convenience) but what i need H-Mom assistance for are the "emergency" things -- safety pins, bobby pins, needle and thread, asprin, glue, etc. in addition to the basic supplies establishing a friendly relationship (but not overbearing -- we've got work to do!) is probably the next best thing you can do. being positive, greeting the girls, being supportive on very bad nights...when i start to really like a housemom as a person, she always gets better tips -- espeically if i've had a lucky good night when its slow for other girls and i want to compensate for the tips she's surely not getting from them. often if i've had a REAL good night or just a fun time (and the club hasnt gouged me at payout) i get pretty tip happy i'll toss money around to everyone whether i even saw them that night or not -- even if i didn't get my car parked by our valet he gets a little extra sometimes.
not long ago i had a housemom who i thought was downright mean. i was new to dancing, and i certainly tipped her when i used her stuff and sometimes when i didn't. she was never all that friendly though, and at one point started insulting my outfits very loudly and in front of all of the dressing room's inhabitants. these outfits were usually ones that i had made myself (and gotten lots of compliments from both other dancers and customers). maybe she thought she was being helpful but her approach was very condescending. my outfits weren't at all inappropriate -- i still can't see how a "you are NOT wearing that out there" can be taken kindly. i eventually just avoided her and never used her things and i don't think tipped her at all after a while.
Thanks, ya'll. The tips have been very helpful and the girls are really coming around. I thought I may have a problem on my hands at one point last night with one of the girls but it was straightened out and now I don't have as much worry when it comes to making the girls happy. I can't stand it when I try and do whatever I can, be friendly (not fake), be cool and there is still bad blood for no reason. Ya'll are the best and I love my new job. Showgirls SF woo-hoo!
keep in mind they are probley trying you to see what they can and cannot get away with. you are new too. their "territory" and all that BS. i'm sure it will all work out.