An introductory line that puts me at ease
I am a single guy in his early fifties and have been going to clubs for many years. I make a decent living but cannot afford champagne rooms. I stay out on the main floor. I like to get to know a couple of dancers at a club and come to see them regularly. I'm not closed off to other dancers, but because I would rather spend money on my favorites, I tend to turn other dancers down for dances. I'll tip them onstage, though.
I feel modern stripping is partly a sales job, and from the time a dancer comes up to me, she is trying to "close the deal" and get some dances and drinks. If I said yes to everyone, I would be broke. I always refuse politely and in a friendly way. When a girl comes up to me for the first time, I most like when she says, "May I join you, or are you waiting for someone?" If I am waiting for someone, I have a polite out; if I'm not, but you're not my type, I still have a polite out; and if I like you and am waiting for nobody and would like to spend time with you, I can say yes without feeling that I MUST say yes. Because sometimes I might be low on money, and must say no even if I don't want to. (I always use cash, no credit cards.)
This type of opening line also gives the more sensitive dancer an out; if she's the type who takes rejection to heart, when the guy says, "I'm waiting for someone," it is something to ease the grief of an unsuccessful sales interaction. Of course, it could give a guy an out when the dancer might have been successful if she were more forceful--but that's a different customer we're talking about, not me.
I think this opening line works because it gives everybody options. I find that when I feel cornered by a girl, as when she sits down at my table or next to me and just starts talking, unless she is someone I am really attracted to I resent it and almost never get a dance or a drink. One thing I've learned over many years is how to say no...maybe because I'm older and don't tend to fall for flattery as easily; but if I don't have to feel bad about rejecting someone, as when that opening line is used, sometimes I'll say yes to that person at another time.
I've written a lot about stripper-customer interplay elsewhere at , and I mention this opening line as something that has increased my good feeling in clubs, got me spending more money, and smoothed the interactions and soothed the feelings of both myself and dancers. I'm sure it wouldn't work in every situation but it works nicely in the New York City clubs I've been to in recent years. I would be interested in the dancers' take on it.--Sir Cranky
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I think your opening line is great. You are more considerate that most men thinking about the girls feelings that is. If you actually were waiting for a girl ,and I came up to you I'd just be happy you were actually spending $ in the club,even if it weren't for me.
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I'm glad you like that line, Loganlaken. You sound very considerate yourself. I've always thought that when we take other people's feelings into account, our world, inside the clubs or out of it, is a much more pleasant place. And most other dancers don't seem to hold it against me that I come to see my favorites. Although I can't spend a lot of money on all the dancers, I remember to tip them onstage and be friendly. A stranger today can be a friend tomorrow. Have a good day.--Sir Cranky
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I don't think I'll try that. Sometimes when I ask a customer if I may sit with him (and I ALWAYS ask first) he gets this doubtful look, like he really isn't sure. Sometimes I get a simple no, sometimes a yes, sometimes [insert reason for saying no here]. If I provide an "on the fence" customer with a ready-made excuse for saying no, he'll likely take it. I won't have the chance to show him my winning personality and dazzling conversational skills (and later on, my top-notch derriere).
Basically, I'd just make less money if I did this. And I can't have that. ;]
I tend toward over-the-top politeness and friendliness anyway. Anyone who declines my company gets a gentle squeeze on the shoulder, a big smile, and a cheerful "Have a good night!"
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Thanks for responding, guest. I don't think the line I suggested would necessarily work for everyone. Anyway, I think the most important part of the line is "May I join you?" because it is a courtesy. It's really about politeness and friendliness. And would I be correct to imagine that a gentle squeeze and cheerful "have a good night" in the event of rejection could sometimes lead to a dance or drink from that same customer on another occasion, as a result of the good feeling engendered?--Sir Cranky
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I will walk up and say something funny to break the ice. Then ask to join them.
The do you want company line is over done .I always do something crazyas a first impression I am fun.
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I agree with all that's been said.
Here's what I don't care for; I'm sitting in one of the bucket chairs, happen to be looking off to the side and a dancer slides over the side to sit in my lap without asking. If they ask I will most likely say yes unless I'm waiting for someone. But to just take this liberty makes me crazy. I think this is a horrible "introductory line".
Rick
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Originally Posted by Sir Cranky
And would I be correct to imagine that a gentle squeeze and cheerful "have a good night" in the event of rejection could sometimes lead to a dance or drink from that same customer on another occasion, as a result of the good feeling engendered?--Sir Cranky
Absolutely. And even if he never buys a dance from me, hopefully I'll have helped him have a pleasant night so he's more in the mood to buy dances from other girls. When other customers see him having a great time (and spending money), they are more likely to want to do the same.
Boobies and merriment for all!
Sincerely,
The Chipper Stripper
::)
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I think a funny line is a good approach too, Brandi004. A pretty girl who can make me laugh with her is an almost unbeatable combination. Laughter is aphrodisiac to me.
And I agree with you Rick1, about when a dancer slides onto my lap in clubs with those kinds of chairs. It's hard to say no, but I will if I don't want the dance--and in my experience the dancers who tend to use that ultra-aggressive move seem to be the ones who mostly negatively take the rejection. I really prefer clubs where you can sit at tables, around the stage, or on banquettes; it's those "sink into" chairs that are comfy to sit in but not necessarily to negotiate in!
I'm glad my instinct was right about what I asked you, guest. I know that I always remember friendliness, and the day does sometimes come when I get to know somebody I had previously not been interested in. And I like your slogan--The Chipper Stripper!--Sir Cranky