What would you think of us?
Hi everyone,
I wanted to ask a question because I'm always concerned about what other people think of me?
I just started going to strip clubs. I go with my husband and I always try to look as sexy as possible, I wear stuff that I would never wear to a regular club.
We never have girls approach us and we always have to ask the waitress to bring us girls for me. Every girl they have every broughten to me has been so sweet, they sit with us and make me feel really comfortable.
I'm just wondering if we are normal, or weird, or what the girls and staff of the club think of us?
I have a VIP pass at the club we go to and I love it. I just want people there to like me? or at least not think I'm weird? We always try to tip really well and be nice to everyone we encounter.
Just wondering.
Thanks!
Cyndi
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I usually don't approach couples myself because I'm not sure if the wife really wants to be there or if she's just trying to make the husband think she's cool with the whole thing when she's really not. I've encountered quite a few passive-aggressive wives in my time.
But, if the wife is smiling when I dance or pass by, I smile back and start some conversation along the lines of "Hi, how are you. Enjoying the show ?"or something like that to try to guage her level of comfort. If she is happy and continuing the conversation....it's ON! I love dancing for women!
So, no you are not weird. I just try to have some respect for another woman, is all.
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i think its incredibly annoying when girl custies come in trying to "upstage" the dancers by wearing really slutty clothes, and try and dance for their man. if you want to dance for your man, do it at home, not in the strip club where the "proffessionals" are trying to work and make money.
not sure if that pertains to you specifically, but thats the only time im really erked.
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I kind of agree that when a girl comes in wearing really over the top outfits it just looks like she's trying to say "see everyone I can be sexy too". Maybe if you tried just wearing a regular outfit one night and see if it makes a difference. But generally Il always come and chat to the wife/GF and be friendly as long as she looks comfortable being there.
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I'm sorry, I never dance at the clubs, I just sit there with my hubby, I'm not trying to upstage anyone, I just like looking sexy in a sexy environment. a strip club is the only place I feel comfortable dressing like that.
Also, I'm the only one that gets the dances, so I want to look hot for the girls, I'm sure maybe they don't care, but it makes me feel good.
Miss Kristina, I guess this kinda helps explain it a little bit. I'm really just trying to have fun. :( hopefully when the girls get to know us better after we've gone more often they will realize I'm just trying to have fun and I'm nice. I hope?
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GlamourDolll,
Are you trying to pick up a woman in a club? See, the ladies that I know that wear things that are super sexy to the clubs I have been at are the ones that are looking for more action outside the club (usually as in a threesome with their man or something personally, so maybe the dancers are avoiding you because 1. you look like you are trying to out do them or 2. you seem like you are trying to hard to be overtly sexual.
Maybe dressing more conservatively would help but I would also try to initiate conversation otherwise you should just ask for the company of the dancer you would like to talk to. Dancers are more intuned to when someone is hitting on them (or looking for something OTC) because they get it all the time in the club.
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i think you should dress however the hell you want! as long as you're not giving your man a lapdance in front of all the custies or doing anything to take attention away from the girls. but wear whatever you want and whatever makes you feel good.
a lot of dancers don't approach couples for different reasons. i usually will talk to them, if i get a bad vibe then i just tell them to have fun and i move on. a lot of couples have that problem--girls not coming over to them.
i would just continue what your doing, have the waitress bring them over. after a while once they realize you are fun and are (hopefully) spending a little money then they will start to come over themselves i would think. don't worry too much about it, that's just how it is sometimes, it's probably nothing personal.
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Hi Phedre,
I'm totally not looking for anything other than a good time and my husband doesnt even get dances, we just want to have fun.. I like to dress sexy, and I can't wear clothes like I do to strip clubs to normal clubs. I don't mind asking for girls, I guess, I'm just worried about what now I realize is a reality that people might think badly of us. There might even be people on this site that know us... we totally are NOT looking for anything outside the club, although if we make friends that would be great, but we only want to have fun. No threesomes or anything like that, that's not what I'm about.
I actually decided to get ViP at a club that sponsors alot of the same charities that I do with my company. They are really pet friendly, maybe that sounds crazy. I've read up about the owner of the club and I really respect her, and it's a very classy place.
The fun for me is dressing sexy and being sexy in a sexy environment, there is alot of things about strippers that I love and would want to do, but I'm just not at a place in my life where I could, I own a company now and spend 55 hours a week working, but I still want my pole in my house, and I love the idea of it.
I guess I will just have to hold out for hope that the people at (the only club we go to) will hear about us, and that we're good people and will not think bad of us. :(
cyndi
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Once you become known in the club, it will be easier for you. I personally have done most of my girl lapdances with women I met in the ladies room! For some reason, it is easier to strike up a convo away form the noise and crowd, and then wehn I see them on the floor,it is easy to stop andsay hi and chat for a bit.
So maybe if you start up a normal convo with a dancer away from your hubby, then it will be easier for that dancer to come see you later.
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I could careless what a customer wears as LONG as they aren't attempting to take over the dancers job.
as far as couples go. I make most of my money with couples. BUT let me add what NOT to do ( as far as couples are concerned. )
I think it's bullshit that most women custys think they are allowed to grope, act up and get out of line because they are women.
or women that wear no panties with their skirts, yet want you to dance for them and keep trying to hike it up so everyone and their brother can see.
They'll attempt get you to come back and do a three some after work...
Personally, i have found women customers outragous and usually disrespectful. The only ones that typically aren't are usually dancers in other clubs.
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I can see and have, many ladies who do not work the club i did coming in dressed super sexy! I LOVED these women, to me it looked as though they are up for a good time, easy to approach!!!
However..in south Fl. you get your share of women coming in dressed super sexy and they are escorts for example. That could be the message alot of dancers are getting.
To me it was an invitation to chat! A women who dresses super sexy in a club to me meant she was up for a dance perhaps. Did not mean i would approach her, but she looked like she belonged! It fits the atmosphere to me!
If a woman is hitting on customers.....out of her territory. Other than that, it's cool!
Pamela
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If you are dressed super sexy and tipping at my stage, I will do my best to get you toppless. I've seen more ameture boobies then the "Girls gone wild" crew! On a busy night at the strip club, this will not only get you gobs of attention, but will get me gobs of dances from other customers for getting you out of your clothes.
I'm sure the other dancers hate it when I do this, but it is legal for women to be toppless in public here in Oregon, so it is no more of a problem then if a guy had his shirt off (legally speaking). Frequently, bachelorette parties will come in looking for me, just so I can get the lady of the hour out of her clothes on her "last night out".
I never cross the line, though. If the girl really is uncomfortable with getting toppless, I will push a little, but in the end I'll let it go instead of forcing the issue. I want everyone to have fun, and now she can go home and say "Can you believe that stripper thought I was going to take my clothes off?"
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Yeah, what they all said - usually ( Unless I know them) I wont approach a couple, as I don't want any trouble with the woman getting jealous or whatever. Perhaps after you go to the same club a few times and make friends with a dancer or two there, they ( the dancers ) will be more receptive to you.
As to the way you dress, wear what you want, I like to look at a pretty, well taken care of girl too! ;)
Miss R
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I didn't mean to say that you shouldn't dress sexy, I agree that you should dress well, I do whenever I plan on going to a SC, because it makes me feel more feminine.
I honestly think that the dancers are just not sure what category they should put you in since you may look like a threat to them but at the same time they probably just don't know how to approach you, that's why I suggested initiating the conversation. Start with something easy like, "Would you like to come sit with us for a few minutes?" Chat her up about her night, if she'd mind dancing for you, mention if your hubby just wants to watch or if she is just going to be dancing for you. Don't forget to tip her for her time if you choose not to get a dance from the dancer you ask.
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before i started dancing i use to hang out at strip clubs all the time.... i dress sexy regardless if im in a regular bar or a strip club... i think its dumb that dancers would get jealous of regular patrons... its not like a customer is going to screw up someone's money that night.. i think a women dressed up sexy will only help the dancer to get more money when their man sees his s.o... getting a sexy dance from her.... i always get into it more with girl customers that look hot.. it makes it more enjoyable to give a dance.
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I definitely think you should dress how you want to. Generally I steer clear of couples in the club until I know whether she really wants to be there. Too many nasty/unhappy women have come in.
I doubt this applies to you, but generally you'll only annoy the us if you talk to us like we're idiots, or you get trashed and get obnoxious. As I said, I doubt thats you, but, just letting you know.
Next time you go, instead of asking the waitress to get a girl, try this: When a girl you like walks by, if she makes eye contact, say "hi, i loved your show'. Any respectable dancer will start talking to you, and that way you make it clear that you want to be there.
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I think it's adorable when women come into the club and get all drunk and freaky, especially if I can make some money out of it! I'm just happy they're not one of the "long-faced" women... you know that face some of the lady customers make when they are completely disgusted and really want to leave but are willing to suffer through the experience for their man... Anyway, strip clubs should be a place where EVERYONE can explore their fantasies... not just men.
As long as you follow the club rules, i.e., wearing panties if you're going to get a lapdance, not aggressively groping the dancers, not trying to distract the customers... I really don't see why you shouldn't make your strip club experience your own.
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Okay here is a prime example of good and bad female patrons.
Good :: they come in ..tip on stage...drink and have a great time. Same as the men. In other words they dont expect or demand seperate treatment. Even the couples that come in. These are the ones I will approach etc.
Bad :: A drunk ass girl that just has to climb on stage every 10 seconds ..take her shirt off and give whom ever lap dances around the club. She screams..hollars anything to get attention. She doesnt tip. She probably wont remember why shes there. And guys quit tipping me on stage because they are too busy watching her.
Good couples: The ones that come in ...classy. Drink ..have fun and watch each other get dances. They aren't handsy, rude or asking to fuck you later. ITs all in great fun and they are interesting to talk to.
Bad couples :: The woman either gets insane when the guy gets the dance. OR begins touching herself, touching all over you... attempting to kiss you. trying to shove your head in there, tugging on your hair exteremly hard etc.
The club I work at now the women aren't allowed to get on our stage, they aren't allowed to get topless and they are treated just the same as men that come in. NO TOUCH allowed. and it does help. We get the classier couples. But there is that occasional drunken skirt wearing , wandering hands chick.
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FYI if you are talking about the lodge, in my opinion it is not much of a hustle club. If you are vip we are instructed, when hired, not to bother you unless you talk to us first. Lots of girls ignore this i am sure, but it can mean our job. If you are sitting in the main area, you may get more girls coming up to you. If you are in vip pick a girl and ask her to join you, she can not just come up to you in vip.
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IMHO, I go up and ask the lady if they want some company, so that they feel like the girl really wants their imput, and it's also a pretty good gauge whether or not the gal wants to be there so I know one way or the other whether to come back or not.
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I wouldn't worry about it, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong, you sound like a good customer - dress sexy if you want to. I dress like a stripper regardless of whether I'm at work or not, it shouldn't offend anyone. If you're comfortable stick to it!
Some dancers are just abit uncomfortable with female customers period - they should get over it as the number of women going to clubs is growing not shrinking.
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This thread question http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=57696 is why some girls stay away women customers.
I don't think that you were behaving like this chick but that is why a lot of dancers avoid women customers.
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Why do you ask for a girl to come sit with you if you say you never buy dances? Maybe they don't like you because they think you are wasting their time?
Also, I have a question for you.
Why do you dress slutty / sexy, go to stripclubs, and feel like you REALLY want the strippers to like you? Do you do this to please your husband? Do you hope you can pick-up a stripper for you and your husband, to take home?
Have you put any deep thought into what your behavior may mean?