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Dumbest Move I've ever made...
About 2 months ago, I quit my corp job to pursue my private dancing full time while I got back in school. BIG MISTAKE! After quitting my job, the amount of shows the company received dropped dramatically. Alot of the dancers said that this was typical with the slow season....
So I'm bummed the hell out. No one at the agency knows I quit my job (basically if they know you need them you're f$%^ed) so I continue to act as if I'm still there.
So many things have been going on down there lately. I've had more than a few :lamp:moments! For example, last month..our gas/electric got cut off. 3 weeks ago, our phone was off! they were only off for like 2 days or so but STILL!!! With the amount of money we made through the summer, there is no reason for this. Then, most recently (as of yesterday) the landlord came to the office cause we hadn't paid rent!!! :O
This company is going down hill so fast! The owner isn't even active in his own company. He is down south helping with the hurricane victims. Nothing wrong with that...but he's been down there since the BEGINNING! He spends $100/night on his hotel room.
We're supposed to have a meeting today to "turn the company around" I feel like this. This is not my dam company. I'm an independent contractor. It's not my job to bring people here!! I'm so frustrated. I talked to one of the drivers who I actively work with. He's offered to take me out to some clubs. All I gotta do is give him $10 for gas ;D which is cool as hell cause all of the clubs in the area (strp clubs are illegal in Cincinnati) are about 30 minutes away.
WTF you guys?!!!!!!!!!!! >:(
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I'm sorry you are going through this.I have made less than intelligient choices this year too.I wish you the best.
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Cinnamon, I'm so sorry. I hope things turn around for you soon.
Sounds like the club-shopping is a good idea. Try reading around the old posts around SW to find out where the best place will be to spend the Xmas and New Year season. I imagine you get a lot of business travel around Cincinnati and they're usually good customers, so there's hope there. Best of luck.
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So sorry to hear about this....
Did you say strip clubs are illegal in Cincinnati??I had no idea...wow...
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That sucks. Are there any other companies in town? And I'd recommend going to a club. 1/2 hour can't be too bad a drive if it means making some money - you can always start pulling longer shifts to make it worth it.
I sure hope things turn around for you soon though.
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Like we have spoken about. Try out Cheeks.
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Have you ever considered cocktail waitressing or bartending? Lie and say you have experience. I mean, I do bartend and cocktail sometimes, and the money is always good. It's not going to be stripper money, but it should prolly be 100 dollars a night at least somewhere nice so.... I don't know how much money you need, but maybe that would help for a while?
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Sorry to hear this hun :( Are you still going to try the new club? You might have better luck going out on your own rather than working with an agency. I'm sure you'll bank, girl!!
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^^^Everytime I post, I swear you are right there ;D
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Originally Posted by rusdancer
So sorry to hear about this....
Did you say strip clubs are illegal in Cincinnati??I had no idea...wow...
I appreciate everyone's responses so far. Yea, it's pretty crappy around here.
rusdancer: Yea, they are illegal. We have zoning laws preventing adult venues (dam conservatives)
Kryssy: Yes, I think I will attempt to try Cheeks out too. I'm going to run that idea with the driver. 45min isn't that bad, but hey he is the one driving me.
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Hindisght's always 20-20. Your decision would've only been dumb if you'd known the party biz was going to take a dive. You couldn't have known so you were making a good decision at the time. Sometimes things happen beyond our control, and all we can do is make adjustments to improve our lot with the current situation.
That said, it does suck ass to think you could've still had a steady paycheck and benefits now, but this isn't attributable to any bad decision or stupidity on your part. If there's another party company in the area, I'd probably check that out and then take the driver up on his offer to go to the clubs. It might also be a good idea to look into another corp job just in case.
I hope things get better soon!
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Did you do that Wed. contest ? I know you keep meaning to so I was wondering. If not I think you should go for it.
Remember, you are an IC and that limits loyalty to this private show company. You work with them. Not for them !
Sending ya some :goodvibes:
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[SCREAMING] The phucking saga continues!!!!
So I go into the meeting tonight. Supposed to start at 7pm, I get down there at 6:45pm. NO ONE is there! So I stand out in the cold waiting. The owners best friend/spy (shit he isn't even an employee) comes and opens the door. We head up...
Fast forward...
Phone rings, guy wants a girl. Since I'm the first there, I get first dibs. He wants me, so I let the "spy" know that I need a driver to take me out there. Show is 10min away! So, I sit, and listen in on the meeting. About 20 min pass. I calmly walk over to spy and say, "hey were you able to get me a driver" Spy says, "Just listen in on the meeting, the show can wait" So I'm like WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This company always complain that girls are moving there ass to slow to get to a show. This bastard doesn't even offer to drive me to the show (neither do the other dancers) fuck those hoes anyways....The guy keeps calling the agency asking for me. The "spy" tells him "oh sir she's in traffic, she's on her way" When I'm freakin sitting here looking at this bastard lie in my face!
*So much crap happened tonight with that meeting..but I"m gonna keep it about me.*
So, meeting is now over. It's now 8:30pm (mind you this guy called around 7:15pm) The phone guy doing the meeting asks me if I'm ready to go to the show, that he will just take me. I could've snapped!!!!!!!!!! I just told him that I can't stand to be in this place, with that (the spy) guy anylonger. I said I'm going home.
I really didn't want to go home, but the "spy" is a major thorn in my ass. It's not easy to say, "oh just ignore him" cause he's a total asshole. I can't take being in that hell anylonger!!!!!!! I'm almost to the point of tears.
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I'm sorry you are going through this Cin:( I am trying to find some worthwhile advice to give.... I am wondering now though, does this mean you quit the agency??
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sorry to hear this cinnamon baby... :hug:
it's easy to beat up on yourself when things don't go how we thougth they would go...trust me...i know from experience. it seems to me that you should look into other opportunities.
believe that things will get better and they will. you'll get through this one.
:)
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Thanx girl! I don't like to go on what others tell me..but I heard through the grapevine that they "FIRED ME" ( and from past situations with other dancers I believe this is to be true.) Whats' fucked up is that no one has called me to say anything. The "spy" has so/so english so he called my HOUSE (yes I was pissed) and left a message stating, "Hi, this is _______ just wanted to let you know that you don't have to come into work tonight, the show has been covered" <-----So maybe that is their way of "firing me"
Oh well, it's their loss right guys? I guess they wanted to get the last word by "firing me" but I could've sworn that I left them...
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... no wonder I ally myself with a few agencies not just one. Plus I do always keep the option open to work in a club (just tell the agencies that I'm not available for those dates).
At the same time, what about lingere/topless waitressing? Don't any of the agencies around your area offer this service (since stripping seems to be illegal)?
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Hey GCG, see the problem with that is the agencies in my area are all SUPER cutthroat! You cannot work at more than one establishment at the same time. It's in the contract. If you decide to leave the company, you can't even work at another agency within a 50mi radius for a year!!!!! BUT if you are fired, like I was then I can go wherever I want.
I think I may try my luck at dancing at a club. If anything I'll go back to private dance in a year. I really do think I will make more in a club though. Just gotta spend more time in Hustle Hut!
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If they fired you hon you should take it as a blessing in disguise. Things often happen for a reason. It sounds to me like mother nature is def. tryting to tell you to move on to something bigger and better.
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Yup, tha's how I felt as well. It just hurts because the new phone guy and me were so cool. But over the last few weeks, he was slowly starting to change. For example, he is white, I'm black. His wife is black. When the other dancers found out about his wife being black...they started talkin behind his back saying "phone guy caters to the black girls" blah....how un-true is that. I honestly think he got tired of hearing this (they were running back to the owner and tellin him this) from the owner and decided to prove them wrong.
Anyways, trust me Taryn it was a wake up call. I was doing so good, just sittin in my corner reading my book/magazines ALONE! Then I started to actually think I could make "friends" with this guy. Nope, never again. I've now learned that the saying is true. YOU CAN'T TRUST NO DAM BODY IN THIS BUSINESS!!!!! >:(
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CK, I agree, everyhthing happens for a reason. You can definately make $$ in a club. Change breeds new oportunities! Good luck, Lo
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I like that Logan, "change breeds new opportunities" I'mma have to use that.
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Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
YOU CAN'T TRUST NO DAM BODY IN THIS BUSINESS!!!!! >:(
HOW TRUE IS THAT?!?
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Cinnamon Kisses, just hold your head up and stay focused. I personally don't like that agency business.
I would try to get hired in any club you can get hired in ASAP. The ones in Kentucky you say are only 30 minutes away. Even if you work 5 nights (as long as there are no schedules and you can work as much as you want) and make $100-$125 a night after tip outs you should be able I assume to cover what you were able to pay at your old job.
Once you do that have you thought about going to Indianapolis to work where there are lots of clubs? You could get an extended stay suite there for $200 of less a week, and should be able full time to make $1000-$1500 a week if you hustle hard, more after you take the DW class.
I've had to move around to different areas until I found niche clubs that offered me more stable income.
Being black you will get some hiring runaround that white dancers with your attractiveness won't get, but I think you can get on your feet rather quickly if you set your mind to changing, and get hired SOMEWHERE NOW. Don't be picky about the club. A mediocre club that will let you work 5-6 nights in a week should earn you what you were making in your job, right? That will be enough to pay your rent, next months rent, and have money for a nice Thanksgiving, won't it?
The type of clubs nearest to you I assume are places that are kind of modest looking, where the dancers get decent stage time, have low tip outs, and can sell a few dances a night, right?
You can do it if you get on it now.
I wish you the best. Let us know how you do.
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I love you Tina :'( You always know just what to say. I was trying to keep it a secret buy what the hell.
I'm going to audition at Deja Vu tonight. It's located in Batavia, Ohio 30 min outside the city limits. That is the closest club. Or there is Concepts in Lawrenceburg, Indiana which is also about 30min away. The clubs in northern KY work on basically drink commissions. They aren't allowed to get nude/topless (NOTHING) just get drink commissions. Plus, they do extras to make more money. So nah, I'm not trying to go down there.
I actually have considered going to Indianapolis to dance. I want to get there once I get some experience under my belt. Get my hustling game down pat, then I'll be set!
I actually made a post on SCL asking someone to tell me how many black/hispanic girls they got working @ Deja Vu. Just my luck, only 2 black girls, 1 hispanic girl, and 1 asian girl. So that is a plus for me!!!
I'm not even worried about that agency anylonger. Shit, I don't care how many ads they put in the paper. They can hire 10 black girls for all I care, but I betcha won't none of them look half way as good as me. Now, that's a fact, and I aint conceited LOL.
I'm getting on it now Tina, I promise. I'm so excited!!!!! I can't wait to fill you ladies in on my night. :D
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CK, if they fired you - FUCK 'EM. It's just that extra kick in the booty you needed to get out on your own. You are going to be just fine and you know you have your support circle when times get hard.
Anyway, how was Deja Vu???