Is anyone actively in recovery and stripping? if so for how long and how does it work for you?whats the hardest thing about it? your responses will help out so much :-* . thank u
Gia
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Is anyone actively in recovery and stripping? if so for how long and how does it work for you?whats the hardest thing about it? your responses will help out so much :-* . thank u
Gia
It isn't hard for me to turn down drinks from customers--Sometimes they're actuallly kind happy and surprised that I don't drink. But it's hardest for me when all the girls are doing a shot and offer me one to join in on the group.
You know, the bad thing about a recovery program is,
damn, they put you in a room, all by yourself,
and that is it.
No television, no radio, not even a window to
look at the outside world.
Similar to being in jail.
You got nothing to do.
You get so bored, you about to kill yourself.
But no, you don't want to do that.
So, what do you do?
You get with a bunch of people and talk.
Talk, talk, and talk.
Eventually,with everybody talking,
whatever the hell problem they had,
they talk themselves out of it.
Yeah, but it is not that easy.
At least they become self concious of it..
And then the curing process can then begin.
At leat. again, that is the way theory works.
I went for eight weeks.
I made it, but I almost felt like I was losing my mind.
But it made me become interested in the medical field.
Oh, yeah, during my time i was alway hungry.
Hungry, hungry, for food, real food, not the kind of krap
they served.
And sex, I mean sex. I don't know what it is about
rehabs, I have done it more than once, but it make me
so damn.........well, needful.
Well, my nickle. Good luck!!
I no longer drink and as a dj it was kinda hard for a while because ya have to portray the party like a rockstar image...so what I would do is cheat...if a customer wanted to buy me a shot...I would order a shot of Jack Daniels, the bartender would then pour me some flat coke from a bottle reserved only for me...no one ever knew the difference. For vodka, shots of water.
I'm definitely only a social drinker and there's times when I just don't feel like it. Why is it that others "push" it on you? I'm sure you've come across them.
"Whaddya mean you don't wanna drink"
"Come on, party pooper"
Etc, etc, etc......
Good luck with your recovery. And ignore people like those I mentioned above.
girlnew--- I was in a recovery program for 4 months :O it did drive me crazy after a while. Im out now and I just started dancing again. Parents dont agree. I duno what to tell my dad im doing if im going to be working nights....anyways thx for all your replys :)
Gia
I dont drink while I work... if I do its only one or two drinks in the whole night. Guys try and buy me drinks I just say 'no I dont like to drink while I work, I like to stay sober' I think i've only had one guy argue this with me finally I just said 'how attractive is it to have a stripper falling over herself when shes walking around the bar' the guy just kinda looked and me and said 'your right im sorry'. Most guys are understanding. If they try and push it on you just ignore them. Or set up a system with the bar tender. Order a jack and coke or vodka and 7 and just have the pop, no shot.
Good luck!
Rox... a lot of clubs make you order if a customer wants to buy you a drink. A lot of clubs will have a 'fake drink' we have a couple at the club im at. So you just order a fake drink. Or if you notice a new bartender tell her about your fake drink. Or set it up with the waitresses working. If you dont have to then its not an issue. But we have to at my club and I know a lot of other ones have it as well. I guess whatever works for you. I have had customers who get upset if I say I dont drink.
Gumdrop,
I am a lowly sc patron, but I have been sober 5 years and close to 9 months and it can be done if "you do not want to go back there". I do not envy you being around it so closely but as other people have said, some custies like not having to worry about an dancer reeking of booze or worrying about dancers throwing up on them. I have known bartenders and bar owners staying sober if they want it bad enough.
Hang in there. A few ideas. Keep a short list of meetings available near the place during your work hours or have a cell phone to call someone if things feel bad. Consider talking to your boss about being able to cut out for 2 hours (with a makeup later) if you feel the pressure starting to get to you. A $50 buck fine is not that bad as opposed to having to go through the first days of sobriety all over again. Most bosses would rather have you there 99% of the time and decent as opposed to 50% of the time and unreliable or wasted.
Another possible approach is to go to a meeting right before you go to work so your head is on straight and you are feeling good before you hit the floor to work. Just keep reminding yourself where you have been and do not want to go back to. For the first 3 months I held by breath driving past the liquor store on the way to meetings, but seldom gave it a thought driving home past the same store. Talk to the folks you meet who have alcohol-proximity histories for tricks. Good luck!
i have been clean for 1 year now.yay! it's so hard because now rejections get to me more because i didnt care when i was high. my sponser is an ex stripper so that helps immensely. try to find the same. it takes time to figure out a hustle sober and i burn out really easily. but the great thing is i dont have to spend all my hard earned money on that crap anymore.
This is an old thread, I know, but from reading other posts here and trying to master the etiquette of this forum, I don't want to start another one. I'm in recovery too (2 years today) and have just started dancing again about a month ago. I have no problem telling customers that I don't drink and I have yet to have anyone say anything negative about it. In fact, a few tell me they feel better about giving me their money because they know I'm not throwing it away, and that they'd rather buy dances than drinks. I've come up with some creative ways to steer questions about why I don't drink back to making them want a dance (in large part thanks to this site)
Also I am doing my best to order more non alcoholoic drinks so at least the waitresses get tipped.
I used to think that I needed to get drunk to do my job, but now that I'm sober I realize that my drinking and partying was actually getting in the way of me making money. At the end of the night when many of the other girls at my club are drunk and tired, I'm still alert and ready to pounce. I wake up with a clear head and I'm keeping track of my money like I never did before.
I still haven't told my sponsor about what I'm doing because I don't want the judgement but I have friends and family who are being supportive. It would still be nice to have another dancer who is in the same situation to talk to about recovery related things, but so far I haven't met any girls at my club who don't drink.
So if there's any other girlies out there who are in the same boat, I would love to meet you and find out how you manage to work a program and dance at the same time. I've heard the thing about going to the barbershop a million times, but I think it's still possible to dance and stay sober. Call me crazy, or stupid, or both, but it's working for me right now.
avacheetahs- well done!! 2 years is awesome!
i dont know what people go thru who are/were alcholics, but as a clean drug user, i know it can be damn hard when your in the enviroment day in and day out to say no. im at almost 10months and still feel an urge every now and then.
alcohole must be a tough one, cos its not like you can say no and leave the area!
I've danced AND bartended for years and years without drinking, both with and without a program. (Easier WITH, most definitely.) I think it's entirely individual, and I also think that you have a gut feeling when you need to cut out. But drinking is everywhere, and at least in bars you can look around and see some people who are drinking and miserable and remember that it's not benign. I find it much tougher not to drink when there's a bottle of wine when I'm out to dinner with friends, than when some unpleasant person is nagging me to drink with them. Or to walk by beers in a convenience store on a hot day. In a bar, I've already got my no-drinking head on.
Well said. I am curious, did anyone at your home group know what you did? Was it difficult? I don't think I will be able to tell anyone, but it kind of bugs me to keep a secret.. since you hear all the time about secrets keeping you sick. Just curious.
Clean and sober for like 18 or 19 years now, been working in strip clubs for about 16 (since 1989 or 90)
Sorta weird since it goes against everything they teach you in programs and rehab but who knows. Sometimes I wonder if seeing all these crackheads and lush fools has just coderized my decision to stay away from that stuff, I dunno
-E
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My money went way up when I quit drinking, just so you know.