How can I keep perv entertained?
Okay so I've had this icky old man customer for almost 2yrs now. The past 6 months we go to VIP for champagne (which is good b/c it's hard to handle him sober). He's real frisky and would probably be better off with an extras girl. I asked him about this, he knows who they are and what they do but insists on me b/c I'm a "sensual lady". Funny since he does'nt treat me like one >:( He has whipped it out, tried getting me to touch it etc. I feel as though I've run out of ways to distract his nastiness and keep him entertained. He pays quite well, for that I wish to keep him. Any ideas?? He's coming in to see me tomorrow. Just FYI our VIP is by the hour, no dancing while we're drinking...I drink for 1hr. then dance for 1hr....and he does'nt drink at all :P Thanks for the help!!
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Tickle him with a feather. Then ask him if he wants to get "spicy" & if he says yes, jab him with the quill end. LOL
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As long as he is giving you money he is entertained. It sounds like your fed up with his very ungentlemen like behavior. Sometimes I hate being a man when I here of guys pulling there dick out like this....very disrespectful.
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Have you tried flat-out telling him that if he wants a "sensual lady," then he has to treat you like a sensual lady? Add that if he wants to act like he's with a whore, then you will find him a whore, but if he wants a lady then he will have to show respect worthy of a lady.
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I had the same type of thing happen to me. I think there are some men who kinduv get off on making you feel uncomfortable, or "bashful" as my old bat pevert used to put it. It might be a lighter form of S&M in a way, him disrespecting you is almost a form of control. Just a thought.
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Originally Posted by ReleaseTheBats
I had the same type of thing happen to me. I think there are some men who kinduv get off on making you feel uncomfortable, or "bashful" as my old bat pevert used to put it. It might be a lighter form of S&M in a way, him disrespecting you is almost a form of control. Just a thought.
This is what came to my mind... I dont think its about extras... I think its about seeing how far he can go or something like the above... Id flat out tell him.
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Maybe I have been to kind to him. When he pulled it out on me my response was "ooh no please don't do that it's just too tempting, you know I can't do that sort of thing" or something to that effect. :D Just needed him to put his shriveled snake away!! Gross, but as I said before he does pay well. These days it's kinda hard to expect respect in the club. Too many cheap extras girls have set the bar way low :( Thanks for the answers please keep em coming!...no pun intended!
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You gave him the wrong answer. You gave him the hope that you may "play" with it or something because of the words you chose to use in that situation. Next time be really offended.. show him you are offended.. do not giggle or play nice.. say straight forward that whilst you love spending time with him that doing what he just did is highly disrespectful of him towards you.. and you would prefer him to not do that in future.. if you do.. you WILL leave. The next time he does it.. leave.. yes it will cost you $$ however if he really likes you over all the other girls.. he will get his act together and not do it again (as you followed up your words with action - same thing you would do with children).
In the end, whilst he does pay you well for your time you have to ask yourself is he really worth it? If you want to be doing this work for awhile and not be screwed pscychologically for it... always choose your sanity over money... PLEASE. If he is dis-respectful to you and your boundaries that you have established with him repeatedly you must end that 'relationship'. No money in the world is worth your sanity.
At the end of a night, I would rather go home relatively happy than feeling disgusted with myself due to having sacrificed my self-respect or sanity or what-have-you for a couple hundred dollars.
:)
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I have a regular like this. Fortunately, he is physically very respectful. He just likes to talk very VERY dirty. Truth be told, I'm not easy to shock, but I pretend, since this is what he wants. Maybe if you pretend to be more upset than you are by his milder perversions, he will get the same thrill of "shocking" you, without you actually having to experience anything gross.
Or you could just tell him to stop. Stop being charming, say no very firmly and stay firm until you know he gets it, then immediately go back to being giggly and sweet. This way he associates his behavior with the fun stopping.
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I had a customer like this. I basically just came to terms with the fact that when I danced for him, I was going to spend the next hour of my life fending off his octopus tentacles, I mean, hands. Mostly, I just teased the shit out of him. If he got too frisky, I would stand up and do a little dance a few feet away from him like he wasn't even there and be like, "what, I thought you liked my dancing!" when he complained.
Basically, just find creative ways to use up as much time as possible. Undress sloooowly. Make up some bullshit hobbies that you absolutely must tell him all about, considering that the two of you are such good friends. The "friends" thing is also excellent for counter-blackmail when he gets too grabby.
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I've NEVER pulled out my dick in a strip club...and I can't say that about many other places!LOL! I just can't believe men do this. More power to the girls that don't quit right then and there.
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Next time you dance for him and he starts to become forceful like this.....just say NO! Tell him he cannot do that ! If he keeps on and on then i would tell him you are going to leave if he continuees.......if he doesn't behave then and your uncomfortable with his advances then leave.!!.............you do not have to put up with that no matter how much money you think he has.This job is hard enough as is.Who knows you could meet another big spender,maybe even bigger, right after you leave this guy that is trying to get extras from you without your conscent........if you feel like your being forced into something you don't want to do and he is being too forceful and outta hand..Don't sit there and go through all that,tell him no and if he doesn't stop that then........... WALK AWAY!!!!!.
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Believe me I hear what you're saying but while a few of my girlfriends walked with $150-200 I left with $900. That's hard to let go. I did manage to keep him in check. I filled our time with food, dances with other girls, stories etc.. Thanks for the support everyone! I'm so glad to have found this site! :)
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pull his belt off and tie his hands up
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Good one Neve!
I had a grabby Gus like that before, and that's what I did. I told him if he wanted to act like that, I'll get down and dirty with him. So he whipped the willy out, and I made him put it up and tied his hands above his head to the grab bar. He was mad for a little while but he realized that he can't do that crap and get away with it. Now he's a very good custy very respectful and such.
Maybe you just need to treat him like a child for once and see what happens.
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He's your star custy so this is what you do.......you put his hands to use........play a game or two of pool...a few bucks a ball.when that get's old go back to vip.... and have a drink......move to the vip room and try to actually work the room a little.......when you feel as though you cant take it anymore.......say oh babe i have to go pick my music, or hey babe i have to go change o, i have to talk to someone........EXcuses...are the tools of the trade....atleast in this situation they are