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Would you dance for an acquaintance?
I was just wondering about some of y'alls views on dancing for people you met out side of the club?
If an old employee you new a year ago walked into the club, recognized you, and wanted a dance, would you do it?
Are there certain circumstances where you would or wouldn't dance for someone you know/knew?
Like maybe give a dance to a gal you once knew but not a male or vice versa?
I'm just worried that this delima will happen sooner or later and i'm not sure what i would do if someone i knew was trying to give me money at my club to dance for them.
Has this happened to anyone before?
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I don't like giving dances to my ex's, but I have and I still will. Most of the time, they just want to go back and have me sit on their lap and talk.
I hate giving dances to rude, smell, or handsy guys.
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Unless the guy was a real prick, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I recently gave my bf's best friend his first lapdance. I steamed it up nice and hot for him, too. ;)
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Originally Posted by Raven Z
I'm just worried that this delima will happen sooner or later
First off, why are you worried about it? And second, I just figure it's $$$ in my pocket for a couple of minutes flying by.
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It would probably only make me uncomfortable if it was one of my professors, but I would still do it, $ is $.
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I dance for friends and co-workers (past and present) all of the time. It doesnt really bother me.
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Id just dance for who ever I knew. I would make it a kinda cheesy goofy dance though. Meaning I wouldn't go all serious seductive mode dancing for whoever.
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It depends who it is. If it was someone my age, like a classmate or ex-coworker, then no. If it was someone older then possibly. But I would prefer if anyone I know from outside didn't go in my club at all.
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I have often danced for friends and people I know - if it's ok by them its ok by me!
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I danced for a consultant I used to work with at my tech job for his bachelor party in the club. Its was cool. Now, he's going to become my client (negotiating), and refer me to his contacts, for my new business. As long as they are cool ppl outside the club, there should be no problem. But usually I found a way to hide if I saw someone in the club that I knew from the outside world.
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I guess I'm kinda worried because I'm a completely different person in the club than I am out.
I'm a bit shy, reserved, and conservative sexually when in public, and that comes naturally to me.
But when I'm in the club and working I'm the exact opposite. I'm flirty, sexual, have a strong urge to please visually to make the $$ and have a strong sense of what I can only refer to as "customer service". Which I can only describe as my feeling of wanting to provide a proffesional entertaining service for those who seek it.
And the idea that someone I know out of the club could see me like that, much less want a dance from me in that kind of way bothers me. Especially knowing that they know me on a different level of my life that's so different from my work.
The more I think about it, the more I want to keep the two world's seperate. But at the same time I've heard from some strippers that they've gotten a fair amount of money from old friends who found out recently they danced.
So I'm thinking about money vs personal feelings/ethics/or whatever you want to call them.
Katrine, did you dancing for him or him finding out about your job change his opinon about you or change they way you two interact with eachother?
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If it was someone who I didn't care about their opinions very much -- Or someone who had a good sense of humor about it and didn't think the dance and my stripper persona meant anything it didn't -- I'd go for it.
If it was someone who was trying to buy my affections -- or who thought that a private dance from me meant they'd "conquered" me somehow -- no.
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I have no problem. I recently danced for one of my best friends from like 6 years ago and we had a blast with it. I find I can relax more when its someone I know. I danced for an old boss last week... it was kind of akward because I dont really like him a whole lot lol but we had fun. If its someone you dont think you would be comfortable with then just avoid them. Otherwise go for it... look at it this way its just more money for you. Besides they cant think to much about you dancing if they're hanging out in a strip club.
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I wouldn't have a problem giving a LD to a male acquaintance, I don't think I could give a LD to a female acquaintance (I guess it depends on how well I knew her) and I probably wouldn't go into sexy seductive mode either, depending on how well I know the person again. It's money, that's what counts
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Anyone who knows me well is aware I prefer them not to come to my club while I'm working. Others I'm not so close with...ya I'll dance for them, but I too keep it light not really serious or seductive.
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I refuse to dance for my boyfriend's friends-just too weird for me. When I first started dancing I wouldn't do a private dance for anyone I knew from outside the club, but now it doesn't really matter to me anymore. If for some reason I do feel uncomfortable about it, I just don't do it, but for the most part I'll do a dance for anyone.
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It depends. I've brought friends to see me perform, but only in large showcase-style events (maybe 10 performers doing one act each). An acquaintance I knew came in once, but a very rich one who just likes to do randomly ostentatious things. I didn't consider his giving me money to be any sort of shift in power, but just him spending money, as he likes to.
A friend/co-worker of mine has told me about a couple of times when a professor we both know has come into our workplace. Apparently he's a real jerk and says random misogynystic things, which is pretty lame... I know that neither of us would ever let it spread, though. There's no reason for that.
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The only way I would dance for an acquaintance is of they were totally OK with my job and the fact I was doing it.If they were jerks about it,then they can forget it.
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Originally Posted by Raven Z
I guess I'm kinda worried because I'm a completely different person in the club than I am out.
I'm a bit shy, reserved, and conservative sexually when in public, and that comes naturally to me.
And the idea that someone I know out of the club could see me like that, much less want a dance from me in that kind of way bothers me. Especially knowing that they know me on a different level of my life that's so different from my work.
Katrine, did you dancing for him or him finding out about your job change his opinon about you or change they way you two interact with eachother?
Nope, I've always been a pretty provocative person, it was no big deal, but that's just me, I still would have preferred NOT to see ppl I know from my real life.
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I won't give private dances to people I know from "the outside." They can come hang out and drink all they want. But I keep my "dance life" and my private life very separate, with two distinct mindframes for both, and I kind of feel like crossing that line is asking for trouble.
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Originally Posted by Raven Z
I guess I'm kinda worried because I'm a completely different person in the club than I am out.
I'm a bit shy, reserved, and conservative sexually when in public, and that comes naturally to me.
But when I'm in the club and working I'm the exact opposite. I'm flirty, sexual, have a strong urge to please visually to make the $$ and have a strong sense of what I can only refer to as "customer service". Which I can only describe as my feeling of wanting to provide a proffesional entertaining service for those who seek it.
And the idea that someone I know out of the club could see me like that, much less want a dance from me in that kind of way bothers me. Especially knowing that they know me on a different level of my life that's so different from my work.
The more I think about it, the more I want to keep the two world's seperate. But at the same time I've heard from some strippers that they've gotten a fair amount of money from old friends who found out recently they danced.
So I'm thinking about money vs personal feelings/ethics/or whatever you want to call them.
Katrine, did you dancing for him or him finding out about your job change his opinon about you or change they way you two interact with eachother?
I totally feel you Raven. This is my concern as well.
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Money is money.... no matter who it comes from.
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I learned quite awhile ago that it's all how you handle the situation. If you have to dance for someone you know make them feel like they are more special than your average customer. Say things like " I don't normally do this for everyone", but actually just give a regular dance. Then they leave feeling special and you haven't comped on your morals.
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The only guy I ever felt uncomfortable dancing for was my parent's next door neighbor.... Married guy whose kids I've babysat before. I did a total double-take when I saw him and realized yup, he definitely knows my family very closely. We both just agreed that neither one of us would ever mention it to anybody in the neighborhood. *lol*