Catty girls cutting in on custy
There are two girls in my club who do this. I will be sitting at a table of 2 or more guys, chatting it up with one, and another girl will plop herself down and start flirting with the guy I am working, leaving the other one totally alone.
the girl who did it last night is new to the club, but not to dancing, so I pertended she didn't know any better and explained body language to her.
The othe one has been there forever. She is an excellent dancer qand an excellent hustler, always busy. She really has no need to do this. I mean, what might she gain? 20 bucks? 40? If the guy wants her, he will get a dance from her.
Last time she did this, I just excused myself b/c it was obvious the guy was taken with her, but she didn't get the dance anyway. I know this was admitting that I didn't know what else to do, but I really felt like dumping my drink on her, and besides, continuing to sit there would have been a waste of time.
There has to be a better way to handle it. I am not into violence or poisining. I just want to make her "interventions" fail so eventually she will stop doing it, and find something more productive to do.
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BTW, I have tried sitting in different poistions relative to the two guys, ie boy-girl-boy and boy-boy-girl, it does not seem to matter. One wedged herself into a space between two guys that a sparrow could not have made it through.
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This happens to me well too often. What I typically do is ignore her, like she isn't even there, and continue talking to the custy. I roll his chair to face me, put my hands on his knees, and if all else fails, sit on his lap.
I do not acknowledge her presence. It makes her look rude, unpopular, and out of place.
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Try sitting on the guys lap.
Tell the girl "that guy over there is asking for you to do a dance for him and his buddys" just point to some group of guys,lie.
sit real close to him and be whispering in his ear,have a real juicy topic to have him be listening to you rather then her.(this will piss her off cause she cant hear or intervine on conversation)
Take the guy to a corner where only 2 can sit.
if at all possible position the guy so that there is no acess to him from the other side.(to do this you can say your hearing is bad on one side to move him so you can hear better)
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I think it's easier just to sit on their lap from the beginning. That way there is no way another girl can cut in. Talk into his ear and lean in close when he replies so it's obvious he is with YOU.
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Id say sit on the guys laps...
Its so odd that girls would do that... at all the clubs Ive worked in (here in Sacramento) there seems to be some unwritten rule that you do not go to a table another girl is at and you do not take guys from the tip rail... no one does it...
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I have yet to meet a man who likes having a stripper come over and sit on his lap uninvited. I know a lot of girls do it, but every guy I know absolutely hates it. It's a big violation of their personal space.
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If you can't sit on laps, sit next to him, put both of your legs across 1 or both of his. This should signal that he's "your property" for the moment. I usually ask anyway before sitting with or on a customer. But I hate cut throat girls. Just take her aside in the dressing room or bathroom and tell her that you really don't appreciate what she's doing and ask her to stop. If she's still immature about and continues to cut throat, retaliate with mild sweet revenge aka invest in x-lax or something of the sort. But try not to make a scene in front of customers. Making a scene causes drama, and drama causes less clientel coming into the clubs. I know from personal experience. Or retaliate with a double cut throat back at her. Follow her around all day and be on top of your hustle. Do exactly what she does to you but better and do it to her all day. She will more than likely get mad and maybe just maybe she'll realize that its not cool to cut throat!!
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First of all, sitting on laps is almost never a good idea. It's about the single worst form of body language around, not to mention very invasive of personal space and creates an enormous element of distrust. This is a topic for another thread though.
Assuming you aren't sitting on his lap though, and this dingbat sits down with you and your customer, be aware the most guys don't like this. She may think that she's being cool, but I can tell you that generally, most guys see right through this ploy of hers. They aren't going to do anything about it usually because they are already in an uncomfortable position with all of this and don't want to get in the middle. So, a few ways to handle this:
1. Talk to her alone and away from customers. Don't be rude about it, but politely let her know that indruding on YOUR sale is bad business for both of you. Remember, the more anger you show toward her, the more you'll get back.
2. Offer to team up with her and use a two-person approach. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. Perhaps this might work to both of your advantage or maybe not.
3. Blow her off firmly yet politely. You can say something like, "OH, I'm so glad you're here. Can you do us all a favor and go get the cocktail waitress. Us three are having a great time alone but we could use some drinks. I'll take a cranberry juice and these two guys would like...." It's sort of a polite way of letter her know that she's intruding big-time. Maybe she'll get the hint or maybe not. Another angle is to tell her that your manager was just looking for her...the manager on the other end of the club.
Perhaps you should think about a combination of these also?
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Originally Posted by DancerWealth
3. Blow her off firmly yet politely. You can say something like, "OH, I'm so glad you're here. Can you do us all a favor and go get the cocktail waitress. Us three are having a great time alone but we could use some drinks. I'll take a cranberry juice and these two guys would like...." It's sort of a polite way of letter her know that she's intruding big-time. Maybe she'll get the hint or maybe not. Another angle is to tell her that your manager was just looking for her...the manager on the other end of the club.
Oh DW, that's a great idea!!!
It would wrok at my club really well when we get busy and the waitress is hard to find, lol.
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Originally Posted by DancerWealth
3. Blow her off firmly yet politely. You can say something like, "OH, I'm so glad you're here. Can you do us all a favor and go get the cocktail waitress. Us three are having a great time alone but we could use some drinks. I'll take a cranberry juice and these two guys would like...." It's sort of a polite way of letter her know that she's intruding big-time. Maybe she'll get the hint or maybe not. Another angle is to tell her that your manager was just looking for her...the manager on the other end of the club.
Perhaps you should think about a combination of these also?
Pure genius ;D Oh, that will most definately piss the biotch off. I LIKE IT....:D
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Originally Posted by Yekhefah
I have yet to meet a man who likes having a stripper come over and sit on his lap uninvited. I know a lot of girls do it, but every guy I know absolutely hates it. It's a big violation of their personal space.
-- Doesn't bother me; I halfway expect it. @ least I understand that's their "ante" -- it's nice if they ask, but not necessary for me.
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You just keep talking to the guy, make eye contact with him as you have already established a rappour and conversation with him(you have the upper hand here).Keep on talking to him as if she was not even there,(ugnore her totally). She will pick up on that and dart off!!!.........LOL.I've been through that situation soooo many times and i ugnore the person who trys to cut in on me and it has worked for me every time. It is not polite or professional to cut throat another so take my advice and apply it as needed and you will have victory!
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Originally Posted by DancerWealth
3. Blow her off firmly yet politely. You can say something like, "OH, I'm so glad you're here. Can you do us all a favor and go get the cocktail waitress. Us three are having a great time alone but we could use some drinks. I'll take a cranberry juice and these two guys would like...." It's sort of a polite way of letter her know that she's intruding big-time. Maybe she'll get the hint or maybe not. Another angle is to tell her that your manager was just looking for her...the manager on the other end of the club.
Classic! Since she really believes she is the princess of the whole club, this will piss her off to no end!
I an so glad I have you for a secret weapon!