Re: If you have a son......
He was 7. I just kind of looked the other way and let him explore. LOL
I had more of a problem the first time he got a little woody. He was FIVE. Back then, I had no idea that it started so damn young. But apparently, they can get them as early as newborn. Oy vey. I freaked out--literally. I called the then Father-In-Law, and then the Ex-Husband and had them explain it to my Son, because I couldn't do it. He was so confused, it was cute.
Re: If you have a son......
I dated this guy once very briefly that had a 3 year old boy and he was already playing with himself.I gave the boy a bath once and he kept pointing at his penis saying,"Touch it".I was pretty damned freaked out after that and never gave the boy a bath again.
Re: If you have a son......
It's normal for all children to do this. My daughter does it sometimes. I think what you are doing is fine (although, I hope you don't let him get away with talking to you like that!!). I mean, if it feels so good when we're adults, why wouldn't it feel good when you're a child?
OTB...if a 3 year old is telling you to touch their genitals, I would take that as a red flag and start finding out who's doing it!!
I also think reminding them that NO ONE is allowed to touch their genitals. This is a very important stage and by reminding them that they have control over who touches them will give them more confidence and it will also trip them into telling you if someone does.
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I think my son always did that. Definatly around the ages of 5 - 8 after that he got more descrete, not that he was overly public with it, but I noticed a few times. Don't worry about it too much, it's normal!
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I specifically remember as a kid popping boners in the bathtub and using it as more of just another toy than 'playing with it.' Move the sailboat handsfree, trying to lift stuff with it, or just making it move my underoos.
I also remember the first time I jerked off, I was reading The Firm in 7th grade so I was around twelve. The part where he cheats on his wife, that and a torn out page from a playboy...
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I don't know about that, but I think you've gotten good advice here. Just keep watching and don't let him be embarassed about learning.
Good thing that most of my schooling was spent sitting down. That would have been too embarassing for me to live with.
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VG,no one was touching the boy.His dad,the loser I was dating,was always touching himself,even in front of the boy,so that's how the boy learned the behavior.I learned that the guy had slept around all the time and even with his sister-in-law.It was a seriously Jerry Springer situation and as soon as I saw it,I jetted out of there,fast.
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My son started playing with himself as soon as his dieppers(sp?) came off. I had to teach him not to do it in the living room; and to stop sticking it in stuff. He closed it in a VCR tape case and got it stuck in an empy shampoo bottle. He was 3 and 4 then. I just approched that the same way you teach they about things that are hot and things that can hurt.
One time I asked him to pick a movie and he brought me both tomb raiders and asked for "the one with the girl in the shower" . He was 6 . The same year he took a bunch of him dads Maxim's mags . For the pretty girls.
When he was 3or4 he walked in on his dad peeing . Then came and asked me why daddy had a big penis and his was small. I told him because he was only small .that it would get bigger. After any time he wouldn't eat his veggies . I told him that he had to eat them to get a big penis. LOL it worked.
He also went around telling everyone that he had a small penis and that his daddy had a big big penis. Kid are cute . You really never know what they'll come out with.
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LOL Miss Eliza that's hilarious.
Me, I'm not much of a children person and don't have any myself....
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This sounds like my kid:
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I specifically remember as a kid popping boners in the bathtub and using it as more of just another toy than 'playing with it.' Move the sailboat handsfree, trying to lift stuff with it, or just making it move my underoos.
But the trouble with that is, it leads to :
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I had to teach him not to do it in the living room; and to stop sticking it in stuff. He closed it in a VCR tape case and got it stuck in an empy shampoo bottle.
Which also sounds a lot like my kid. He satrted palying with himself during diaper changes. Somewhere between the ages of one and two, he wanted ME to paly with it as well. He was in a phase of putting my hand wherever he wanted me to touch him: on his head, on his tummy, etc. So I just told him, not there, that's personal.
We have been fighting the battle of "that's personal, do it in your room" since he was about 3. I hope we win it soon.