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He wants to "help" you sit on his d*ck, darling. LOL
My few regulars were subjected to puke-tastic long-winded whining about my current boyfriends ("I better quit dating this dude, he's a Special Forces soldier & might kill me in my sleep!" LOL Silly sh*t like that.) The theme is "I will be available-soon. Anytime now. Be patient."
PS- be like a cat on its Ninth Life hanging off of a cliff when hatching up excuses to NOT call & see regulars- because if you go out with/ f*ck them, everyone will find out & you'll get accused of being a extra girls/whore. Men can't keep their mouths shut about "I f*cked HER!"
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for me regulars are my bread and butter .they always tip more than the min. and come back often ,but this does not mean I have a relationship with them some I might but mostly no. just means I am a bit more friendly with them and give them a bit more during the dance and maybe let them get away with a bit of stuff but if they are a problem then drop them they should not add any drama to your life.Guys who want to help you are 99% bull and supect the the last one.Just smile and say thanks, mostly it will come to nothing any way
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I understand what you mean. But I don't want to f*ck him, I just want to know how can get money from him inside the club. maybe I wasn't clear.....how can I keep him coming in to see me and spending money on me? I know someone's got some ideas for me.
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Well...the honest truth is.....it's up to the customer as to whether he wants to keep coming to see you.....you can't wrestle that money out of his wallet....so you have to think up clever ideas to keep him interested. Be like Scherzade & her Arabian Nights set of bedtime stories (she was a ONCE-used concubine who was going to be executed by her Sheik master unless she thought of a way to survive, which was by telling tales to entertain her master....)
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I think it helps if you fuck them.::)
Seriously tho, just call him. Say "hey, it's so and so, I really enjoyed dancing for you the other day. I have a big tuition bill coming up soon, so I was hoping you could come back sometime this week... if you come in on wednesday afternoon when it's slow I'll be able to spend more time with you. Huh? No, I can't just have dinner with you Wednesday because my boyfriend drops me off at work. He's sooo controlling, he would totally freak if he saw me with you outside the club.... so I'll see you on Wednesday? Great!"
Does he want to "help" you by rescuing you from dancing and who knows what else, or does he want to "help" you by being your devoted slave and monetary supporter? That does make a difference. If he wants to rescue you use him up and make him jaded. If he wants to be your slave, be honest with him and use him nicely.
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He sounds like he already wants to be your regular customer -- so you don't have to do anything special. Just always go over and say hi to him when he comes in; ask him if he'd like some dances; if it's obvious that he came in just to see you, thank him for coming to see you; and when you're done dancing for him, say "I'll see you soon" or "Come back again soon" or something similar, and let him know what shifts he can generally find you working.
That's it.
If you have to do anything more than that, it's not worth it anyway.
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Then I remembered him. He had given me a bunch of money then too. ::)
Why the rolled eyes? What's wrong with him giving you a bunch of money?
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My regulars dont want to fuck me. They come in, we talk, they tip... they've become like friends who also give me cash, LOL. I go out to dinner with them, hang out sometimes, go shopping. Just be yourself, and be honest with them. You are NOT interested in any type of relationship or sex.
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To have regulars you have to do two things: work regularly, and like talking to them over and over again. I'm just talking about the good kind of regulars here, the ones who leave it all in the club, don't come to expect more for less, and don't try to save you--they exist and are a great relief to me because I don't have to have the same conversation I've had with ten other guys since we already have the basics out of the way.
Some dancers just aren't cut out for it--they have no desire to engage in conversation with customers, or they move around a lot or don't have a steady schedule. I have been that dancer. But it is nice on slow nights to see a regular come in. Or on nights when everyone is boring or an asshole. You look up and think "Oh, yay! A real thinking person who will pay me!"
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I have found sometimes fuckng them ruins the dancer thing and you lose them as dance clients just keep them hot and horney and wanting more they will come back
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My regulars dont want to fuck me.
Sally: I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No. You pretty much want to nail them too.
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In my opinion,I can't stand regulars.Over time,the money they spend on you will dwindle and they will expect more for less.Keeping the "fantasy" alive to get more money from them is a waste of time and effort.This is why I prefer to work in metropolitan cities rather then small towns.Metropolitan cities attract way more tourists and conventioneers.Folks that can drop serious coin while in town.
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I don't think the appropriate distinction is between regulars and non-regulars. I think the appropriate distinction is between tools and non-tools.
Some regulars are tools; some aren't. Same with tourists.
A lame-ass regular is worse than a lame-ass tourist because at least the lame-ass tourist will leave you alone after tonight. By the same token, however, a cool regular is preferable to a cool tourist. A cool regular, in fact, is sort of like a steady stream of cool tourists.
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Thanx everyone for your input! I think I will continue what I normally do and not worry about him. If he wants me, he'll come back (for the third time) and THEN I'll go from there and try to feel him out better. Thanks again!!
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This is just my 2 cents. I don't have many regulars here in pdx because i haven't been working regularly /:O but when i worked in rhode island i had lots.
ok first off try to work regular days. a question you'll hear a lot from guys that like you is "what days do you work?" if you work regularly, say monday wed friday or just fri and sat or something like that you will have a quick answer and they will remember.
like some other posters said its obvious this guy already likes you a lot. just ignore the part about him 'helping you.' what i would do (and what worked for me really well in RI) is this
whenever one of your 'regulars' comes in act really excited and happy to see him. give him a hug. make sure when you give him dances you act like you enjoy it.
a lot of them will try to fuck you yes. many of my regulars suggested we meet outside the club. just act innocent. thats what i did. say things like 'i have a rule against that its for my safety you understand!' - try to make it seem like you might do it if it werent for all the other psychos out there. i just tried to differentiate between them and other customers by making it seem like this: oh other customers might be crazy - sorry they had to ruin it for the nice guys like you! i didnt say that bluntly but thats what i hinted at - of course with a little smile like 'sorry.'
one of my regulars (who consistently spent 100s in the cr) kept pestering me. he would always bring it up after the cr experience like he was trying to close a deal. i would always say no and he would leave frustrated. but i really don't care.
my favorite regular was awesome. i made him laugh and i thought he was really cute. he would never try to get handsy in the CR and he always spent money.
idiots come into strip clubs looking for a 'bargain.' the regulars that are good know that in order to make you happy they have to shell out the cash. and in my personal opinion if a guy isnt ready to spend lots of cash he shouldnt be in a strip club.
good luck on getting more regulars. sometimes i would come of the the dressing room in RI and there would be 3 waiting for me! that made me look like i was in high demand which is better for business.
another tip i have for regulars is just be really sweet to them. sometimes guys want a dirty vixen type but with my regulars i just tried to act sweet and nice. i found that some of them really did think that was cute (especially when they came in the club and got wannadance from the other girls)
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To Rain - Great tips!! thanks alot!! ;)
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Many regulars have a shelf-life, in my experience. Eventually they get a little psycho about seeing you outside of the club. Your regular wanting to "help" you probably means he's one of these. He wants to be involved in your life OTC. You can keep these types dangling for a while -- tell them you have a boyfriend/girlfriend that you adore and would never cheat on, but with whom you have a turbulent relationship that is always on the verge of breaking up, so that you're forever on the brink of availability. To me this quickly gets to be more effort than it's worth, but hey, it's your party.
Having a few regulars at any given time makes your earnings more consistent. On the flipside, when it's busy, you could be LOSING money because your regular expects you to sit around and chat, while you could be selling dances. (Well, girls in clubs with VIPs might not have this problem, but in the part of the country where I work, we usually don't get paid to sit and talk.) I have a certain ammount of money that I expect to make per hour. If sitting with a regular is making me that ammount, I'll stay. If it isn't, I'll tell them I hate to leave, but I have other regulars waiting. I'll say this whether or not it's true. Then I'll ask if we can squeeze in just a few more dances. This not only sells dances, but strokes your regulars ego and fires his competetive instinct -- you'd rather spend time with him than your other regular! You must really like him! Yay!!
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I never persued regulars and had very few over the years. I always slayed the competition at almost every club I worked......:-X
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I wish I could be a regular but I'm a poor boy. I'm strange I guess, I really don't want to get to know dancers, it takes away from the whole fantasy thing.
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I know what Katrine said first
and let me say, you have to earn that! Like me!
She doesn't say that shit to just anyone!
I'm normally a regular, I just kinda move slow so to speak. I spend tho, and tip at the stage, but to get me as a regular, you have to be bright, or at least fake it well, none of that 'Save me from this shit' crap. You're a dancer, if you act like you want me to save you, I wont want to. :D
Treat it like a party/social gathering and I'll be all over you like a pack of dogs on three-legged cat
Mast.
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A confession- I was never big on regulars from moving around a lot, and the few guys who got stuck on me got a little taxing. I had a "friend" whom I would talk to frequently when he came to my bar but he wouldn't get dances because he was a Chief Petty Officer in the Navy & couldn't be seen in a compromising position. SO sometimes it really doesn't pay off for someone to get stuck on you- turns into something like a friendship, which is not always profitable.
The best regulars, girls? Private show regulars.
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I would explian to him that although you like him, you are simply not comfortable yet meeting someone outside the club and that you would like to see him a bit more to be able to get to know him first. String him along for as long as you can. Eventually, they all realize you are simply there for the money and some can handle just being a club customer and others cannot. I guess you'll find out about him soon enough!
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As a customer, I can safely say that I would never ever be a regular in my home town. It just wouldn't feel right and I can gurantee that most guys would be in the same boat.
Then when I'm travelling, I'd only visit a strip club like once a year, so I never would get the chance to 'be a regular'.
These guys who need to visit a strip club on a regular basis, to see the same girl, are just not your normal breed of guy. They'd be either emotionally crippled or very lonely, thus it'd be good advice to steer clear of regulars.
Just a guy's 2 cents.