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I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
I have had it with men asking if I have ever done anything sexual in the club when they find out I dance.
Idiot: What kind of work do you do???
Me: I dance topless.
Idiot: Have you ever slept with any customers or gave them oral in the club???
Me: Excuse me,what kind of sick,perverted question is that???!!!!!
These are guys I meet online,at the store,etc.,asking me this most moronic question.I am so sick of it.It just goes to show how they really feel about you after they find out you dance.
UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!
>:( >:( >:(
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Re: I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
People outside the club tend to stereotype us. They think that we must be whores, prostitutes or drug users. They are just ignorant. They don't understand that it's a job.
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I understand that,but these men could have been potential suitors if it weren't for their ignorance and stupidity.Why don't they let the vibes they get be their answer???Asking a question like that from the get-go is such a kill joy.
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Sometimes I tell them my measurements & cup size. And then I go "DUH."
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I guess it's just like cutting yourself off to one race or sex. There are in the end cutting themselves short. They are at a lost. Besides, who needs someone that judgemental anyways. I don't tell people up front that I am a dancer. I typically give them a chance to get to know me. Then once the time is right I tell them. Some of them stick around others move on. At least I know who my real friends are.
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Why should guys dance around the question..why not flat out ask us if weve ever been whores are are whores now? WTF I know. I understand guys can be curious but cmon here. Which is another reason I hide my stripper status w/ guys. Once they hear it they act like theyre in the club and ask a slew of stupid questions...like its ok or something.
Next time, Ill reply with "What was that it was all muffled....thought I heard you talking out of your ass?" :Pbleh maybe he'll get the hint.
May you vent and feel relieved.
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Tell them "No, but I've finally found a club that lets me play doctor with customers! Scalpels and all!! I, like... TOTALLY get to work in my circumcision!"
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I am just really disgusted with the Y-chromosome right now.I think I may become a nun.Another thing,how freakin' cheesy and cliche is it to have sex and perform other "favors" in a strip club anyhow?????Sheesh.
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I understand all this and hate it too. Guys think it is cool to ask those questions. If i say DANCER, STRIPPER ... it means i am a dancer who strips... not any form of prostitute.
However, I like to test guys. I like to hint around and find out the attitudes that a guy holds about strippers BEFORE i tell them that i am one. I do this because i hate the fact of a man saying how much he understands and respects strippers just to please me. I will say... i like to go to strip clubs... blah blah... general convo until i get enough information to see how he feels. Then i break the news =)
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I can sympethize OTB,
I just went to check my racing forum and got a PM from a guy asking if he could fly me out to see him, could I call him and talk dirty, how much do I charge an hour, etc just because he noticed that I mentioned I was a (in his words) a "tittie dancer"
I told him that he'd better figure out the difference between a stripper and an escort because my boyfriend wouldn't like to hear shit like that...
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Damn girl,that is horrible.
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Ok in defense of guys here I really need to ask something. How far into the relationship did he ask this OTB? 2 days? 4 months? Just curious. I need to know to see if my reply is appropriate.
Mast
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Unfortunately, with so many young women going into porn or prostitution starting out as dancers, it is no wonder so many dip shit dudes think that extras are standard! For some chicks, it is just a part of the hustle! It's NOT fair to the real ladies who won't pull stunts...but it's just one of those things you gotta deal with in the industry.
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Ask them if they've done the same at their work. Idiots!
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I tell very few people I'm an entertainer for fear of stupid reactions like that. It's sad I almost have to hide what I do for a living because most men and women believe The Saprano's depiction of strippers.
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Re: I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
Consider it a blessing OTB. You can weed them out before you waste too much time on them.
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Re: I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
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Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
Ok in defense of guys here I really need to ask something. How far into the relationship did he ask this OTB? 2 days? 4 months? Just curious. I need to know to see if my reply is appropriate.
Mast
She said that they are possibly "potential suitors"...there was never a "relationship"...
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As a male I kinda take offence to the whole 'throw us in one category' response.
If a female, who wasn't a working dancer, approached a male and asked him what his profession was and he replied 'Male Stripper'...there is no doubt in my mind that she would have a similar reaction. She'd think the guy was stupid and that he probably sleeps around all the time.
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Originally Posted by VenusGoddess
She said that they are possibly "potential suitors"...there was never a "relationship"...
That's quite an assumption. Possibly correct. Not saying OTB is involved in this, but there are a great bunch of people on this site that use sex as the common day replacement for the handshake.
I just am thinking if she's upset about this, then they had been talking long enough for her to get excited about that potential.
Chris, we ARE all in one category. Chimps. Women just look for who slings poo the best.
Kidding. Kidding.
Mast
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Re: I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
I recently found out that one of my two best friends was speculating to the other about whether I do that. I called her up and let her know, in no uncertain terms, that I am a DANCER, not a whore. It still hurts a little though, knowing she thought I would do such a thing.
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Re: I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
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Originally Posted by Chris Fox
As a male I kinda take offense to the whole 'throw us in one category' response.
If a female, who wasn't a working dancer, approached a male and asked him what his profession was and he replied 'Male Stripper'...there is no doubt in my mind that she would have a similar reaction. She'd think the guy was stupid and that he probably sleeps around all the time.
No, she'd think that the guy is gay - which ninety percent of them are. Take offense, do whatever, just don't be dumb like that. She is lumping all men that -she meets- that ask her - dumb-ass questions about sexual favors at work- if this doesn't apply to you.. why do you care?
To OTB: It is simply the mindset of the male mind ( and of course I am generalizing here ) because perfect strangers will stop me, at wal-mart to ask me if my boobs are real. It's lack of manners and dumbness. And then they wonder why we ( dancers ) are so un-approachable in the dating arena. Well DUH?
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OK I can completely empathize here. Guys i have met get that wide eyed stare, like oh my god! I try to be very upfront about the subject. I figure there is someone out there that will just be cool about it.
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Same here Venus..If I didnt know any better Id think he was gay. I had a guy arrogantly tell me he was a male stripper....I laughed at him. He said in a way that I was suppose to like him more after that statement. The stripper thing didnt bother me it was his overt arrogance.
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Re: I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
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Originally Posted by onlythebest
I have had it with men asking if I have ever done anything sexual in the club when they find out I dance.
Idiot: What kind of work do you do???
Me: I dance topless.
Idiot: Have you ever slept with any customers or gave them oral in the club???
Me: Excuse me,what kind of sick,perverted question is that???!!!!!
These are guys I meet online,at the store,etc.,asking me this most moronic question.I am so sick of it.It just goes to show how they really feel about you after they find out you dance.
UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!
>:( >:( >:(
Well, if you do a search in the forum, you will see so many members of this forum have already had sex with customers... or have given them oral (or vice-versa). So, you should understand why people ask you that...
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Re: I Have Had It!!!!!!!!!! (RANT)
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Originally Posted by tmlsuperspice
Unfortunately, with so many young women going into porn or prostitution starting out as dancers, it is no wonder so many dip shit dudes think that extras are standard! For some chicks, it is just a part of the hustle! It's NOT fair to the real ladies who won't pull stunts...but it's just one of those things you gotta deal with in the industry.
OK - well, I did porn for a few years and I went from that back to dancing. I have never, ever, ever, ever slept with a customer, done a 'private show' for a customer OR escorted.
Altho I dont recommend girls getting into porn at all... just because you do a few (or a lot) of videos in a safe environment does NOT mean you will go home with some guy from a club or meet some guy off the internet.
Its much different going to the Hustler studios and doing a scene with literally 15 people watching (director, producer, light guy, sound guy, etc etc) than meeting some guy in a hotel room.
See how easy it is to lump people together?
Porn does not = prostitution.