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Plus the third kind that want to put all the attention on them from all the guys; normally drunk, loud, and often on their way to take their own clothes off for the hell of it.
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This topic has been covered alot already.
If you search, there are probably a dozen threads out there that discuss this very thing.
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So what is your point here?
If by saying, yeah, females who go to bar are insecuure
and the fact is establsihed, what do you intned to accomplish?
My experience with women who go to SC has been this,
they are often nervous. They want to leave, not only do
they want to leave, they also want to leave with their BF's,
husbands, guardians, whomever.
They have a nearly inpentrable barrier up, and keep it up.
And they will treat you like krap.
The only way I have ever been able to deal with this is to ignore
the small cute witty cut down comments they make and say nothing
to add to it.
Often, whenever I was called to cater to these soirees was to
function as a waitress/entertainer. And don't have to be in
a full armored hustler mode. One can still make money and not
really have to work as hard.
But, unless you have your guard up, and go into it unawares,
it can be emotionally devastating. Oh, yeah, women can be so
cruel to their own kind. They know where to hit the button.
But, oh, well, that is a part of being female.
But hell with it, I would not trade it for being male.
I love myself too much for that. Good luck.
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We once got a bachelorette (spelling?) party in, and they were sooooo much fun. We had a great time. But in general, I also am often not sure what to do when female customers come in. If they seem like they don't want to be there, I usually leave them alone, but if they are outgoing and look like they are there to have fun, I'll go up to them. But sometimes if they look crabby or bored, it is because they aren't quite sure how to react to everything going on, and once you go over and talk to them a little they will open up a little more. It all depends and is really hard to tell, so I don't really know what to do a lot of the time.
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As a female customer that thoroughly enjoys strip clubs (I love being around you fabulous ladies), any advice on how to put you at ease right away and realize that I'm there for legitimate reasons, and not that I was just drug along with my boyfriend and am going to be pissy all night?
I don't want the girls to be afraid to approach me, thinking that I'll just be bitchy.
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I agree with fancygirl, the girls that are often not okay with being there will try to pretend like they are a dancer and crap.
Honestly, I don't know if I'd want my man going to a strip club, not because of naked women dancing, but because we really don't have the money for him to be spending there, we really don't have the money for drinks. He has no interest in going to a SC anyways, but seriously, come on!!
Most of us, men and women, aren't always thinking of our partner when we are having sex with them, sometimes yes, sometimes no.
Anyways, I think that these stupid girls should not go to a SC if they're just going to be rude and pissy about it!
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how about the dancer who comes in on her birthday night off with her hubby like last night at the club to party and tip the stage? that was a fun night
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Okay. You forgot someone. What about lesbians that want to see strippers?
I went out with a girl who went to strip clubs.
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I have not had to deal with the angry female customer. The ones that come to my club are cool chicks who go with their male friends or the ones who are living the fantasy and exploring being bi curious. I love dancing for either type because the cool ones just talk and are just cool. And the other ones I love doing it for them because I know that I am turning them on and I like that! Plus I love girls...... much more than men :)
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i haven't been to a strip club yet, though i do plan on going soon when i have plenty of money to shower on the dancers. i am bisexual and interested in being a dancer myself, so i would definately not be there to be bitchy or rude. aside from throwing money around and refraining from attacking people, what are the best ways to get across the idea that i'm there because i actually love women and want to spend money on them? i will be going with my boyfriend, if that matters.
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I think it all depends on the female..and how comfortabe the female dancers make them feel. I personally love to go to SC's as a customer and before I even got the notion about being a dancer I still loved frequenting them. I think it all depends on the female...some are much more open! I love those types of females..!
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...aside from throwing money around and refraining from attacking people, what are the best ways to get across the idea that i'm there because i actually love women and want to spend money on them?
Throwing money around and refraining from attacking people ought to do the trick, LOL! A big smile and a friendly manner are always nice, too. I love to see women in the club when they're enjoying themselves, and ESPECIALLY when they're buying dances from me. I love to get lapdances from women, and I love to give lapdances TO women!
My pet peeve re: bitches in the club is women who expect lots of free dancer attention just because they're women. You know - the ones who sit at the tip rail and want to grab and play with you, but don't feel that they should have to spend any money because hey, we're all girls! :P
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As a female custy, I let them know I'm ok with everything, just by smiling at them. I noticed that alot when I was the dolphin 2 the other night. A few of the dancers would just look over at my table and give me a smile..so I smiled right back! If they don't smile back (a REAL smile, not a smurk), then I'd say they are comfy with everything. I also always give a big HI (I'm a very friendly person lol), when I come up to the stage..just to let them know they can spend as much time by me as the want! lol
I'm kinda shocked though that girls would grab you ladies?? I get grabbed when I go to concerts and such where there are close quarters..you know, the "accidental" rub on your crotch, brush against the boob/butt, it makes you feel violated (when you don't ask ;) ) It's just rude too to assume that just cause we're all girls that they have the right to do that? I could go on and on about this..but I tend to talk alot and don't want to bore you! lol
Summer
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aside from throwing money around and refraining from attacking people, what are the best ways to get across the idea that i'm there because i actually love women and want to spend money on them?
One thing that always gets me is the woman who puts a couple of ones in my garter while smiling at me when I approach to meet the couple. I feel like that's the woman's way of saying "I approve" or "here let me help you". I feel then like the female custy is trying to let me know that she's on my side and not one of those that wishes I would just f*** off. Sounds strange, but it's happened numerous times to me as a dancer and it really helps.
That or when female custies go up to the stage to tip. Dancers will see you do this and see you as dancer-friendly and there to have fun. You might get approached by a few more that way.
ANother kind of female custy to add... is the one that buys dances from many girls... BUT they act like they work for a damn modelling agency and can say yay or neigh and wave you away. These are the picky, demanding, and judgemental type. They seem to always appear with the rich husband who is buying these women as gifts to his wife. At least they buy dances, but DAMN. I had one of these kinds of women the other night. I sat down next to her, got a very cold vibe from her, and yet she said up front, "When you're ready, i'll have a dance." Just the way she said it. Then i was getting dirty looks from the cocktail waitresses when the lady kept trying to get me to put my hands on her tits. Garrr.... I felt like I couldn't give her what she wanted--she never smiled and had such a damn serious look on her face. I felt like giving up half way through the dance when I really would have liked to make it a good experience for her. Oh well. Maybe it comes down to sometimes you click with a female custy and sometimes you totally dont. whatever.
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I see more girls who are there to have a good time than the other kinds. Most of the anti-social ones I see dont look or act pissy, they just sit very still and stay very quiet.
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they r just jealous, female nature!!!
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ANother kind of female custy to add... is the one that buys dances from many girls... BUT they act like they work for a damn modelling agency and can say yay or neigh and wave you away. These are the picky, demanding, and judgemental type. They seem to always appear with the rich husband who is buying these women as gifts to his wife. At least they buy dances, but DAMN. I had one of these kinds of women the other night. I sat down next to her, got a very cold vibe from her, and yet she said up front, "When you're ready, i'll have a dance." Just the way she said it. Then i was getting dirty looks from the cocktail waitresses when the lady kept trying to get me to put my hands on her tits. Garrr.... I felt like I couldn't give her what she wanted--she never smiled and had such a damn serious look on her face. I felt like giving up half way through the dance when I really would have liked to make it a good experience for her. Oh well. Maybe it comes down to sometimes you click with a female custy and sometimes you totally dont. whatever.
That kind is more then likely the Pro Dominas. The men pay them a couple hundred an hour to take them to a strip club to buy them dances. Their actually very friendly, they just have a need to keep their Dominance at all times as it rocks their lil bastards world. Be nice to them, they will remember and bring different subbies in.
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I have made plenty of money off females (most couples). I avoid approaching female customers, or even tables with females at them, leaving them as a last result. But often the girls come to me and ask for dances, I'm not sure why, I guess I look approachable or non-threatening to them. If I am working with a couple, I all but ignore the guy, instead flirting with the girl and telling him how lucky he is. I don't have a problem with anyone who doesn't have a problem with me!
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OH, I just remembered something that happened a few weekends ago, I would LOVE to have your girls opinions on this.
Me & a few other girls were with a group of guys who were buying dances, getting us drinks, etc. A little bit later, a group of women came in & sat with them. Apparently, they were all there for this army meeting or something, I can't exactly remember what they said. But the women weren't friendly toward us at all, so I just ignored them.
Afew minutes later, one of the women starts asking me if I'm in school, & what my future plans are & such. I explained to her that I had just moved to the area a few months ago, & was waiting until I became a resident to go to school, since I have to pay for it myself. She then starts asking if she can call me the next day, saying that she would like to help me. Then she proceeds to tell me that her job is to help "people like me" who have fallen into "these kind of situations". She claims that she used to do "something like this" back when she was 30 pounds lighter (UH, WTF?) & basically was talking to me as if I were a piece of trash. I gave her a really dirty look & walked off.
This is the kind of shit I cannot stand. I have encountered lots of friendly females who love dances, but the majority of the time, it's bitches like these that piss me off. I don't go into McDonald's & try to persuade girls there to start dancing because they'll make more money, so why does this woman think it's ohkay to try & persuade me to join the damn army?
BLAH
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^^^^LOL!!!!^^^^^
Reminds me of this sweet little girl who had never been to a strip club. She kept tippng me and following me around the room to put ones in my garter, completely enamoured with me. She comes up to tip me on my stage set and says--really trying to be nice, "just remember, you're worth so much more than this", and sat down. I say, No, get back up here... I made her stand up so she could hear me, and I said to her, "actually, I used to work for Albertsons full time. You know what they thought I was worth? 8.74 an hour!! I thought I was worth a lot more, so I came to work here."
heh heh. some women are ignorant.
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Yourgirlkt - I would have told the army bitch she should lose the 30 lbs. again and then maybe you can see what you can do to help her.
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Sometimes I wish that gentlemens' clubs would live up to the name and exclusively cater to gentlemen. I like dancing for ladies but many times they have come into the club and started DRAMA.
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Yourgirlkt - I would have told the army bitch she should lose the 30 lbs. again and then maybe you can see what you can do to help her.
ahahahahaha!!!!! if only i could've thought of that at the time. :D
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I found smiling at the female custys always worked. Many of them have no idea what to do or how to be. They assume you are a man-eater - because they've never done the job.
As for being a good female custy. Buy champagne and talk to the girls! Take a wad of tip money to blow on the girls and have FUN!!
It's interesting these crusader types who want to help you find the light. You could always say, "i found Jesus! He was behind the sofa the whole time!!!"
(before i get in trouble for that, i was raised a catholic...)