It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
I am running out of ideas for closed-end questions to ask the guys. My new goal for the week (and next week since I have not gotten there yet) is to ask each prospect 6 leading questions in a convo (about 5 minutes.) I can't think of enough questions to keep the convo flowing smoothly. I don't want to feel like I ma interviewing the poor guy!
This is what I have so far:
- This is a neat little club, isn't it? (Or a really fun bar, a good place to stop after work, a great palce to relax, etc.)
- this backrub feels really good, doesn't it?
- You really like the backrub, don't you?
- That wa a really relaxing (invigorating) massage, wasn't it?
- You're having fun tonight, aren't you?
- Everybody needs more fun (excitement, escapism) in thier life, don't you think?
Sometimes, something in the conversation gives me an idea, but as you know, no two convos go the same exact way. I would appreciate any suggestions you coauld give. Thanks!
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
Make a declarative statement.
1. Tell me you like this club.
2. Tell me how you would like your massage (backrub, etc).
3. Tell me you are having fun tonight.
4. Tell me you need mroe fun.
Tell me, baby, tell me. I want you tell me.
Tell me, hon, tell me.
Look at me, tell me, tell me, tell me, I want you to tell me.
Speak to me, sweetcakes, speak to me. Come on speak to me.
Guys who are there to talk will talk, if they don't, heck don't waste your time.
Talk to me, baby, talk. Your nickle.
Do not like to ask questions which can be answered with just a simple yes or no comment.
The thing to do here is to elicit a comment from the customer.
So, if instead of asking, you like this club, ask what do you like about this club?
Instead of asking would you like a back rub, ask how would you like a back rub.
Get the customer to commit himself by making him talk.
That way the conversation becomes self-igniting. Just yes and no queries are
endless and will eventually go no where.
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
I think those are great questions to ask! Sometimes I sit around and try to think of things to say too.
Another girl in another thread mentioned the idea of directing the questions toward your body by asking what types of girls he's into...
from there you can ask if YOU are his type, and if so, would he like to see you up close.
(something like that)
Tonight I actually tried integrating the concept of BOTH our bodies without it turning too sexual. The guy I was dancing for had a really nice jacket and I asked him if he thought I would look hot wearing it. I think that's an idea I'm going to use more often, asking him if I would look hot wearing his tie, shirt, cowboy hat, etc.
It might make them wonder if they are going to see me wearing it at some point, even though I won't (in reality).
They are visualizing my body in different scenarios and it projects the image that I am comfortable with them enough to want to wear their clothing.
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Cute idea, AlexxaHex.
Girlnew, I do use the tell me statements, interspersed with the closed-ended questions. It makes me feel less robotic. I go like this:
Hi, I'm Colleen. ANd you are?
Tell me, how are you tonight?
You are having fun, aren't you?
Let me ask you this, is this your first time here?
It's a neat little bar, isn't it?
Tell me, what brings you out tonight?
Hmmmm, long day at work, huh? (thanks to whomever suggested that one!)
So you are jsut here to realx, then?
Well, have I got jsut the thing for you (start rubbing back, neck, shoulders, whatever I can reach!)
That feels good, doesn't it?
Lean back for me, please.
You like that, don't you?
Lean forward for me, please.
Bend your head forward, please
That was nice, wasn't it?
You are All nice and relaxed now, aren't you?
So now that you are all nice and relaxed, I bet you would really love a dance (Moving into position and assuming the sale.)
ANd so on.
I really do give a killer backrub, so guys almost always voluntarily whip out thier wallets and hand me $5-$20 without my saying anything more. But I am only closing them for dances about 50% of the time.
Ant suggestions? Maybe I should hav this thread renemed "Critique my sales pitch"!
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
My take.
(Don't laugh)
Hey, this is me.
Are you with somebody, or you by yourself?
Oh, Ok, All right,
Yeah, listen, haven't seen you here before, first time here?
Oh me, oh my, lucky you, you got me all by yourself, yeah, babe.
Listen, yeah, look at me, what are you drinking?
Oh, ok, need a refresher? Yeah. (Call bartender)
So, you ready for some action?
Fine, Fantastic, yeah, look me straight in the eye, keep looking, keep looking.
Yeah, see the reflection in my eyeballs, yeah, yeah, that is you, baby, that is you.
Now, gaze down , gaze down, look at my lips, honey, look at my lips, see it so full, yeah,
Now, keep looking down, look down, and see that, yeah, you see that, uh huh, yeah.
etc, etc.
Oh, well, so much, so much. A typical scenario.
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
That's so great, girlnew. goes straight to the point
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Fine, Fantastic, yeah, look me straight in the eye, keep looking, keep looking.
Yeah, see the reflection in my eyeballs, yeah, yeah, that is you, baby, that is you.
Oh my G-d. You do this during a lap dance? That is PURE GENIUS!! I would absolutely melt if someone did that while dancing for me! I hope you don't mind if I borrow that!
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
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Ant suggestions? Maybe I should hav this thread renemed "Critique my sales pitch"!
Well, along those lines... maybe you should ask them before you start massaging them. I know I would be offended if someone just grabbed me and started rubbing.
Maybe something like, "I give a really great backrub that will totally melt you, that sounds great, doesn't it? It's even more great when I actually do it... ready?"
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
Guys will usually make comments about at least one dancer (possibly yourself). Whether its a negative or positive statement doesnt matter, but I always follow that with, "what do you look for in a woman? Long legs, redheads, natural breasts, tight ass?" Then I share with them what I look for in a woman. They get intrigued by my interest in other women and we usually finish the conversation in the VIP room.
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Damn, you ladies are trying too hard!
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Katrine, I love your sig. My bf does a terrific Tony Montana impression and over Christmas he was doing that whole routine while smoking a cigar. It was absolutely hilarious and now your sig always makes me think of it. :D
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
I tried asking if they wanted a backrub first, and it never gets me anywhere. I don't jsut walk up and start rubbing on them, unless I have absolutely no other way to get their attention (which happens sometimes as we don't have a datge; the central feature in the room is a huge bar, which everybody gaters around When it is croweded, the only way to approach anybody is directly from behind, so I walk up and start massaging thier shoulders.) Usually I start talking, once I have engaged them I start rubbing their neck, then walk around behind them and start a whole backrub.
Katrene, what would you suggest?
It seems they don't really know how bad they need the massage until I start giving them one. I have had a few guys tell me that, and in my experience it holds true.
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Damn, you ladies are trying too hard!
Seriously.
"Hi. Im Audrey. You are? Nice to meet you. Wanna dance?" I hate talking to men. If they try to talk to me I say something like.
"Sorry - Im not much of a talker.. Im much better at dancing *giggle*- thats why Im a stripper. *giggle" They usually laugh and say yes or no to a dance.
When guys ASK me to sit and talk I run the other way - I hate wasting time... and most of the time that guy that said "i like to get to know you before I get a dance" wastes some other poor dancers time... no thanks
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Audrey, I WISH that approach would work where I am. No such luck. It's a bikini bar, so we really have to depend a LOT on small talk and personality.
Re: It's hard to think of closed-end questions, isn't it?
im at a bikini bar too... most girls sit and chat.. i just cant bring myself to do it... i still make more than them... some guys just dont WANT to sit and chat.. they want a DANCE