Did you locate your personal limits as a stripper/sex worker by crossing them?
I did.
(Poll forthcoming, if my luddite self can figure it out...)
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Did you locate your personal limits as a stripper/sex worker by crossing them?
I did.
(Poll forthcoming, if my luddite self can figure it out...)
I will say I look at life as a series of opportunities for mischief.
I also admire the life of Wendy O Williams, whose use of the sex biz was a means to her very unique end.
EDIT: quotation of my Paternalistic Society-Fueled Freudian Slip Ahead. The heck with Freud!
Just as long as you dont end up like she did, MM.Quote:
Originally Posted by madmaxine
Prester: Due to some freshly killed brain cells, I transposed the two words in the old sage saying about "living dangerously to come out ahead". Uh, I got my taste of "do you really wanna die?" BEFORE I was a dancer. Sadly, it just made me crazier.
BTW, not everyone is like that
My answer? I voted "no." I've never done anything I couldn't live with...but everyone is different & I don't judge.
Besides, people have usually made their minds up about dancers, so sometimes the true answers about our true selves....don't matter in the end.
Ive done stuff I wasnt happy about but I never go there again. Now I firmly know where I stand as far as boundries and feel confident in them.
I've always known my boundries and as far as work goes I am very stubborn about them!
That doesn't mean that I may not feel comfortable about crossing those boundries at another time though, I guess they can chop and change if I so feel like it...
At first I thought I could never do nude, now I realize I wouldn't have a problem with it, as long as it's at a fairly clean club/a club with good bouncers.
All the boundaries I've crossed at work have been things like laughing when a creepy custy asks me to go on a trip with him, going along with the "will you date me?" line, and other crap that just sets me up for later trouble.
My boundaries have changed over the years. But it doesn't mean that they are stricktly enforced either. I take each situation and go with the flow. Some people I may kiss, some I may only do air dances for, some well I go far with. It all depends on the person/ and setting.
once, when i was having a really bad night, i let a guy have a deal that wasn't running at the time. it just made me feel worse, and i wouldn't do it again.
nothing physical though. i know my boundaries already.
Most are customers but a select few are in the running to become Mr. Right or Mr. Right now;) . The interest in the guy determines where the boundary is. I mean I actually met two hot actors at work. Who wouldn't give 'em a kiss and ring-ring.:D
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I hope this isn't misread or read into the wrong way but NO.
Limitations, boundaries are there to be grown through.
I'm a limit tester. I have tested my limits to see what I'm comfy with. Once I see what works for me, I stick with it.
I made some rules for myself before I even got into the biz, but I couldn't anticipate everything. Every once in a while I'll cross a minor line that i'm not happy with and i'll be thinking in the dressing room later... ewww i probably shouldnt have done that, or why did i put up with that? Then I know specifically what my limits are for next time should a similar situation occur. I try to learn from my mistakes and not repeat them. ;)
^^ Yeah. I think anyone who claims they set ALL limits prior to dancing and stuck with them is full of crap. There's no way you can anticipate every possibility without experience. Sometimes you can only learn as you go.