how should I approach a customer?
I started dancing a few weeks ago and need some help. I feel that my biggest struggle is knowing how to present myself to a customer. I approach with a smile and a slightly flirty yet friendly opening question, and let the conversation go on from there. I can almost feel the moment when I lose the sale, by them feeling like they can have all the converstion they want because I am not too pushy or foward with the typical "Wanna dance, honey?" line. I feel that guys appreciate the "friendly factor" but I am not making the money I want from that.
I need some advice on the best type of approach to use. Although I know it will vary from customer to customer, are most guys typically looking for more flirtation and "dirty talk" than what I am giving? And if so, what types of things should I be saying?
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Always approach every customer from the front -never from behind.
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body language is at least as important as what you say... check out the book superflirt
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I plan on getting that book today!
As far as the body language goes, is it just a whole lot of pretending like the customer you are talking to is really doin it for you? Don't you think they can see right through the act? Outside the club, I am really into connecting with someone, however that doesn't pay the bills inside the club. You would think that some men like to "feel connected", which usaully happens during the dances I give, it is just getting my foot in the door that seems to be the issue... I feel like I have come across a lot of high rollers, but maybe I wasn't flirty or, I hate to say, slutty enough... so they don't even give me a chance. The customers that have said yes, swear up and down that they love my company and that my dances are the best they have ever had... but I am sure they tell that to everyone!
So... once my foot is in, I think I'm good. How do I get it in??? I need help, pretty please!!!!
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I never talk dirty or act overly sexy when talking to guys. I'm more playful flirty than sexy flirty. I look really young, so I try to work with that and try to be more cute and fun than sexy. Plus, I feel like a complete moron when I try to act sexy or talk dirty, and if you don't feel comfortable or confident with the approach you're using, then the guys will see right through you and you won't pull it off. You have to work with what your look is. If you look young, then be cute and playful with the guys. If you have a more mature look, then sexy will probably work better.
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Smile, look, and probe, probe.
Get the guy to say something, make a comment,
and then from that you can tell whether to act cute or slutty.
Don't just walk out there like a damn robot, and do a routine.
Say something, anything, you customers a living walking thing.
He is looking for something, a fantasy, and once you key in on it,
you can take it from there.
By his responses you can tell whether he wants class or slutty.
I prefer slutty, but I can do class. And no, don't ever be embarraseed
for feeling that way. If you do, you are in the wrong business.
Go get'em!!
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I remember feeling this way a lot when was first dancing. The problem is letting your customer control the interaction. You need to be the one in control. A lot of the more common sales techniques are just ways of subtly controlling the conversation. Ask more closed-ended questions, fewer open-ended questions. Use subtle commands in your conversation, like "tell me", "listen" and so on. Use confident body language -- sit up straight, laugh, make eye contact.
When you are the one leading the conversation, you have more control over the outcome. You can move the conversation towards selling a dance whenever you choose. To an extent, you can dictate to a customer that he WILL get a dance from you, rather than hanging back and letting him decide. If you let the customer lead the conversation, chances are he is going to talk your ear off and not get any dances. If you do ask for a dance, he'll find it easier to say no. Hope this makes sense. Sales books are useful, as is Dancerwealth. There are other threads that make good book reccomendations.
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Man, superflirt is a GREAT book! I sat down and read the entire thing this evening before my shift, and then went in repeating my goal to myself. I kept thinking BODY LANGUAGE BODY LANGUAGE over and over again all night, and BAM, no one that I asked for a dance turned me down! Luckily I also purchased Think & Grow Rich and The Art of Seduction, and I think that my hustle is better than ever.
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IN my opinion, I don't think it works to approach a guy with the intention of getting a dance. I always approach with the intention of getting to know him, making sure he's having a good time - and after a drink and some conversation I let the dance option come up.
It helps me to think of myself like a geisha ;D I know that's retarded, but seriously, like a sexy companion, escort type who will completely focus on that customers needs. It gets me a lot of dances. Of course it also gets me some clingy regulars too...
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Ms. Holiday hit the jackpot on this one.....
<snip>IN my opinion, I don't think it works to approach a guy with the intention of getting a dance. I always approach with the intention of getting to know him, making sure he's having a good time - and after a drink and some conversation I let the dance option come up.<unsnip>
IME, if I see someone I want to get a dance with, I go and ask for a dance, because I've already checked her out and have decided she's interesting for any number of reasons. OTOH, if someone approaches me, I may or may not have had a chance to do even minimal "research" 8), so i need a chance to warm up to you. With some ladies the "warmup period" is instantaneous, literally- one look, and I could tell (i.e. my ATF Mia), but that is the exception rather than the rule... So my recommendation would be to listen "Holiday". I thinks she's got the right idea. There maybe a difference between the kind of intereaction you attempt, simply because it depends on who has initiated it. My $.02, and worth every penny!
801inPDX
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I think that it definitely varies, however. There are indeed the guys that want to get to know you and get a feel for if you're private dance material, but then there are the guys that just want a sultry lady to promise them untold sensual pleasures... :P differentiating between them is the challenge. But there are some guys that I can sell a private dance to in ~10 seconds and those that needs those five minutes. Neither attitude from the dancer will work 100% of the time, of course -- it's all trial and error.
(ex. a.) "Hey sweetie! It looks like you're having a good time! Ever been here before? Have you had a private dance yet? It's over there, wherre we can be nice... and comfortable together. Want to check it out?"
(ex. b.) [Let them buy me a drink, sit down with them, watch a dancer through one song, ask them about themselves, etc] "That's great... so, what do you think about getting more personal? We could do that back over here in the private dance area."