Whats with my attitude???
Hey girls, might as well say hey to all while Im having my problem rant. So hey! Hope your all doing well and enjoying the new year (even though its a sh*t time for money!).
So, i was just wondering if anybody else has the same problem as me coz its really starting to do my head in.
Iv been dancing for about three years now, and while I love my job (ok it has it's down points but so does everything in life) Im starting to find that my attitude to the customers at work totally stinks!
All it takes is for someone to say something I don't like or agree (basically, anything to do with 'extras', even if its in a jokey way all the way to my hair being too blonde) with and I turn into the worlds biggest bitch. Im talking being majorly sarcastic, up my own arse and down right rude! Seriously, sometimes I even cringe at my own words due to there inappropriatness. Don't get me wrong, if I get on with the customer Im money bags central, so Im not just a shit stripper, it's just with certain people.
Just wondered if anyone else has the same problem, or is my G string simply strung too high(!) LOL! Or maybe Im just not a 'people person'.
Talking to my friends and familly about this is just not an option, so you girlies are my only potential source of sane advice, don't hold back
xxx
Re: Whats with my attitude???
Don't let those people bring you down, just walk away...
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Perhaps because you are "behind the curtain", so to speak, and understand the inner machinations of the business: Mostly smiles on the surface, and a lot of jadedness as well as a touch of disgust toward all the sad PLs you may run into, since you already know their agendas- hidden and apparent.
Anyway, I've been reading some posts on the forum lately discussing that men love bitches (word? lol) and that there is a book by the title "Why Men Love Bitches" or something like that. Maybe you are on your way to earning some extra cash...lol...
Maybe you should try a little social experiment. It seems to me that you are in the perfect situation to test the theory above. Observe how they respond to you. Worse case scenario, you should drop the "Stonewall Jackson". Best case scenario, they beg you to let them give you all their ca$$h so you can be a "bitch" with all the benefits (BWAT lol). A lot of guys are into that-you'd be surprised! It does happen, you know?
Work them girl! lol :D
Hope this helps*
God bless all. :angel:
Re: Whats with my attitude???
Take up a hobby where you can vent aggression, like kickboxing, regular boxing, or well, I don't know, whatever is easiest to fit in.
I get mad at custies also (frequently!), but I just have a mean thought while smiling sweetly and getting more determined to take his money. LOL
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In addition, sometimes these jokers are just tryin to get a rise out of you so you could put it on them.
Let the bitch out and bitch-slap all those bitches lol (just kidding)!
"What did the five fingers say to the face?"
"Slap!"
Dave Chapelle - Charlie Murphy skit
:D
Re: Whats with my attitude???
Thanks girrrls for your pointers, sometimes you just want to know that others go through the same same sh*t as you do. You know what I mean, sometimes this job can make you feel really isolated as your regular i.e. non-dancer friends, can't comprehend the downside to a somewhat "perfect" job and advice from your dancer friends can sometimes feel a little bit bias. Sometimes you can even HEAR their thoughts (for example, "she's having a bad night! More £££ for me, yeah, yeah, yeah!)
cheers again girls. perfect regular customers and fabulous stage shows to all involved xxx
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Alter your look slightly to attract the customers to fit your attitude at the moment. I am notorius for not knowing when to shut my mouth (at times). If I am feeling abusive to the customers I dig out my black vinyl costumes and riding crop, and then I will attract the guys who dig that kind of thing. I used to even have some black wigs on hand so as to not alienate my "regulars" when I am in another personna.
A little schizophrenic? Maybe, but that is part of the fun of this job!
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can you afford to take a bit of time off? if so, that might do you some good, just to get away from it all and relax for even a few days.
I do like the whole "outfit matching the persona" thing...like the poster above said, if you're feeling bitchy, using the dominatrix outfit is a good idea!
personally, when i'm in a bitchy mood and/or dealing with an asshole custy, i put on my sweetest, most innocent smile and start cooing to them in Italian. They have no idea that I'm calling them filthy bastards, i get my frustrations out and can tell them exactly what i think of them without consequences, and to top it off, most guys think it's hot, so i usually make more $! (this will bite me in the ass if i happen to get a rude custy who also speaks Italian, but the chances of that happening aren't great.)
A bitchy attitude can work for you if you figure out a way to *make* it work! :)