Girls I was wondering, what will make a girls feel enought is enought! I am quiting dancing! What will make you throw the shoes in the garabage and say I am done!
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Girls I was wondering, what will make a girls feel enought is enought! I am quiting dancing! What will make you throw the shoes in the garabage and say I am done!
Pretty much the same thing that would make an artist stop painting, or a singer stop singing.
I dance because the sexuality speaks to my soul. I can't help it, I'm a compulsive stripper.
Sometimes I don't like who I am dancing for, or the club I am dancing in, but I always like to dance and to strip.
my past couple of months I have dance. I became stronger! I learn to be in control more of my life. I was talking with a fellow dancer who just couldn't take it anymore dacing at the club. she has been dacing for two months.
I would love to see you dance! A dancer is like a artist expressing her self
I would say that most strippers find out if this job is for them or not in the first month dancing, and most stop stripping within the first year.
Luckily, we don't have to spend 4 years in college in prepreation of a career as a stripper. I've met many college graduates who went into the work world to discover revulsion for careers they spent their entire adult lives studing for.
It's women like you that keep me in this business, lol...Quote:
Originally Posted by Paris
Last night one of our dancers was crying in the dressing room, because she had had two customers cutthroated by a BJ girl. One of the guys, a typical Daytona stud-boy, was french kissing the BJ girl right out on the floor, and then wanted Chimera (the upset dancer--and is this a great name, or what!) to do the same, then blew her off when she refused. Guess what he was tasting, lol...
Well, I would have tried to comfort the girl if I had had time, if I was working--but fortunately I was there to train a new DJ, Katrina. So I had lots of time to tell her she should be proud, not upset--even if she had lost money.
A while before, I had told Katrina to skip her, since I knew she was hurting. But then at the end of the night, we had all of our dancers in VIP, or gone home, or fresh off the stage. I went back in the dressing room to see if there was anyone elseback there who could go up, but not wanting to burden her.
To my surprise and delight, she suddenly announced "I'll go up!".
She went up there and put on one of the best performances I have ever seen. By god, this girl has some spirit!
This business is about as tough as I've seen, and I've seen some tough ones. Most new dancers last 6 months or less--around here, that is. It takes a good heart and an iron will to make it.
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Originally Posted by Paris
Likewise. A health problem would make me stop dancing. Thats about it.
Something funny about stripping is that the less dancers have to do in the private dances (contact wise, that is) the longer the clubs seem to be able to retain their services.
And stage dancing seems to appeal to more women, than lap dancing does. Of course there are always those dancers who prefer to only lap dance, but I think that the majority of women get into the business beacuse of the performance allure, not the sexual contact with strangers for money.
Once a dancer realizes that she is only going to make a living if she aggressively seeks the lap dances, then the allure of the job is diminished. Some people's hearts can't take the constant rejection on a sexual level, so they have to leave the job.
How would most men deal with being rudely rejected by women they normally wouldn't ever think of hitting on, even in their most drunken and horney desperate moment? That is exactly what we are doing day in and day out. No wonder why it is difficult for dancers to stick it out for more than a year.
yes I love the feeling of being on stage! i understand what you guys about the sexuality speaking to your soul...thats how I feel when I am up there as well. I quit dancing though due to panic disorder...blah but I am going back actually next week because I am not going to let it ruin my love of dancing. Paige do you think this is a health problem that should keep me from going back?
Precisely the point I have been trying to make, during the three years I have been a member--to the extent that I now have several guys here who detest me, lol...Quote:
Originally Posted by Paris
I work in a club in which about half the dancers are giving HJs, at least. There has been full-on f*cking in VIP, in some pretty impressive positions, too. Thankfully it has decreased significantly since I started, or so it appears.
If anyone thinks it is easy to make money, retaining their standards and their pride, while the girl 2 feet away is sucking d*ck like there's no tomorrow--they need to think again. I know women who can do it--but such women are rare, except in this business.
i had enough when i couldn't make it through a shift without going into the dressing room and crying because it just wasn't me anymore. i could live without the $$, and my life was going in another direction. i appreciate what dancing helped me to accomplish by providing the means to do so, and that was enough for me.
leilan: maybe dancing is not for you....or maybe you just need a break. take a week or two off if you can afford it, then try again and see how it goes. no shame in either of those things...good luck hun :)
I LOVE stripping, I can't imagine ever wanting to stop! I'll probably be a sad old 80 year old hanging out in kings Cross trying to husstle for a show, lol!
I thought getting my teaching jobwas going to be the reason to quit for good.
Turns out I was wrong. :)
I actually felt so much better about myself dancing over break than I have in the past two years. I guess I may not quit permently until I'm too old to climb on stage.
having to compromise my artistic integrity would make me quit. i make sure I only find clubs where i can dance to what I want to hear and wear what i want as well (that's what makes me most $$, too). oh, and to me a place is only as good as my co-workers and the management. I'm not there to make friends, no, and don't stay in the dressing room any longer than it takes me to change my clothes (even do make up at home), but still i need to be around people that are courteous, honest, polite, respectful, mind their own business, etc. Live and let live. Have had it with having my outfits stolen, two faced management, and people trying to drag you into dramas, gossip, rumors, blah, blah...blegh, lol.
Yup, sounds like it's time for her to take a "dancer vacation." I myself have had to take the occasional week off in order to keep from going TOTALLY NUTS. Dancing is the most fun job I've had by far, but it can also become extremely stressful because it is emotionally and physically draining. Not to mention the outside stresses...sometimes everything from the girts' dirty looks to managements' cold shoulder to the flashing lights and constant loud music makes me feel like I'm gonna lose it. And I am not an overly-sensitive person, sometimes this job just gets to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by xbloodydewdropx
you're dead right, Paris. oh how i've dreamt of a club where i can just do topless stage and no contact topless dances...
(in my dreeeeeeeams)
DJoser please tell me where you work so I know never to go there!
Paris, I feel exactly how you described. If the clubs were still no contact dances and stage I would keep dancing for years. The hours, the smoke, the noise, and the constant pawing and expectations of the clientele have tipped the balance for me this past year. I'd say I'm 95% retired. I'm in school full time now but I know I'll still dance on breaks, can't quite let that last 5% go yet.
The industry itself is starting to disgust me, yet I still love stripping. What I wonder is where do you go with that energy once you're done with the job? Struttin' around the living room in heels doesn't entirely cut it!
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Originally Posted by Nautilus
Move to Utah, that's all there is! lol. In fact, only one club even has private dances, other than that its all stage. And from what I've read on the site, they make about the same about of money.
Of course, then you have to deal with all the other aspects of Utah...which can be a pain in the ass! :D
This is precisely my feeling as well. The only major difference is that I have been dancing all through the industry transition of the past 10 years from 'show' business to 'sex' business, which perhaps makes me even more acutely aware of how much things have changed (and not for the better).Quote:
If the clubs were still no contact dances and stage I would keep dancing for years. The hours, the smoke, the noise, and the constant pawing and expectations of the clientele have tipped the balance for me this past year. I'd say I'm 95% retired (snip)
The industry itself is starting to disgust me, yet I still love stripping.
Unfortunately, there doesn't seem to be any 'time tunnel' available to go back to the good old days. If anything, current trends seem to indicate that higher contact levels and 'extras' are the only part of the strip club industry 'financial engine' that is still 'firing on all cylinders'.
hmmm.... utah eh??
pity your fine country is somewhat stingy in the work visa department -- otherwise i would've been there years ago dancing my little heart out. don't fancy trying to fake my way past your immigration dudes. bunch of stiffs if ever i saw them...
i don't believe they have the smile function. (although given the sh*t certain people have been trying to pull on the US, i understand it).
Dancing is what Im used to...I am still going strong(nearly 10m straight years)....Even through all the opposition the girls are giving me at my club....I do well for myself..I am confident, self-assured...this business isnt going to get the better of me..The more they kick...the harder I will kick back--
That's funny--but it's not as bad as it sounds, and getting better all the time.Quote:
Originally Posted by sunkissedbeachbunni
I would of course prefer to work in an elegant showclub, but there aren't any around here, lol...
Besides, the place is so damned crazy, it's actually very funny--if you're in the right mood. Like National Lamppon's Animal House meets a stripclub, and lots of great stories to tell the grandchildren someday.
We also have a lot of new dancers who are for the most part pretty clean, and a real pleasure to put onstage. This will in the long run make things much more tolerable for the other cool ones.
But never mind all that, lol--just stay away from Daytona Beach, period, that's my advice. It's great for redneck race fans, bikers, and surfer punks, but that's about it.
Dancing can be taxing emotionally. I really do enjoy stripping, esp the stage, that is the best part! I love it, and don't plan on stopping anytime soon, but I have exp burnout, maybe that is what you are going through like everyone said
This must make you much more fearless in life once you conquer the fear of rejection though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Paris