Re: I can't take this s?#@t anymore!
I think about quitting all the time. I dance in San Francisco and find it hard to keep my boundaries firm about how much contact the customers want. There is alot of sex for sale here and the customers always try to push you. I'm getting tired of it. I hear stories of how it used to be, more dancing on stage and less lap dancing (alot of which is not really "lapdancing" around here), and I wish it was like that now. It's hard to compete with girls who are doing extras. I wish prostitution was legalized or decriminalized so that there could be seperate places for just dancing and other places for sex. Perhaps that way the girls would have more of a choice.
Re: I can't take this s?#@t anymore!
For starters, I work in the bible belt. So it is primarily topless only and no contact lap dances. Not that anyone follows those rules.
But . . . I try to stand up for myself with clients. I've had to tell several of them to kiss off. I've only been dancing for about four years and it's been pretty much a sex/drug industry. Which saddens me, because I like the way being on stage makes me feel. A power trip, or something like that. It's in my blood I suppose. Not to say that in the past I haven't done an extra or two for a regular that takes care of me, but generally I try to keep my "rules" in tact. Which, makes it very difficult to make money. I've been lucky (I've got a nice ass . . . lol) so I still make money.
I've felt at times that I should quit, but then I just change clubs. I try to work for places that let me be who I am and make me feel safe.