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Customer who feels God brought us together
Someone please help. There is a guy who comes into my club who is like crazy in love with me. Ok, I have a bad habit of not getting my stories to the point, but I'm going to make an attempt right now.
The BASICS
* Been coming into the club EVERYTIME I work for the past 3 weeks to see me. <--He knows my schedule.
* Even if I'm not on schedule, he'll come up there to hang out with the door guys.
* He's bought me flowers to work, then diamond earrings
*Oh yea, he knows I don't drive, so he was willing to let me "have" his truck while he's overseas (til like November)
Ok, now for me, all of this was ok up until like a week ago. He came in during my dayshift (I have a reg. for that day) and left a letter for me. He gave it to the door guy, who then put it on the bar for me to pick up after I got out of VIP.
Basically the letter says (typed on a computer mind you) he's thankful to have me in his life. And had I not quit my corp job, and he never went on military leave (his dads in hospital w/cancer) we would not have met. He really feels like faith, and the Lord brought us together. He even mentioned that he's told his family about me. That I am somebody that he would spend the rest of his life with. He didn't mention what I do or anything, but just "about why he's so happy"
Everytime I get ready to break it down to him he asks for a dance, and off we go. I know its my job to make money off of men, but geez, I think he's in a lil over his head :-\
Any suggestions,
CK
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Re: Customer who feels God brought us together
I hate when ppl look for sympathy to try to bang you... so friggin' ghey. Now the Lord too?? lol. Sorry.
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Re: Customer who feels God brought us together
He says God brought you to him ???
Yikes.
STALKER ALERT !
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Re: Customer who feels God brought us together
Yea really red flag this guy. Id somehow get some personal information on this guy...just in case.
I say still string him along as long as you can. He'll 'get it' that youll never be together. Might flip out might go pick someone else. But then again he justs wants to see you and hang out with you.
Is he a young guy?
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He's 23, I'm 22. He's supposed to be leaving for Korea in another week or so. But he's always changing the date..so I dunno
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Ahhh I see. Hes young, hasnt had many break ups or let downs. Most likely harmless (get some info anyway) and 'young in love'.
Hey he wants to give you money dont feel bad about taking it all.
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Typed letters to you..... uh....whoa.....hold up, wait a minute..... why type? STALKER, take every dollar you can from him ITC, don't let him get any closer than he already is or he is gonna lose it someday when you break the news that your relationship is purely, custy to stripper.
3 weeks and he's bringing in diamond earrings? Yeah, those are the ones to watch out for, they think they own you when you accept their "gifts".
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be careful hun!!!! That really is starting to sound like a stalker!
maybe you should sit down with him and tell him how it is, even if he asks for a dance. You need to let him know that you aren't going to date. No sense in leading him on, b/c there's no telling what he would do when he realizes you were just lying to him about wanting to be with him
i wish i had better advice hun. I know you want the money, and hell i don't blame you...but is it worth it to have a stalker?
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Eh, tell him you don't believe in God. LOL
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Re: Customer who feels God brought us together
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Originally Posted by hannah83
maybe you should sit down with him and tell him how it is,
Yea, this is what I'm going to have to do. Shit, I have to work tonight too. I just am not in the mood to see him walking around the club watching me, waiting on me to "see" him. I swear he is good to walk into my "vicinity" when I'm talking with a customer. He never walks up to me...just in my "area" :-\
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Uh....I don't normally go to say.....the Fire department and hover around anyone, nor do I type out letters to someone who for all intents and purposes I don't really know.
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CK I think you need to drop him. Yes you are making money from him but is it worth him turning into an obsessive stalker and you possibly being found dead somewhere. I know its kind of worse case but he seriously sounds like he could turn this way. Maybe even talk to mgmt about him, see if hes been around before. That way they at least have a heads up.
Good luck hunny.
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Oh trust me...they know all about him. One of the bouncers (female) keeps asking me when I'm going to let her put him out. I keep telling her I dont want any trouble, but now I'm starting to think I just may let her.
I'll keep you guys posted.
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Re: Customer who feels God brought us together
Why can't you just tell him your really married or you have a boyfriend already?
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^^^ I don't like lying to people Big D. Maybe if he gets to persistant I'll have no other choice.
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the truth works...he creeps you out!
the boyfriend/husband doesn't really work if someone is nutty enough. They jsut think he's not good enough for you and tries to talk you into being with him.
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Just tell him the truth, that his odd behavior is making you somewhat uncomfy and then you can lead into what are appropriate customer boundaries.
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I have to agree with the truth angle here. I would soften the blow slightly, maybe say this is moving a bit too fast for me and I'm uncomfortable. Then say something along the lines of I'm not sure what you expect out of this but, for now I would like to keep this a customer/dancer relationship. Then we can work on friendship, but for now you have to slow your roll
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CK;
always use your own judgment and never, never, never string along a customer that makes you feel unsafe.
If you feel unsafe, like the customer is over involved, you cannot keep taking their money. You are putting yourself at risk. It also confuses him. If he has made his intentions clear and you are amenable to them under certain circumstances - he may not be stalking you. He may just think you really like him. Be very clear. If you don't feel under immediate threat tell him straight up that you think he is nice, but that you like being friends with him in the club, not outside of it. If it has progressed beyond that tell him that you don't want to see him anymore. Do not make any explanations for him to latch on to. Do not give him anything to fixate on, or to try to fix. Just no more, full stop.
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Sounds like someday we'll be reading about "Volta Cinammonkisses"
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^^^ That dude is Nuts Wise! Please don't jinx me...
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Originally Posted by WiseGuy_TX
Sounds like someday we'll be reading about
Sorry to go O.T. but our community is mentioned: 5/16 Through an email message from one of the participants, Jeff discovers that since December, both he and this website have been the subject of "flaming" by exotic dancers who participate in the Stripperweb.com blog. "The fact that these participants have actually wasted this much time trying to discredit me and this effort is highly unfortunate," Jeff comments. "But the greatest damage is not to me, but to themselves and their own occupation. Their cynical assumptions and public admission of outright deceit only serve to reinforce the notion that strippers are brazen manipulators only after the money of desperate men whom they assume are too inferior to find relationships elsewhere. They obviously have not read this website very carefully or thought very deeply about all the circumstances and complexity of this case.
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Originally Posted by Cally
CK I think you need to drop him. Yes you are making money from him but is it worth him turning into an obsessive stalker and you possibly being found dead somewhere.
you may as well suggest that every dancer get rid of her regulars. :P
if you want to get rid of him, then try picking your nose in front of him. if he starts his, "god united us," nonsense, then you should say, "i have to take a dump." when you return, tell him, "i saw jesus' image on my feces." ;)
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Originally Posted by Loli
you may as well suggest that every dancer get rid of her regulars. :P
NONE of my regulars are as scary as the one CK has mentioned. Yes you always run a risk of getting a stalker but this guy is beyond creep material. The behaviour he is showing screams 'high risk' Hell my regulars are the sweetest guys... Im still careful with them but I feel no threat what so ever.
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Be careful, you could have a stalker situation arising.