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Strip clubs and sexual addiction
I am a sex addict. I can't stay out of strip clubs. Strippers may be the most addictive substance of which I have partaken. Should strip clubs be liable for my addiction? I don't think so but I just can't stop myself....I'm feeling the pull now...reaching in my pocket, two hundred dollars, good! And off I go.....}:D
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If you're a sex addict, you're in the wrong place visiting a strip club. You'd do better in a swingers group or the like.
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Actually I'm addicted to chasing sex, getting it is really only 10% of the fun.Thats why I love strip clubs...flirting mostly, sexual inuendo, but rarely anything that actually could be called sex.
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That is sexual addiction, Skank. The anticipation is giving you a chemical rush. It is a classical description.
If you find yourself starting to get into work cuz you dick needs to get rubbed, or your spending money you really shouldn't be, or that it is making you unhappy - then maybe you should really think about joining a group to learn more about this sort of thing.
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Admitting it is the biggest step, so good for you. The next is getting help for your problem.
Here is a place to start: http://saa-recovery.org/
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If sex is what you want you better take more than $200 little ones!
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Originally Posted by skanklover
I am a sex addict. I can't stay out of strip clubs. Strippers may be the most addictive substance of which I have partaken. Should strip clubs be liable for my addiction? I don't think so but I just can't stop myself....I'm feeling the pull now...reaching in my pocket, two hundred dollars, good! And off I go.....}:D
Get help, this is just not healthy. You live in a fantasy world, you should do something more productive w/ your life than going to SC's all the time. This can really affect your real relationships. :O
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Originally Posted by alicia0033
Get help, this is just not healthy. You live in a fantasy world, you should do something more productive w/ your life than going to SC's all the time. This can really affect your real relationships.
don't forget to mention that when you're selling that next dance...
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Originally Posted by Deogol
If you find yourself starting to get into work cuz you dick needs to get rubbed, or your spending money you really shouldn't be, or that it is making you unhappy - then maybe you should really think about joining a group to learn more about this sort of thing.
Words to live by. If your just joking around her SL that's one thing. If you are falling into the pattern that Deogol has outlined it's time to pull back and maybe seek help.
Never spend the milk money.
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It must really suck to be a man. I wouldn't like having to go to a SC all the time just to get people to pay attention to me. I love being a hot chick who can casually bring sex into most conversations. (Given the dude's girlfriend isn't there, that usually doesn't go over well!)
But I agree, I enjoy the sexual banter I partake in while working. After all the bullshit is said and done though, I prefer leaving at the end of the night with a pocketful of money. Not vice-versa!
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Originally Posted by CrazySassyCassy
I wouldn't like having to go to a SC all the time just to get people to pay attention to me.
Wow your regulars must really love being stereotyped and made into objects of contempt and pity like that... if you have any regulars, that is....
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Lol, you're right - I prefer fresh meat :)
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Get help if you think you need it - think moderation if you cant think that way you have a problem .
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I dunno...Even as a dancer I found stripclubs to be pretty addictive--and it wasn't just the money, either, not by a long shot.
If I were a guy, I'd probably be a total PL. :-\
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Originally Posted by skanklover
Actually I'm addicted to chasing sex, getting it is really only 10% of the fun.Thats why I love strip clubs...flirting mostly, sexual inuendo, but rarely anything that actually could be called sex.
DING DING DING.
I can be the same way.. why I would never visit a hooker. I mean, sex is great, but chasing sex, the flirting process, the cat and mouse game, is so freakin fun!
However I don't expect it when I go to SC's.. I'm talking more along the lines of meeting a girl in the bar and seeing just how far I can get with her
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Thanks for the replies....yes, it is the chemical rush induced by flirtation that feeds my addiction. For some reason Strip Clubs seem like an appropriate place for me to get this fix. There are no expectations on my part that the girls have an interest in me other than some money or casual conversation, and at the same time I also know that in most cases no matter how much money I shell out to a stripper, or any woman, if she wants to fuck you she will, unless she's a whore. The bottom line is that aside from internet chat the strip club environment is a unique place where a young, married, successful guy like myself can get that rush without having to worry about what happens the next day...and more importantly, a place where the relationships are clear and understood. I just don't know where else I would be able to meet some hot peice of ass from the ghetto, college, wherevever, and have flirtatious conversation without feeling like I'm looking for an affair or girlfriend. I have a very full life, however, my addiction is right there and very easily accessible....I function just fine, but then again so do many heroin addicts. I guess the biggest problem I see is that I come to a site like this and see all the dancers calling guys like me losers and then I begin to think that maybe I have a problem, because I have friends who are dancers and have had long discussions about their motivations, and many times they have told me that they get the same rush SOMETIMES meeting new guys and flirting in a place that they are in control. I believe the dynamics of my addiction, and probably many of the guys on this site have it, is different than pure sexual addiction, which is more of an ego driven I can conquer anything state of mind...I screw therefore I am.
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Originally Posted by CrazySassyCassy
It must really suck to be a man. I wouldn't like having to go to a SC all the time just to get people to pay attention to me. I love being a hot chick who can casually bring sex into most conversations. (Given the dude's girlfriend isn't there, that usually doesn't go over well!)
But I agree, I enjoy the sexual banter I partake in while working. After all the bullshit is said and done though, I prefer leaving at the end of the night with a pocketful of money. Not vice-versa!
A lady who dressed as a man - she says it is better to be a lady
"Self Made Man" You can find it on bn.com.
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Originally Posted by Deogol
A lady who dressed as a man - she says it is better to be a lady
"Self Made Man" You can find it on bn.com.
"She analyzes the dating scene from the male perspective, emphasizing the need for males to be able to deal with rejection 90 percent of the time and describing the toll this takes on the male ego. "
(From the synopsis), the book looks pretty interesting, thanks. :) I'm sure it would make me sympathize with men more. However, I am still happy to be a woman!!
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Originally Posted by dlabtot
Wow your regulars must really love being stereotyped and made into objects of contempt and pity like that... if you have any regulars, that is....
Oh she has regulars, alright--everyone loves her. Her remarks must be taken in context...
My stepfather has recently begun coming in the club. This has been very good for him, since my mom passed away about three months ago. He doesn't go into VIP, he just enjoys watching the scene, and being a gentleman, he tips all the dancers.
He was a serious player in Detroit, back in the day--before he met my mom, that is. A guy who has had his fill of female attention, and received far more of it than the vast majority of other men.
Cassy is his favorite. If I thought for a single second she was playing him or he was making a mistake, I would let him know.
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Originally Posted by Djoser
Oh she has regulars, alright--everyone loves her. Her remarks must be taken in context...
My stepfather has recently begun coming in the club. This has been very good for him, since my mom passed away about three months ago. He doesn't go into VIP, he just enjoys watching the scene, and being a gentleman, he tips all the dancers.
He was a serious player in Detroit, back in the day--before he met my mom, that is. A guy who has had his fill of female attention, and received far more of it than the vast majority of other men.
Cassy is his favorite. If I thought for a single second she was playing him or he was making a mistake, I would let him know.
How chivalrous of you to leap to her defense, however, I doubt she really needs a knight to protect her from my comments...
She did indeed express the stereotype of SC patrons "having to go to a SC all the time just to get people to pay attention to me". Especially because the thread isn't even about someone who can't get attention any other way, I'll take her at her word and trust that that is what she really thinks of your father. Whether that means she is 'playing' him or whether he is making a mistake are judgements I don't feel informed enough to make.
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dlabtot, what's your problem with an off-the-clock opinion? no one's trying to sell lapdances right now, nor should they be trying to.
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Originally Posted by dlabtot
How chivalrous of you to leap to her defense, however, I doubt she really needs a knight to protect her from my comments...
Do I detect sarcasm?
I'm not leaping to her defense, man--I'm setting the record straight. She is perfectly capable of defending herself, but I can easily provide evidence to the contrary of your supposition.
Cassy has regulars, and they love her.
The context of this thread needs to be kept in mind. It was started by someone who has an addiction to strippers, or so it would seem. A person who has an addiction is generally not in control of the situation.
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Originally Posted by red red red
dlabtot, what's your problem with an off-the-clock opinion? no one's trying to sell lapdances right now, nor should they be trying to.
^Lol, thank you!^
To set the record straight, I dislike most customers (probably not more than they dislike me). However, I generally choose to keep my mouth shut when these instances occur, and walk the other direction.
I do make good money with the ones that I choose to, and I also believe I show them a good time.
dlabtot - I apologize for having touched on an obviously sensitive spot in your ego.
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Originally Posted by CrazySassyCassy
To set the record straight, I dislike most customers (probably not more than they dislike me).
I'm sure the mutual dislike you and your customers feel for each other makes for some great, fun times in the club... I wish I could spend my money on someone I don't like, who doesn't like me... that sounds like a wonderful time ::)
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Originally Posted by CrazySassyCassy
dlabtot - I apologize for having touched on an obviously sensitive spot in your ego.
LOL!!! Nice try!!! http://anarchy.soak.net/smileys/rofl.gif
Let's make it mutual then: I 'apologize' for touching on an obviously sensitive spot on YOUR ego as well... ;)
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Since I dont know either of you that well (Cassy and dlabtot) I cant tell if you are fighting or flirting. In either case, the personal back and forth is off topic and needs to stop right now (have fun in PM if you want). Lets stay focused on strip club addiction (I can relate to that :P ) without the personal comments. Otherwise......
FBR