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Wow, you can hear that well in your club.... I only wish it was like that here, we have to yell just to hold a converstation...:)
If I come across a guy like that, that i know isnt giving me any of his money, I stay for my two songs still. I try to talk to him or I stick out my tounge(I do lots of toungue tricks) to try to get him to smile at least. I also watch to see who he pays the most attention to and ask if he would like me to intorduce them. Usually after two songs i let him know that it has been nive hanging out, but i really have to get back to work.I always tell him have a great night.
Sometimes in staying for the two songs, I can get a drink"for my time". Good luck!
If you dont want to wait two songs, you can always intoduce yourself, ask how he is doing and let him know you are walking around saying hi to everybody. Then get up and leave, but make sure all the guys who are sitting alone, you walk up and introduce yourself.
I do this every night anyway, because one of the biggest complaints from our rival club is that no one talks to the guys. I try to say hi to every guy that comes in. Usually before I go on stage, I excuse myself one song early and make my rounds. This is a great way to get more guys at the stage too. and now they "know" one of the girls.
Ok sorry i got a little off subject there, but i hope this helps!
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There's no need to be rude. Just tell him you have to go do something. You can even say, "Excuse me, I have to go do something" and walk away. Play it off like dancer-flakiness and move on.
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I just say "it was nice talking to you or meeting you (even if it wasn't) and I'll be around in case you need anything". And then if there's a 2 for 1 or something laterI'll still ask cause sometimes they actually like you, they just aren't the talkative type. Or if the other girls have been rude, he'll remember you in a good way or if he's ever back in a better mood he might remember you nd spend $$$.
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" Nice to meet you anyway, I'll leave you to enjoy the shows - enjoy your evening!" and smile (-:
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Thats what I do....I know someone is always watching.
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I am always gracious and nice in most cases. Usually, when I notice he does NOT want to spend money on me or even talk to me I just smile and squeeze his knee and say that I hope he enjoys the rest of his night then sometimes with a wink and a look back I'm on my way hopping off the chair or off his lap to go elsewhere.
The only times I am slightly mean is if some drunk idiot is all touching me everywhere and trying to talk to me forever for free and I see he has no money to spend but he's trying to lead me on... sometimes I get frustrated and blow him off and walk away... OR if some guy tries to hustle me I usually start demanding things from him and then walk away once I got him to do something *I* wanted him to do... hmph! I'm really losing patience for those 2 categories of guys.
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I hate it when guys give one-word answers to everything! It's so hard to talk to them.
Me: Hey, how are you doing today?
Customer: Fine.
Me: I'm _____, what's your name?
Customer: Bob.
Me: Do you live around here, or are you from out of town?
Customer: Here.
Whenever they act like this, I usually assume they're not interested in me and I cut to the chase and ask for a dance as quickly as possible. Sometimes they surprise me and buy a dance. Some guys don't really like to talk but would rather just get dances, and some guys really are interested in you, but they're shy or don't have the greatest social skills.
If the customer turns down a dance or says maybe later, I smile and tell them I hope they have fun (unless they're a total ass). Once in a while, they change their minds and get a dance from me later because I was nice to them. It usually pays to be nice!
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sorry, i'll try harder next time
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Originally Posted by aussiepunkshocker
" Nice to meet you anyway, I'll leave you to enjoy the shows - enjoy your evening!" and smile (-:
Do you really manage to do this, even if they are totally rude to you? LIke turning their back on you rude?
YOu are a better person than I am, but I will give this a shot!
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^^^^ Well, if they turn their back to me I guess I would just put my hand on their shoulder and wish them a good night and rush off... once I was talking to this guy for less than one minute and I swear he pulled out his cell phone pretended to talk to his friend and walked away in the middle of me just introducing myself. Hahahahaha, I was sitting there baffled and insulted. Well, he literally got up and walked away in the middle of me talking so I didn't make any attempts to chase him down to wish him a good night or anything, just left it at that. Lol, what could you have done about that anyways?
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oh yes i have had that happen to me sometimes too and i usually just leave and don't even ask the guy for a dance because he makes me uncomfortable. :O
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Originally Posted by blondhottie
I hate it when guys give one-word answers to everything! It's so hard to talk to them.
Me: Hey, how are you doing today?
Customer: Fine.
Me: I'm _____, what's your name?
Customer: Bob.
Me: Do you live around here, or are you from out of town?
Customer: Here.
Whenever they act like this, I usually assume they're not interested in me and I cut to the chase and ask for a dance as quickly as possible. Sometimes they surprise me and buy a dance. Some guys don't really like to talk but would rather just get dances, and some guys really are interested in you, but they're shy or don't have the greatest social skills.
If the customer turns down a dance or says maybe later, I smile and tell them I hope they have fun (unless they're a total ass). Once in a while, they change their minds and get a dance from me later because I was nice to them. It usually pays to be nice!
I completely agree with you on this. I always go back and ask if they would a dance and most the time they do. It is only the jerks who so oh well come back in a little while blah blah blah and when you do you completely wasted your time and couldve been talking to another customer. :-\
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ok, sometimes dancers come and sit,but at that moment honestly we dont really feel like taking a dance. If we say"come back later we'll dance" she's probably heard it 100 times that night and might think we r the same jerks that come in bec we r in our early 20's,so what would you suggest we say,something that wont make you feel bad and kinda show you we want a dance but not now.
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Nylonfeetlover, if you really like the girl and do want a dance later...why not give her half the dance $$ tell her to come back after a while to give the dance and get the rest of the $$. This way she knows there is definitely interest and money to be made with you. Just don't be upset if she never makes it back, she could get taken to VIP or have a regular show up.
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Originally Posted by colleen
We ahve all had this happen. You apprach a guy and you can tell from the first 30 seconds that you are going to get blown off. Either the guy won't look at you, won't uncross his arms, gives one-word answers, tells you his day is going terrible, or some such.
How do you gracefully exit the situation without seeming rude or looking like a loser. Where I work, everybody can hear everybody else's conversation, so being rude will come back at you.
Just don't get into the situation. You can tell on the approach if they're totally not in to you. Then just smile at them and say hi on your way by.
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Sometimes they just need to relax and have a couple of drinks. I say, okay, I'll come back later unless they insist that I don't. Make your rounds and wait a hour and then see if he is in a more approachable mood. If not, just let him be.
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If I have a feeling that he is just not into me, I will say:
"I was just stopping by to introduce myself and to make sure you were having a good time. I hope you enjoy your evening."
I do this so that I seem like I am a hostess and that I was not offering anything that he could reject (dances, company). I come out a winner!