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stalked by dancer at work - what to do??...
One of my coworkers and best buddies met a stripper while on his night gig as a cop. According to him he just met her while on duty patrolling the strip club whereabouts and hooked up with her (maybe even paid her for it) - well that's fine and dandy so far - none of my business. Mind u this guy is not a player, just a regular horny dude.
The problem is that now this chick wont leave him alone - calling, texting him everyday and what pissed me off showing up frequently with her kid at our day gig (office-like environment at a college) telling our bewildered employees he owes her money and he needs to call her back, and all this dramatic BS that has no place at work. I dont wanna offend any1 here but needless to say, she totally stands out with her clothing, looks and attitude - Ive seen her. Our employees (college kids) have a field day gossiping, and are already losing respect for him; the big boss already heard about this and she's angry; bad image thing for him, he might get canned soon.
I'm asking your advice on how to stop the nonsense. I'm sure he has done all he could to tell her to stop, but Id like to ask what kind of tactful/subtle actions he can take to make her stop this behavior - I figured maybe some1 here has been in a similar situation (victim or perpetrator) and has some good insights to share. I suspect that this chick for sure has some major problems in her life and that definately not all strippers are like her - I dont wanna come off as saying I think like that and pissing off people here. I respect anyone with the balls to work in an industry with such negative image and social consequences.
Any help? We dont wanna have to get security involved or anything like that...
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Uhm, nothing tactful and subtle is going to happen.
A) Don't sleep with her.
B) If you refuse to follow A, get to know her well enough to know she wont do this.
C) If a A and B are ignored, you're equally responsible, and if it begins to involve your friends and drama insues, follow legal action. Just like you would with anyone else.
Just cause she's a dancer doesn't mean there is some secret handshake to shut her off. I find it kinda offending that you come here looking for that. As a matter of fact, her being a dancer only had to do with where they met, and your buddy's apparent low level of respect for her because of her job.
My humble opinion.
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Welll after the 1st attempt to set her down and tell her to behave like a big girl and not stalk him anymore then theres not much to do. Best way he can take a stanse is a restraining order (damn these should have been x-mas gifts for some people) against her which she might violate and be taken into custody b/c of her actions. I hope he has proof of her stalking.
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OK, thanks for the feedback - this is really his own damn fault, had nothing to do cause she happened to be a stripper - I just though you guys might have some good, creative ideas.
Yeah, restraining order sounds about right - he better do it soon or his ass'll be fired :P
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Originally Posted by stalked_by_dancer
One of my coworkers and best buddies met a stripper while on his night gig as a cop. According to him he just met her while on duty patrolling the strip club whereabouts and hooked up with her (maybe even paid her for it) - well that's fine and dandy so far - none of my business. Mind u this guy is not a player, just a regular horny dude.
The problem is that now this chick wont leave him alone - calling, texting him everyday and what pissed me off showing up frequently with her kid at our day gig (office-like environment at a college) telling our bewildered employees he owes her money and he needs to call her back, and all this dramatic BS that has no place at work. I dont wanna offend any1 here but needless to say, she totally stands out with her clothing, looks and attitude - Ive seen her. Our employees (college kids) have a field day gossiping, and are already losing respect for him; the big boss already heard about this and she's angry; bad image thing for him, he might get canned soon.
I'm asking your advice on how to stop the nonsense. I'm sure he has done all he could to tell her to stop, but Id like to ask what kind of tactful/subtle actions he can take to make her stop this behavior - I figured maybe some1 here has been in a similar situation (victim or perpetrator) and has some good insights to share. I suspect that this chick for sure has some major problems in her life and that definately not all strippers are like her - I dont wanna come off as saying I think like that and pissing off people here. I respect anyone with the balls to work in an industry with such negative image and social consequences.
Any help? We dont wanna have to get security involved or anything like that...
Maybe he should just pay her the fucking money he promised he would for sleeping with her.
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Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
Uhm, nothing tactful and subtle is going to happen.
A) Don't sleep with her.
B) If you refuse to follow A, get to know her well enough to know she wont do this.
C) If a A and B are ignored, you're equally responsible,
Blaming the victim. Great. Maybe it's an unheard of concept for you, but sometimes men and women meet, hit it off, then go home and fuck. No extended courtship involving dating or background checks. Harrassing the fuckee after the fact isn't part of the deal.
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Just cause she's a dancer doesn't mean there is some secret handshake to shut her off. I find it kinda offending that you come here looking for that. As a matter of fact, her being a dancer only had to do with where they met, and your buddy's apparent low level of respect for her because of her job.
My humble opinion.
Barf. Good thing your here to defend the honor of all the helpless fair maiden strippers. What did all the poor weak young girls do before you showed up? No WAY am I going to show you the handshake.
That said, perhaps this would be a better source of information for the poster's friend:
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"Creative" ways to get rid of a stalker? There are only two ways that come to mind; Tell her to leave you alone or call the cops.
I'm assuming that your friend doesn't owe her any money or that he didn't make any promises to her in the heat of passion that he is now trying to back-out on.
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A stalker is a stalker whoever it is -call the cops make a report.But I have a feeling there is more to this story then we all know .
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Originally Posted by CuriousJ
.But I have a feeling there is more to this story then we all know .
It sounds pretty thin, and so far I can't see how he's in "danger" from her and her kid. Anytime I hear "my friend....yada yada yada bullshit."
If true at all, this does sound more like somebody trying to collect on a debt, especially if she brings a small child along. Why would somebody post a phony story like this... who knows, it is wonderland after all.
^^ [Sorry to snap at you Mast, had a terrible night at the office. :( ]
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I have just the the problem the other way a cop wants to date me at my club I am freindly with him but do not want to date him.while dating him I could be gold but if we break up who wants a pissed off cop as an ex so In my opion better not to start.the owner of the club and the other dancers also want me to blow him off.but still have to discourage him nicely or I could have the same problem.
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Originally Posted by CTBA
Blaming the victim. Great. Maybe it's an unheard of concept for you, but sometimes men and women meet, hit it off, then go home and fuck. No extended courtship involving dating or background checks. Harrassing the fuckee after the fact isn't part of the deal.
Maybe it's an unheard of concept to you, but, If you had a guy stalking you after fucking, maybe (and I may not be clear here) but, maybe if it's affecting you're day job you should concider, perhaps, a restraining order, paying what is potentially due, solving the problem like an adult. Maybe coming to a msg board looking for the easy way out only proves his friend is partially responsible for his actions? I'd have no problem seeking a restraining order immidiatly if I was stalked. If he's so free and clear of guilt in your eyes to attack me for it, why cant he? Why does he have to have a buddy ask other strippers? Thanks for clearing it up for me though. I'll just fuck the next person I see and not wear a condom and if I get herpes for it, I'll blame her, cause it wasn't MY responsibility to put on a rubber, it was her's she should have it tattood on her vagina so I am free and clear of mutual responsibility.
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Originally Posted by CTBA
Barf. Good thing your here to defend the honor of all the helpless fair maiden strippers. What did all the poor weak young girls do before you showed up? No WAY am I going to show you the handshake.
Wow, you're really fixated on that huh? ::) In this case, I'm not defending the honor of strippers, (however I am sure I was before :'( ) I'm only pointing out that she showed up at his place of work because he owed something to her. Not because she was a stripper, and his friend came here wondering why, because he thinks she's a stripper. I'm allowed to find that as offending material, tho it did not offend me personally. Oh wait! I forgot, she could have gone to the collection agency! 'Yes I fucked this guy for 600.00 and he only paid me 335.00, can I please have you guys go after him so I don't have to bring my kid to his place of business?' *siighhh*
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Originally Posted by CTBA
[Sorry to snap at you Mast, had a terrible night at the office. ]
Don't patronize me. You meant what you said, or else you'd have hit the delete key. You don't like me. I am more than OK with that. I'm not to fond of people who refuse to accept the fact that in situations like these that potentially the stalker IS the victim. Regardless of how I came to conclusion (Yes you can say mast used is super honor stripper love respect heroism to just assume that the stripper isn't at fault because you barf at that) you came to the same conclusion.
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Originally Posted by ctba
If true at all, this does sound more like somebody trying to collect on a debt, especially if she brings a small child along. Why would somebody post a phony story like this... who knows, it is wonderland after all.
Don't attack me for my opinion on the board than blame it on a horrible night at the office. Especially if it turns out you agree. It's unbecoming of you and your hard-assed nature. You don't have to like me to be here. But if my opinions bother you that much, use the ignore function.
Mast.
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Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
It's unbecoming of you and your hard-ass.....
Mast.
I like my hard ass. I spend many hours in the gym getting it firm, tight, and hard.
Unbecoming you say....pffft. :P
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Wow, this is a strange thread, lol...
Lot's of unanswered questions--like why isn't the guy himself posting? Does his friend owe the woman money? Did he sleep with her?
If you sleep with someone for money, and don't pay them all of it, you'll get no sympathy from me.
But stalkers are stalkers, and need to be restrained, one way or another. They are out there, male and female both.
I wouldn't want some of the women I work with coming around my 'other business' contacts, that's for sure! Some of them are crazy, and could ruin everything. Some of the customers in my club could easily do the same.
But please, let's have peace here, or FBR and JZ may smite us all, lol...
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Methinks poster == friend.
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"I respect anyone with the balls to work in an industry with such negative image and social consequences."
While there is always the negative, please remember there is positive as well.
I do not understand why someone who is a cop( I think you said.... or your familiar with cops) would have to post about solving a stalker issue? This is the reason I am in agreement with the majority of posts on here. If you had respect for dancers, I hope you would understand that we are just the same as everyone else... and there are no "creative" ways to brush dancers under the rug. Be a man and fix the situation... whether it be by paying what you owe this lady or filing a complaint.(or your buddy.)
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Where did this dancer get all this information? How did she know where the day job was? Does he owe her money? Are you sure? Seriously - does he owe her money? It's really annoying when you perform a service and then don't get paid what you are promised. That seems to me to be a very likely scenario. If that is not the case - call the police. File a report. Calling a certain number of times in a day is harssment - however, be warned that if he did jerk her around over a fee, they are going to find out, and that will be more embarrassing than the college kids gossiping about the "conspicuous" woman at the office.
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To the original poster: Have your "friend the cop" arrest the stripper on trumped up charges of prostitution and inciting a riot, or alternatively on a gun charge which your "cop friend" planted on the stripper's person/car. You know the usual "cop" thing.
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I want to stalk DJ!!!
A couple of things: Is it me, or is it odd that the orginal poster's screen name is stalked by...etc?
If his friend is a cop, why does he need basic legal advice? Just wondering.
Somehow, I can't for the life of me picture a cop working in an office. The cops I have known work nights/weekends/off days as security/bouncers, etc. Ok I know he said he's a night working cop, but it sounds unusual.
Maybe I am making a useless contribution here?
My experience as a stalkee: an ex bf looked up my info, then phoned me. I told him, don't call me, so he wrote letters. I told him by certified mail, don't contact me, in ANY way, EVER, then filled out a police report. He was contacted by police & told not to bother me again, or risk arrest. So far so good, no more contact from him.
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he was supposed to pay her to fuck and didnt. she's pissed and wants her money. thats what i think. collecting a debt is hardly stalking.
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It's both their faults.He should have paid her upfront and she should have made sure of that as well.
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The old "I have a friend..." ruse is still being used, I see.
Why did you come here to ask this question? Do you figure because this is a website for and about strippers and stripping, that we'd have some pat answer for you?
I find it odd that your "friend" is a cop and isn't at least somewhat aware of the stalking statutes in his own state.
Sounds like stupid troll bullshit to me.
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Sounds like stupid troll bullshit to me.
My thoughts as well.
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Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
Methinks poster == friend.
yeah, that's what I was thinking. Does anyone actually post things for "friends"?
So I have this friend who just got home from work and she's really tired but she just can't stop reading stripperweb. What should she do?
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Yall are right. it does sound troll! but it was ok maybe it is really him or maybe he is just BORED!