Re: I can't stand guys like this...
I give respect to those that deserve respect, and forget the label "man" and "woman", both sexes have there bad apples. The strip club is a microcosm of real world personalities although do to relaxed social norms our personalities, and there defects, are on the surface, for both sexes. If your a skanky whore already then thats what your going to be in the club just way more out there and overt. If your a nice girl who doesn't mind being naked but is not a skanky whore then thats what you will be. And if your a no class asshole loser who objectifies women and and doesn't respect women anywhere then thats what your going to see in its most gross form in the club. I myself love women. I love the way their bodies look and, certainly in the appropriate situation, feel. Sadly, many many times us good guys who really just haven't gotten over the excitement of looking at our dads playboys and maybe never will get lumped together with the creeps who I do know permeate all places where they feel they can get something for nothing or use there "customer" status to treat the "help" as inferior.
Re: I can't stand guys like this...
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Originally Posted by Bridgette
Uh, actually the older men are WORSE. They're jaded.
Lol, funny, that's the same thing some guys say about older strippers.
OK, but seriously. Being a dickhead doesn't really come with an age requirement attached. I was a very respectfull guy in the clubs when I was 25 and I'm equally as respectfull in my late 40's. By the same token I see guys acting like jerks in all walks of life when I go to the clubs. I don't think guys change all that much as they grow older, you either started out on the right foot or you didn't.
Re: I can't stand guys like this...
I think a lot of it depends on how these men were raised by their parents. If they saw their mother get beat up by their dad, and she let herself be a victim, the man in question will probably have a default personality trait of the belief that women are inferior creatures.
If a boy's father raises him up his whole life teaching him to treat women like ladies, respect his mother, etc, he will probably be a gentleman unless otherwise trained later in life.
In a way, it's very interesting from a psychological point of view to wonder which life experiences and ingrained beliefs are manifesting themselves as insults to exotic dancers.
Just a thought.
Re: I can't stand guys like this...
I agree It depends very much on how you where raised. That being said, there isn't necessarily a magic formula. I see lots of misogynists and it's just as likely they where raised by a domineering bitch as they where by an abused woman.
I was raised by a single parent-my mother. Sometimes empathy has as much to do with how you treat women as example does. Everyone is different and every person walks away from his upbringing with his own set of values.
Some guys are raised by two respectful and loving parents but turn out to be dick-heads in spite of that. Parents do what they can. Once you are a grown up you are responsible for your own actions.