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chatty girls
I've had dancers sit and chat and chat and chat like we're in a regular singles encounter. I usually really like these conversations because if you can talk alot you usually have something interesting to say. However, once in a while a girl is chatting away, not asking for dances, and seemingly forgeting that she is at work. Is it appropriate to stop her talk and remind her or would that be insulting?
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Re: chatty girls
'shut up and dance' might sound insulting... but surely you can come up with a more tactful way of saying the same thing.
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You could say something like "While I love talking with you, I don't want to hold you back from making money". This would not only remind her why she was there but put the ownership on her to decide whether or not she wants to continue.
You should take it as a compliment that she's comfortable enough to sit and chat with you while not asking for money. You must be very nice!
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I've been told I'm a good listener. I usually do tell the girls to go make money and so forth but many take that to mean that I don't like them. I usually say that I have to go but would love to continue the conversation next time. Sometimes I enjoy the conversation so much that I ask them out forgeting what that means to most dancers.
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You know what? I really don't mind being asked out after a good conversation in which I felt some kind of bonding occured. Whether or not I would is a moot point since I'm engaged but I think I'd be offended if nobody ever thought of me in that way.
Being asked out after a few vague sentences and a lapdance feels icky OTOH.
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If you're interested in her and she hasn't brought up the topic of private dances, then you could ask her if she would give you one. If you aren't interested in her, just tell her to go make some money. You really shouldn't worry about hurting her feelings. We all get rejected by at least a few guys every night, so we're pretty much used to it. It's cool that you worry about hurting the dancer's feelings, but you're in there to enjoy yourself, so if you aren't enjoying yourself with the girl, then let her know and she'll move on.
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If I'm having a good conversation I'm enjoying myself. Sometimes the conversation is so good and things seem so non-strip club normal that if the topic of dances comes up it seems awkward. I have had it many times where I really am not into the girl sexually but enjoy the conversation and see her as a person not as an object and really don't want to reject her....I've tried giving some money for time as suggested here...but that just seems strange to pay someone to have a mutual conversation...and more than once the girls get insulted because I don't want there dances.
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Re: chatty girls
Maybe I'm anticuated but I like girls that chat chat chat......