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How do you ladies go about turining down customers whom you don't want to dance for?
Just what do you all say to a customer who is asking for a dance and has money but for whatever reason you don't want to dance for him? A dancer last night told me that she doesn't dance for customers she doesn't know. She said she knew I was a nice guy therefore she granted me a dance. I know for a fact that I don't see her going to the private rooms that much if at all.
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^^^ that makes no sense! Unless she came into the club with her own clientele, nearly every guy coming in is someone she won't know.
I think sheis justone of the rare odd ones.
If I won't dance for the guy because of super gabby hands, a bad smell or overall distate, yes it happens, I will tell him I am too busy or that I can't right now so if he finds someone else I won't be mad. Rarely do I find a guy I don't want to give a dance to. A few times I will just shake my head, smile and walk away.
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Maybe she knew you from outside the club.Like you are one of your dads friends,boss,or bf's friends freind or something. She might of felt "wierd" giving you a dance,and turned it down nicely. You maybe not remembered her,or who she is connected to.
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Big smile, "I'm sorry, you'll have to excuse me," and I move on.
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I just say I have to go see a regular and walk off. I rarely turn down a customer unless hes grabby, way too drunk or smells nasty. There are a few others I wont dance for but im not getting into it.
Its odd she said that... or maybe she wanted you to feel special :)
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Originally Posted by Jpac73
A dancer last night told me that she doesn't dance for customers she doesn't know.
That's pretty much everybody at some point isn't it?
Makes me wonder if LE is sneaking around undercover in your neck of the woods. Some gals tend to be weary of new customers during those times.
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This has never come up for me. The only people I wouldn't dance for are those I've danced for in the past, and had unpleasant experiences with (like, oh, trying to stick a finger inside me.) I do see these guys around once in a while, but I avoid them, as they me. Since they didn't get what they wanted the first time, and I'm not too polite to would-be molesters, they don't want anything to do with me. So it all works out. ;D
I guess if this came up for me, I'd just say I was busy.
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I don't turn anyone down, but if I really don't want to dance for someone I will say that I charge double the regular dance fee. If he wants to pay that, then I will put up with it for the dance.
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Originally Posted by LOGANLAKEN
Maybe she knew you from outside the club.Like you are one of your dads friends,boss,or bf's friends freind or something. She might of felt "wierd" giving you a dance,and turned it down nicely. You maybe not remembered her,or who she is connected to.
No she doesn't know me outside the club, it's just that I have been going to that club for about 3years now and I use to be a regular of her ex-roomate who doesn't work there anymore. I guess she saw me getting dances from her former roommate all the time and she never complained about me.
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I never turn anyone down. We get paid before the dance, so if the guy gets too grabby we can just walk out and end the dance early (no refunds).
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Just this week I had a guy chasing me down for dances. I have danced for him before and he's awful. He won't keep his hands to himself and he slobbers all over me. YUK!! So I just hid out at the bar with a club reg. and told Mr.Nasty I was being paid for my time. Unfortunately not true, I was just trying to be nice so he'd stay and spend with another girl.
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I rarely turn anybody down, unless I know for a fact tha t they are nasty, grabby, and a complete waste of time. Then I will tell them, plainly, why I will not dnace fo rthem. I will say, "honey, you refuse to treat me like a lady, so I don't want to dance for you." So much the better if somebody else hears me say it. It jsut reinforces my reputation as being a clean dancer.
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I find that simply walking away with a surely-you-must-be-joking smile does the trick.
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Only CRAZY girls do that, or in the instance Doc-Catfish mentioned, when vice is prowling around clubs.
I NEVER turn down a customer who wants dances for me. We are working for money and the way we get that money is by selling as many dances as we can.
A couple weeks ago I danced for a guy and he pointed at another girl and asked me if I could go get her to dance for him. I told her and she never went to his table.
A lot of dancers need some heavy duty training, and a good ass kicking for their idiotic behavior in the club. If I were a manager/owner, I would be on dancers asses who aren't working the floor big time. They would either work the floor and talk to the guys, or I'd show them the door. LOL.
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Um, I don't think I'm all that crazy, and I've turned down dances. Plenty. From guys who have been assholes in the past, or who give me a shit attitude such that I know they're going to be a pain in the ass to dance for. I don't need the money that bad, and I can always dance for someone else instead.
The way I turn them down is by simply walking away. Usually I'll throw in the obligatory smile and 'have a good night' as I walk away, but if he's REALLY been a jerk, I dispense with the niceties and just leave - sometimes with a nice cutting comment, sometimes without a word. No time for assholes.
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i turn down dances if a guy wants me to break the club rules or is pretty likely to be grabby. since all dances at my current club require purchase of a wristband, i have to turn down requests to do dances without that band several times a week (usually from guys who have only 20$ total left to spend). it's totally not worth it to me in such cases to risk having to pay for the band myself-- that's just a free dance to the guy potentially, and possibly being sent home early (which honestly would be justified from the club's POV). also, if a guy is already trying to molest and grab me on the floor and wants a dance, i will suggest he just tip me more on stage or tip me for hanging out. this can sometimes get me the same money without having to deal with a song's worth of fighting octopus hands.
we all have the freedom to turn down money, and more girls need to be selective about who they dance for and try to maximise their money out of each customer, IMO. at least for me, dancing for 5 guys in a shift vs 20 is much less stressful, and i generally make more money in the 5 guy scenario.
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If somebody is so grabby, smelly, drunk, etc. that you don't want to dance for him but HE INSISTS ::) .... get your money upfront and do an air dance. If he wants to keeps going, that's his choice 8)
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The only way I'll end a dance is if the guy is breaking the rules and grabbing me. I always get my money up front too so it's not a problem.
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The missing sign:
TO NEW STRIP CLUB PATRONS :
. PAY WHEN REQUESTED (SEE POSTED SCHEDULE OF FEES)
. BE CLEAN JUST LIKE YOU ARE ON A DATE, SHE WILL BE
. DO NOT TOUCH HER UNLESS SHE GIVES YOU PERMISSION FIRST
. BE RESPECTFUL, IF YOU DISAGREE WITH STRIPPING JUST LEAVE NOW
. DO NOT BE DRUNK - WELL, SHE MIGHT BE A LITTLE
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Sometimes you just have to refuse people the pleasure of your dance. It doesn't happen a lot (obviously, or we'd all be broke), but it's necessary sometimes.
I can tolerate most guys for the first dance. If after that they think they can do as they wish, I will terminate the dance.
If on the floor a guy has been rude to me and thinks he can 'choose' me when he wishes, sorry buster, no way.
I do treat this as a job and do not take most things personally. But you have to hold onto your dignity sometimes. It's not as though I have never reconsidered a guy after I've turned him down and he's asked again, nicely. They just have to gain a little respect to the lady.
The way I look at it (and I normally do say this to the custies concerned), is that I would never go into another person's place of work and treat them like shit. Just because I'm a stripper, don't think I'm exempt from getting the same treatment. I take an amount of pride in what I do, don't trample all over it.
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Well said Malibu! It's not CRAZY to turn down custys here or there. Yes, I'm in the business of making money, but my tolerance level only goes so far. I'm very selective and some of the customers get mad that I don't come by, but if I really needed/wanted your money I'd be all over it. I just prefer to not deal with all of the drama that goes with some of the club patrons, if I can get around it without having my pocket suffer I will.
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I think the MAIN point of this post has NOTHING to do with avoiding customers who are rude to us, or who have been trouble in the past.
It has to do with dancers avoiding customers that they don't even know. Guys sitting at tables and NOT BEING APPROACHED FOR NO REASON.
That kind of behavior is CRAZY!!
It's the same as standing at the cosmetic counter in a department store, and being avoided by the salesclerk, isn't it???
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maybe you need to dress better.....
Some of the girls look for returning customers before they stablish a raport. It has happened to me several times.....even in my regular club.
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When the gals are too preoccupied to acknowledge customers such as me, I just leave. If it happens often, I will just not go back to the club. Why fight it?
It doesn't take too much attention for me to enjoy myself or her company. But it does take something.
If I'm always clean , respectful, and have some money to spend, there should be no reason some dancers will refuse me. Maybe not all, but some should approach me or allow me to approach them.
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It is sad that this question should even have to be asked by a customer. Fucking Bullshit; more like. The prevailing perception should be that ALL dancers are available for ANY customer ALL THE TIME. The abovementioned exceptions of course are true; but more the exception than the rule.
CUSTOMER SERVICE PEOPLE!!!
Jeezuz.
In my 12 years of dancing I have turned down maybe a TOTAL of 20 dances WHEN ASKED.
Having the air of mysteriousness is all well and good; but shit...that only goes so far; and turning down a dance only works to your favor if it is in the role of cultivating a potential regular--usually one who likes to throw his money around. Otherwise it just comes off as being a bitch.
These girls are forgetting it is a privilage to have this job. Or; it used to be. Whatever.