Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
Wow you realy put everything in black and white right there. That's really what I needed, that's VERY helpful. Thanks.
I think I'm a homebody as it is, haha, and as far as drugs and "outside" work I honestly would get a high about turning it down, I like to reject people, especially men, it's fun for me haha.
Thanks!
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
if you love to reject people, why on earth do you want to be a dancer? every single dancer has to suck it up and accept money from at least one customer who tests her limits in the course of dancing. some dancers have to do it nightly. and it's not going to be just OTC offers and drugs. it will be all sorts of other things, some of them subtly damaging.
i don't know, you don't strike me as someone who is icehearted enough to last any length of time as a stripper. at least from your posts.
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
Every job has its own kind of stress. The stress that comes bundled up with dancing is actaully LESS upsetting to me than the stress that I had with other jobs in my life (and I have had many. I just like dancing best!)
I have never been ostricised by anybody b/c of dancing, although I don't tell my mom and the poeple at church what I do. (Mainly that is b/c I go to my mom's church, and she would be horribly embarassed.) In fact, many of the things Paris listed have never happened to me. I have been dancing and lingerie modeling on and off for 18 years (about 7 years of actual dance time). I had one stalker but I picked him up from my day job at Radio Shack.
The most important thing is to know who you are. Don't let drama from other people (Dancers, staff, or customers) invade your life. Accept that you are going to find some of your boundaries by crossing them. Regard those momenst as what they are: learning experiences.
When a customer waves a stack of money at you and tries to get you to do something you do not want to do, remember this: Eventaully, that money is going to get spent. It will probably go to pay rent or a bill, and then it will be gone forever. But you will never be able to undo what you did to get the money. You will have that memory forever. Is that really what you want? Sometimes the answer will be yes, sometimes no, and sometimes you will wish you had said no, when in fact you really did say yes. Many times you will say no and regret that for a while, then you will realize that you made that money anyway, somewehre else, in a way that was more comfortable to you.
This has been repeated so many times as to have become cliche, but it is a very important thing for dancers to remember:
"This above all: To thine own self be true."
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
Paris has a great list of negatives. You need to be really smart and really strong to do this job. I thought I was smart, but doing this going on 4 months now, I realize I'm not as smart as I thought. I've made a few mistakes along the way, which are bound to happen, but this really does remind you what your boundaries are and you can't let it eat away at you. I have seen a lot of really sad things too that make me feel sorry for a lot of people. I don't trust men and I have no clue what I am going to do next after I'm done with dancing, because the money is so easy and so good. Not only do I hate men even more, it has caused me to have relationship problems and issues trusting people. I have suffered a little bit of depression, anxiety, gotten sick and almost hospitalized... and my ego has gotten HUGE, lol.
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
Shit. I dont trust men at all....I dont like them much either. I have relationship problems as it is anyway, so I'm a shoe in. I guess that's not a laughing matter, but eh, what are you gonna do, ya know?
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
Its almost $500 to get your Sheriff card and biz liscense in Reno... its a pain in the butt. Finger printing, background check, etc... takes a whole day.
Ive only been to Fantasy Girls as a customer and got offered a job.. :) Ive heard good things about WO. Mens Club just reopened recently.... heard good things about that place too.
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
honestly, even where i am the gangs are big thing. i used to be an escort and i was doing it on my own. no one could believe that i was not "owned". i am not saying that no one tryed. you just have to nopt front money or drugs, nad please do not become an addict. if there is any chance of getting pimped, it is if you are a junkie. stick to yourself and be confident. i have being working in the sex trade since i was 16. i am pleased to say that i was never pimped or anything like that. just sick up for your self and u will be fine.
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
hi,i'm 35 years of age, an i didnt know anything about the entertainment business when i started,NOTHIN AT ALL,, i put alot of thought into it,,although i already knew somewhat ,, what was incuded, like the bar itself,, poles,stages the girls,simple things,, BUT i didnt know how to hussle,what kinda routine, pole work YES,, i was a "virgin" , the only thing i put alot of thought into was being topless, on stage an while giving table dances, before i knew it i was on stage, it was time to take the top off,, an there i was,, i was relieved to know that it wasnt that bad,, exotic dancing is NOT for every female,, but i thought to myself i'll try it ,, may not be my cup of tea,, but least i can say i tried it,, BUT,,, almost 2 years later, @ the same club,(here in b'ham alabama) i enjoy my job,have met some very nice people,, i am glad i stuck it out,,, yes,, some days i do really good an others are really crappy,, but ya never know what the next day brings,,, hope this gives you a piece of mind in what ever u decide to do ;)
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this personal escort thing,, never done it,, but i'm not knockin it,, u have to do what u have to do to get the bills paid,, there are drugs where ever you go,, but if you DO keep your head up,, an kep the positive attitude,, u'll go alot futher in your job, an in life,,, heck ,, theres even drugs where i work ,, but most girls,,they know who does the drugs an who dont,,
Re: Hi, im new and confused about weather or not to start dancing.
i agree with the 1st reply,, its gonna happen to any dancer,, theres alot of girls i work with that are payin their own way ,, bills,,an other things that life throws at you,, just stay clear of the negative,,, an you'll do fine!!!