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Dancer pulled my top up and exposed my chest!
:-[ My boyfriend and another couple went to this club in Ottawa, IL. The club was full nude full bar (which was great!) and we visit clubs maybe 5 times a year, And im never the type to get jealous or try bringing the stripper home...
SO, We were having a great time sitting at the table and having drinks and we decided to go sit by the stage. One of the strippers came over to me and pulled my top and bra up and exposed my assets ;). My first reaction was to quickly pull down my top since there were men everywhere hollerin' and I'm sure my boyfriend didnt want everyone looking at them (he told her to stop too). When i told her to stop she just responded "Well leave then". So we did. I found it offensive since i didnt want everyone to see my boobs and i was tipping her to do her job. I've never experienced that in any other club, Was i being overdramatic?
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Re: Dancer pulled my top up and exposed my chest!
well, she shouldn't have done that.
It's in our best interest not to push anyone past their comfort zone, but she was not very good at reading yours.
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That is ridiculous, what a rude bitch. I wouldn't have left though, you should have stayed, continued having a great time, and spent your $$ on someone worthy. ;)
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This is soooo normal in sc's here. Most girls that sit at the tip rail know this is going to happen. However most dancers I know ASK the girl beforehand or do it slow and soft enough that the girl could back away or push her shirt down before she was actually exposed. Sorry that wasn't how it went down with your experience.
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That's totally un-called for, and I would have been pissed too. Especially since you were tipping and not acting like a jealous criticising bitch. She must have been jealous of your presence in the club (i.e. she thought you were distracting the men by being there). But your money is just as good as anyone else's. She must be a few sandwiches short of a picnic.
The last place you'd want to be showing off your breasts as a customer is a strip club. It's one thing if you work there, but if your boyfriend hadn't been there, it could have gotten really weird in a room full of horny guys.
Maybe if she was giving you a lap dance and she wanted to feel up your shirt a little (with your permission), that is another story.
If it was a topless only club, I'm sure she wouldn't like it if you pulled down her g-string.
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Could be a case of mistaken identity....its easy to missidentify somebody in a dark club. It Has happened to me several times with the girls.
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That's terrible for her to do that. She's the stripper, not you. I'm sorry this happened. That's really not nice and a surefire way to put you off SCs. I hope it wasn't her way of deliberately trying to humiliate you.
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At first I thought your post was a joke and you were grand standing like showing your chest was beneath you, but then I thought about how I would like it if someone I didn't know came behind me and pulled my pants down. I would be pissed. Her actions are sorry she doesn't even know you like that.
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The only way I would do something like this is if she initiated such an action first.Just because they're women,doesn't make this OK.Vice versa.We don't want to be groped and grabbed by women as well.
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Originally Posted by onlythebest
The only way I would do something like this is if she initiated such an action first.Just because they're women,doesn't make this OK.Vice versa.We don't want to be groped and grabbed by women as well.
<flamesuit>
A lot of women, not all as shown by this thread, have a misunderstanding they can do or have whatever they want just because they are a girl. Ask any guy. And I mean A LOT of women.
</flamesuit>
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I've has this happen to me as well. The dancer did it to so she and my friends could see my nipple rings. I would've cared had I been there alone and unprotected. I was with some of my guy friends, so I felt ok. It didn't really bother me because I'm pretty ok with my body. You can't ASSUME in any situation though, that someone would just be ok with you yanking their shirt up. If you're going to do stuff like that, it's best to either know the person already (a regular like myself), or ask first. The dancer was totaly wrong and very rude in that situation, imho. That wouldn't stop me from returning and spending on other ladies, though.
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At my club when a girl tips us we pull her shirt up, show her tits and some of us will lick the girls nipples. But its a bit different because at my club the customer gets on stage with the dancer, lays down with a $5 or $10 bill and gets a quick show. So when a female does it shes pretty much giving us permission because its a well known fact that its an unwritten rule at our club 'Any girl who gets on stage has to show her tits'.
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^^ yep. Thats why some dancers do it and don't ask first.
(Deogol, I made need to borrow your flamesuit. ;) )
Its funny that a board of dancers will say they'd be pissed if it was done to them but I highly doubt everyone could say they haven't done it to a female at their tip rail.
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LoL I wouldnt be pissed I would laugh my ass off and say 'HEY LOOK AT MY TITTIES!' but thats just me.... if yer a female at a SC and your tipping expect it *shrug* some of us strippers are just horny and want to see civilian titties ;)
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It's never OK or normal to pull up a customer's shirt without asking! Man. If we want respect of our boundaries in the clubs, we have to give same.
That girl was totally out of line, you are not being dramatic.
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Many strippers (mistakenly) believe that every customer wants the most mileage possible. She probably thought that she was giving you the best value. As pathetic as it sounds, she probably just wanted you to like her.
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Originally Posted by Phedre
Its funny that a board of dancers will say they'd be pissed if it was done to them but I highly doubt everyone could say they haven't done it to a female at their tip rail.
I don't show my goods for free so I don't expect anyone else to also.
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I'm sorry that happened you felt violated. I've never worked in a club where non-dancers could show their breasts, they will actually get kicked out if they even try to show their bras.
I think I would feel just as upset even if it is a strip club because of the fact that that wasn't what you bargained for.
Thanks for mentioning that it was her job you were paying for her to do. Obviousl ,you were there to enjoy the girls and not try to one-up them.
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I surely don't tip a dancer to lean over & flash my tits, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen or that because I look friendly that it hasn't happened to me either. I am just saying that some places it is the norm, just as much as extra mileage vs. air dances is at some places. Yeah, it was rude of the dancer, but it may be the norm for her club.
I can honestly say that the last 3 times I have been to a SC as a custy that at least 1 girl has sat at the tip rail and her breasts were also exposed by the dancer. I'm surely not saying its right, but some times its a complete miscomunication. Like, dancer thinks since girl is sitting at the rail then she's okay with nudity and won't mind a little peek at her own goods. When in reality the female custy is just enjoying the show and being polite & fun-loving by sitting in the open seat at the tip rail. Just a difference of opinion IMO.
The OP could probably have gone to the management but they'd have just looked at her like she was a whiney bitch and not done anything about it. She could have stayed but obviously the boundary encrouchment was enough to make her feel uncomfy. I'm sure after the supportive posts she's gotten here that she realizes that the chick was outta line. But not all dancers behave that way. I still hope it doesn't ruin her view and enjoyment of future SC's.
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I"ve been thinking about this all night and my original post. I guess because this is so norm for the few clubs i've worked at I never really thought about how it would work at other clubs. If the girl was obviously trying to stop me because she honestly didnt want to show her goods, I would never force her. Its just so normal for my clubs and the girls really dont seem to care(hell half them are asking me to do it lol). So my post where I said it should be expected was wrong. Unless its the norm for the club and the girl is willing it really is no acceptable. Sorry :(
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It did make me feel uncomfortable, the main part that bothered me was when she got offended at me asking her to stop and told me to leave. And of course the fact that there were men all around who saw the whole thing. I love it when i get a lapdance and the dancer feels my "new friends", but doing it at the stage was where it made me feel unforcomfortable. i guess next time i'll know better right?
I would definately go back to that same SC, and other ones as well. I still enjoy watching the female body ;). I'll take it as a warning though..Thanks everyone for your support on this topic! I thought i was crazy there for a second. :-[
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Ah, Ottawa Il. I've worked at both clubs in that town and I think I know which one you're referring too. You have every right to be upset, ESPECIALLY after she copped a bitchy attitude with you when you expressed your dislike for her actions. I've never exposed a female customer (nor a male for that matter) without making sure they were comfortable with it first. It should never be an expected action I don't care what club you're working at. Like mentioned earlier, we as dancers demand respect considering all the flack we get, so shouldn't we be expected to do the same?
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I gotta tell ya--that's pretty foul. It sounds like this guy who said 'these girls gotta understand if you dance you gotta expect to give us some, I mean a BJ or a little nip...something'. He didn't want to take no for an answer. Our bodies belong to him and his friends. Do other women's bodies belong to Cally and Phedre and their respective clubs so you don't need to ask permission?
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Optimist its a well known fact at my club, and even when the girl is crawling on stage to tip us the DJ will say 'Rule number one is any girl who gets on stage has to show her tits' so you can get a good idea if the girl is into it or not, if I see her shaking her head going 'no no no' then im sure as hell not going to do it to her because thats just not fair. But I think of all the time i've worked there i've only ever seen one girl say no. Im not going to force someone to do something they dont want to do. *shrug*
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I never sit at the tip rail anymore because of things that girls have done to me in the past. There seems to be an unwritten rule in many clubs that people sitting at the tip rail are fair game for anything the dancer feels like doing. Whether you're a guy or girl, if you don't want to be part of the entertainment, don't sit up close.