Hi all. I just signed up to this forum and am not sure if I am exactly posting in the right location. If I am not, my apologies. I'll try to be brief as possible about the reason for my post.
Quite simply, I am concerned about my sis. Without going into too much detail, there's been a bit of some mental and physical health issues going on with her that have me really concerned. We have not always been the closest in terms of being able to communicate openly to each other without feeling like we're pushing the other away; so a lot of my concerns are just my own observations without confirming anything directly with her because we're just that communicative with each other. So a lot of this could just be my imagination running wild.
Over the last year or so, I've had a feeling that she might be working at a club or something of the sort. Whenever I've seen her open her purse, it's usually been full of crumpled up bills. Several months ago when I was helping her with her car, I found a bag of clothing in her trunk - well, more like the opposite of clothing; and some hi-heels that would make Gary Coleman a starting center in the NBA. And when we go out in public, she will sometimes wear clothing that is too revealing and tight for my taste (I feel like everywhere I go, I'm about to bust out in a fight with guys gawking at my lil sis). Also, she always has seemed like she's dragging ass during the day - like not enough sleep. Then my mom confirms to me that she works some night shifts at "another job" which my sis claims is something other than a strip club; but my mom half-angrily and half-jokingly said it must be "erotic dancing" (mother's intuition is usually right, right?).
I really can't confirm one way or the other. When I spend time with her alone and we talk about stuff, everything in our conversations make me feel she is not.
Part of me wants to follow her around for a day just so I know; but I know that wouldn't be right.
I'm just confused. I want to help her and I don't know how.
If she is dancing, that's fine - just not now. With what's been going on in her life these last couple of months, I feel she's slipping and making some bad decisions; I just don't think she's in the right state of mind to be dancing (if she, in fact, is doing that). And if she is, I don't have complete faith in the clubs/managers/owners to really care for her well-being.
I've spent hours on the phone and on the internet trying to figure out various support networks/counseling I could get her hooked up with; and now I'm posting here. I don't know if I can gleam any information/advice from people here that could guide me in what I can do to help. I'm at my wit's end and I just want to make sure she's okay.
Sorry for the long ramble. Thanks in advance for any advice/suggestions about what I can do or what I should NOT be doing.
R
