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I have the same problem.
I think it's because at least 50% of the men who go to strip clubs are PL's and that is the closest their mouth will ever get to a pretty girl.
But yeah, its gross. Try bitter apple spray, that's my secret weapon.
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HAHAHA that's -awesome-. I never thought of that. Does it have a smell though?
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LOL i was thinking about this kinda problem a few days ago. i havn't danced yet so i wouldn't know what to recomend other than what you are doing, that bitter apple spray thing though...mmm..kinda sneaky, i like it. doesn't it have an odor?
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no odor ;) I use the same stuff to keep my dog from licking and chewing my shoes.
seems appropriate.. hehe
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Yes i hate that! Im almost tempted to put up a sign in the private dance area that reads "please do not lick the dancers!"
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you can also use spray deoderant. Once I started using the bitter apple, my evil little self started thinking "yeah, lick me, I know you want to.. i dare ya!!" }:D
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Subtlety does not work on these guys. The second they even try for it, you have to tell them outright, "Do not kiss/lick me." Honestly, I don't know why they want to lick random strangers anyway. I agree, it's disgusting.
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My first suggestion would be to find another club with less contact. If that's not an option in your area, you might consider laying down your ground rules before a dance. I know that's probably not conducive to multiple dance sales, but a quick "By the way, I've doused myself liberally with bitter apple, so you really don't want to kiss or lick me" should do it. Otherwise you're still going to be covered with spit.
I guess I'm very fortunate to have worked in places where mouths did not make contact with any other body parts.
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Originally Posted by desavirsire
Yes i hate that! Im almost tempted to put up a sign in the private dance area that reads "please do not lick the dancers!"
LOL! I'm always fantasizing about the signs I want to hang around the club:
"If you enjoy a girl's stage show, be sure to tip her. These ladies pay to work here, so you should show some appreciation"
"Please refrain from soliting the dancers for escort work"
"If you are looking for a date, go to a singles bar. You will have more luck."
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oh gross. id much rather have a gropy customer than a licky one. ugh. i dont have this problem very often but it really does give me the willies when it happens. i cant imagine how you remain at that club! if anything like that happens the guys usually just end up getting an air-dance halfway through.
whats a little subtler and equally as gross is slobby lips. i dont mind a custy smelling my hair, putting his face close to mine or my body, its part of their fantasy of a sensual dance or whatever, but if he starts running his lips in that gooey kissy sort of way on my skin (especially my neck -- shudder) its a lot harder to lay down the law as if he was licking ie: "Now bad boy don't you lick me or you'll be seeing and feeling a lot less of me." there are certain regulars with this habit that i just avoid all together. its not worth the money.
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I wondered about the bitter apple spray, can you use it along with your usual spray? I would love to watch a guys face after tasting that stuff }:D Wanna lick some more fu** face!!
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I've had this problem too, but generally, they are being grabby as well and catch the attention of security and are told not to continue their actions by the bouncer. We are a really low contact club with security and cameras so these things rarely go unnoticed.
I've actually had a few guys try to BITE me. I will either stop the dance completely and collect my money or tell them "you can't do that here" and push them back gently. After two attempts, the dance stops altogether and the bouncer is alerted of their un-gentelmanly behavior.
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Originally Posted by smartcookie
My first suggestion would be to find another club with less contact.
Actually, the club I work at is VERY low contact. It's a bikini bar. It just seems like if I get -anywhere- near them they start to put their mouths on me. bleech
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what about the filp side to this coin? how are customers supposed to react when a girl starts licking your ears kissing your neck, sometimes just grabbing you and ramming their tongue down your throat. im in no way or form trying to brag or sound cool, but this has happened to me a handful of times. never ever instigated in any way shape or form by me.
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Originally Posted by vy10tex
what about the filp side to this coin? how are customers supposed to react when a girl starts licking your ears kissing your neck, sometimes just grabbing you and ramming their tongue down your throat. im in no way or form trying to brag or sound cool, but this has happened to me a handful of times. never ever instigated in any way shape or form by me.
Oh, I -never- do that. I know girls that do though, and -most- of the guys love it. Personally, if a girl did that to me I would be offended though. My boyfriend says that he wouldnt appreciate it if some strange girl was licking him either.
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Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny
Actually, the club I work at is VERY low contact. It's a bikini bar. It just seems like if I get -anywhere- near them they start to put their mouths on me. bleech
Ugh, if that's the case, then I don't know what to tell you. Like I said, no one ever tried to lick or kiss me, ever, even in my marathon-grindage first club. Things must have really slid in 3 years. Barf.
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I tried that bitter apple spray for dog chewing and my dog actually LIKED it!
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What if a dancer is kissing my neck, nibbling on my ear, etc and I'd like to do the same. Should I do it until she tells me to stop, or should I ask first "I like that, can I do that to you?" I didn't realize this was something dancers didn't like, although I've only done this with a couple dancers and both of them I had gotten to know before I did it (and they did it first).
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Originally Posted by Feiticeira
I tried that bitter apple spray for dog chewing and my dog actually LIKED it!
haha. if BA doesn't work on the dogs (either type), another company makes a product called Bitter Cherry. its even worse!
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Great idea about the non-smelly but bad-tasting stuff...
I'll have to suggest this at work, where this sort of behavior is quite distressingly common. Not that it causes me much direct problem--obviously they aren't trying to lick me, lol.
But I do deal with the stress of having to work with women who are sick to death of this shit. It drives the weaker, more sensitive sorts right out of the business with great rapidity. Even the most iron-willed woman will become angry if the attempts are too common, and an angry dancer is generally harder to work with--through no fault of their own...
Of course the initial reaction of many to this observation is to assert that they (sensitive dancers) shouldn't be in the business in the first place. While there is a certain amount of truth to this--it is obviously a rough business in many areas of the country--it is to almost everyone's loss that sensitivity to barbaric behavior isn't a survival trait.
Many artistic types are blessed or cursed with a sensitive nature, and this applies to dancing as well as other artistic endeavors. There may be those who scoff at the notion of artistic abilty being important in this industry, but then they haven't witnessed the erotic artistry I have so proudly aided on the stages of even the worst clubs I have worked in.
And make no mistake about it, assuming it is OK to lick a woman you have just met is barbaric in the extreme. If some dancers permit, encourage, or even instigate this themselves (as they do in my club), it gives no man of honor the right to blithely assume that such behavior is or should be acceptable with any other dancers.
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Originally Posted by vy10tex
what about the filp side to this coin? how are customers supposed to react when a girl starts licking your ears kissing your neck, sometimes just grabbing you and ramming their tongue down your throat. im in no way or form trying to brag or sound cool, but this has happened to me a handful of times. never ever instigated in any way shape or form by me.
Ew. I seriously hope you did not catch anything - because there's no telling how many other guys these women have done this too. I'm going to go throw up now as that is just revolting.
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Originally Posted by vy10tex
what about the filp side to this coin? how are customers supposed to react when a girl starts licking your ears kissing your neck, sometimes just grabbing you and ramming their tongue down your throat. im in no way or form trying to brag or sound cool, but this has happened to me a handful of times. never ever instigated in any way shape or form by me.
There is no flip side of the coin. You can tell a girl to stop doing ANYTHING and she will (we don't have that luxury). You are ultimately in control because you have the money and you get to determine your limits.
Ugh, another UNHELPFUL post by a customer.
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^^^^ I swear, every time we complain about a customer manhandling or touching us in a way we hate one comes on to say, "but she did it to me first!"...
Kind of like the guys that ask us to pay them for a dance.
So these guys had girls do things to them that they want to do back, well this is a thread for dancers that really don't want to be licked, sucked, grabbed or fondled.
Good for you, a dancer did that to you, now would you like a slobbering customer to come up and do the same thing she did?
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Originally Posted by gypsy_girlchild
...a dancer did that to you, now would you like a slobbering customer to come up and do the same thing she did?
Well, effectively this is indeed what has happened to so many men who love it so much when a dancer shoves her tongue down their throat--after having done the same thing to a dozen guys earlier that night, and possibly only five minutes ago in the same VIP room.