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What do I say?
Before I say anything, let me just say that thanks to this website, I had the courage and self-confidence to dance for the first time ever recently. I owe it all to each and every one of you that post.
I'm doing quite well, making good money. All the girls were incredibly nice and I felt much more comfortable then I had thought. Drove an hour and a half to get there, and I told myself, "By god, I've got to dance now... that's a lot of gas!" A very friendly girl gave me 7" heels my first night! And I didn't fall! I have no idea what I'm doing with that pole, no tricks or anything, I just do what makes me feel sexy right now and so far it's working out just fine.
My main question is... what do I say? What do I say when I meet the customers? When I'm dancing for them? I usually introduce myself, ask their name (and almost ALWAYS forget, which makes me feel stupid for even asking since I can't remember!!! :( ) and ask what they do, so on and so forth... So anyway, any tips on what is good conversation or bad conversation? Can I ask about their girlfriends? Wives? I just want to make things a little less awkward for the customer and myself while I stumble looking for things to say.
Thank you so much to everyone, I COULD NOT have done this without you.
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Re: What do I say?
A good practice to help you remember names is to say it after they tell you.For example:
You : I'm ______.What is your name???
Guy : I'm Bob.
You : Well Bob,it's nice to meet you.
You make small talk about anything you want.
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Re: What do I say?
Definitely stay away from the topic of wives and girlfiends! Ask them what brought them in tonight or if they're having a good time (this can be a good seg-way into getting a dance).
Congratulations on starting out!
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Re: What do I say?
Ask what business they're in.
Right now, with just about any guy, and for the next 2 weeks, you can ask about the NCAA tournament. "Who did you pick to win it all?"
Sports in general usually works.
Do not talk about your kid/s (if you have any). I saw another thread where a dancer says she almost always mentions her kid. I had a dancer mention last week to me that she has a kid.
Why? I definitely don't want to talk about my kids in a club (ew) and I don't want to talk about yours, either. It's just me and you, babe, we're the only two people in the world when we're on each side of a hustle.
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Re: What do I say?
^^^^very good advice, even when theres nothing to say, never ask if hes married, because chances are, that he probably is - I used to do this and a guy got very upset once! But my advice is to talk to a guy for about 5-10 minutes. I usually just start off by asking a lot of questions about HIM, because remember, people love to talk about themselves. After a few questions, the conversation usually takes care of itself. Go to the floor with a set of prepared quesrions in mind that will work for everyone - ie. what do you do, where are you from ect. Also try to find things that you too have in common, you know, like you have a connection. Then after about 10 minutes ask for a dance, because you dont have time to sit around and talk for free!