Re: I think I'm about to be single...
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Originally Posted by FrustratedBunny
Um, thanks for all the fucking support. Read through some of my other goddamned posts if you want more details. Why in the hell would I lie on here?
He is nice. he is honest. He is a very caring person.
HOWEVER....
He can't pay his bills on time.
He's had his lights cut off twice in the past two months.
His apartment is so nasty it smells and it looks like a family of rats live there.
he drops the ball on projects all the time.
His career is going nowhere.
I don't feel sexually attracted to him.
We have different goals.
He can be very irresponsible.
He's not 22. He's 32. He should have his shit together.
He is about to be demoted at work.
I'm realizing that just because a person is nice doesn't mean they are compatible with me for a relationship. I could never buy a house with this guy. I could not rely on him for a lot of things. I don't want to be his MOM. I don't want to be a mother to his son. I don't want kids as a matter of fact. I want a man who is motivated to succeed and takes care of himself. I don't want a man who is thoroughly obsessed with comic books and lives in a dream world. I can't change the way I feel. I am not feeling the sexual attraction and haven't for a while. I can't fake that. I can't change him.
But I do care about him. He is a very decent caring person. He just can't get his shit togehter. So there are some more details. I guess I'm just a fuckign idiot at the age of 33 to break up with a 32 year old guy who has his lights cut off all the time, was driving for over a year with no insurance on his car, has a son who writes "FUK" on the chalkboard at the age of 7, and doesn't pursue his goals and his career.
OK - He's a deadbeat - thanks for the info. I would say drop him too.
Re: I think I'm about to be single...
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Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver
That's ignorant. Just because a guy is 'sweet', doesn't mean anyone who doesn't feel a spark with him has issues!
He sounds like a deadbeat to me, anyways. I was in a similar situation last year, and I haven't regretted breaking up with him for a second.
Oh please - how many "stripper boyfriend" stories have we heard and read about and then someone goes on about how nice he is (without the additional information) and they want to dump him? Fuck....:-\
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credit isthe ONLY thing that matters in (this) life!!!!!!!!
Re: I think I'm about to be single...
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Originally Posted by Deogol
Either you are lying and he is not a good catch or... I am having a lot of trouble feeling sympathy for such a stupid move.
If you asked him to refer to you as Bitch and throw you around the living room twice a week would you feel better?
Are you simply unable to accept being in a good relationship and have to go searching for a bad one?
I am not asking this to be mean - I am asking this because you need to take a good long hard look inside yourself.
who peed in your cheerios?
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God, I wish being a "nice guy" was enough. Just because a guy isn't a typical deadbeat stripper boyfriend, it doesn't make him perfect. I remember a guy I dated breifly who had shit together and was a nice guy....but talking to him was painful. He was SO BORING.
I don't think it was necessary for FB to divulge why she wanted to break up. I don't think it's important in this scenario because (as far as I can tell) she wasn't looing for someone to talk her out of it. Sometimes women just want to vent about their problems and have someone be a sympathetic ear. I don't know why, but guys don't seem to get that.
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Yeah, I just was venting I guess when I posted this initially. I was very tired, like totally exhausted, had just had a very emotional evening and had taken a dose of cough medicine that made me dopey. I'm sorry if I've seemed snippy on here, but I am not some dodo head who has a thing for guys who slap me around or don't have jobs. In fact, all the assholes in my past pretty much had great jobs, just couldn't stick to one woman, and were liars.
Re: I think I'm about to be single...
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Originally Posted by tampadancer
who peed in your cheerios?
Ka-raczy People!
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Re: I think I'm about to be single...
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Originally Posted by princessjefflina
sorry!
see....jefflina is one of the girlz
Re: I think I'm about to be single...
ui was referring to peeing in the cheerios!
but referring to her thingy i think its up to her and whateva
but i think him being a socalled "deadbeat"
is NOT AT ALLa good reason to override their actual chemistry?
sotospeak namean?
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lol jeff.. you're the best troll ever;D
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I thought jeffline was a girl? What do I know. But yeah, the problem is the overall chemistry isn't there anymore, at least not for me. I think he's nice looking but I haven't felt like being intimate with him for a loooong time and I can't change that. It's just hard to let go of someone I have grown so close to. I love him dearly, but as a friend. he loves me as a girlfriend. I hate that it has to be all or nothing but he is friends with some of his exes so hopefully in the future we can be friends.
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Jeffllina is a pwitty pwitty pwincess, but not a girl!
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im every woman
haha
wellgood luck with it all
but if the deadbeat thing is a major factor thats wack and maybe you should reevaluate your priorities
haha no offense intended if that soundsmean:(
but whateva i cant realycomment cos i dont feel like that or get involvedin that stuff so i dont know what it all entails
haha
imccuriosu what is the difference bw friendship love and romantic" modern relationshippy "love
ifyou dont want kids you have n reason to be segsin
Re: I think I'm about to be single...
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Originally Posted by Deogol
Either you are lying and he is not a good catch or... I am having a lot of trouble feeling sympathy for such a stupid move.
If you asked him to refer to you as Bitch and throw you around the living room twice a week would you feel better?
Are you simply unable to accept being in a good relationship and have to go searching for a bad one?
I am not asking this to be mean - I am asking this because you need to take a good long hard look inside yourself.
Well if a person wants to be 100% truely happy, they have to be with a person who has everything they've ever wanted in a person. No settling for less. Nothing wrong with that at all.
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somehow i dont thinkthings like social obligations andstuff really make upa person
(which isnt the point of life anyway!) haha
but anyway maybe he makes a concious responsible choice not to give a fuck about stupid shit like establshing credit haha
not to discourage you from doing whateve you wanna but if thats a factor take it all intoconsideration and dont let stuff like that get inthe way of a real interpersonal relationship
dont just play a role
it isnt bf and gf its you and him
whatever specific cat you choose but yeah i cant really comment but i do anyway
:)
haha