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Family
When you're trying to hustle dances or making conversation in VIP sitdowns, do you ever ask about the guys family and home life? I would have thought not as they're trying to escape it and live out a fantasy, but one of my dancer friends says she does it all the time (and she makes good money.) Whenever I've tried it it always freaks me out because their daughters are around my age! Do you talk about their families?
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Only if they initiate the conversation.
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I agree with Lyssa - only if they initiated the topic of family. Otherwise I steer clear. Personally I feel it is waaaaay to personal. I even try to steer clear of work topics/convo if I can help it. Still plenty you can speak about as you aren't really meant to talk 'deep' in your "selling conversation". Just stick to superficial topics - weather, the local scene, the town, movies, television, etc.
Once you have them in VIP or for an extended amount of time... then speak about whatever. Even then I still steer clear of family. Luckily, I'm now getting to a 'nice' age where I am not the age of their daughters :laughing: One of the 'banes' of being a young dancer.
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I agree, most men are in the club to get away from theyre everyday life and will not want to be reminded of that. Some guys might be having a hard time at home and want to have the, "My wife just doesnt understand me," talk, in which case i think its always best to just listen and nod and be understanding without saying too much as he probably just wants to be heard. If its a stag, ill usually ask when theyre getting married out of politeness but dont take it too far as thoughts of theyre girlfriend/wife might make them feel guilty and in turn, dissuade them from spending money.
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Yeh I thought it might put them off buying dances from another girl. Thanks for the tips (:
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Yeah I do. I find alot of customers really enjoy bragging about their kids n stuff.
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I don't bring it up, if they want to talk about it and bring it up initially then sure, but I try to stay away from that as much as possible.
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I try to stay away from family unless the custie initiates it and then try not to say too much - many guys will say "my wife would love to do this!" etc in which case i say "bring her on down and i'll dance for her!" but generally try to steer convo away.
Job stuff is fair game, but again, nothing too probing, some guys like to talk about it, lots don't. My usualy convo sticks to asking where ekse theyt've been tonight, why they're here, where they're from, the sport, weather etc.
I do like getting deep with them though - have spoken about underfloor heating, cooking and French politics in the last week as well as the usual.
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I like to talk to my guys, especially my regulars, some of my regulars like to brag about their families, I try not to get to deep with that one ..its rather personal!
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There's another reason not to be the first to talk about it: some of us are older bachelors who still want children someday, but don't want to be reminded of it at a SC. :-\ :-[
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I just wanted to update this thread with something that will help you steer clear of the family and other not-so-great topics ...keep the conversation interesting... read heaps of blogs.
Seriously. Due to my 'love' of blogs, I have managed to come up with some really good stories to tell during VIP. I can bs with the best of them :laughing: thanks to all the stories etc other people blog about ;D
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i ask too make the person feel more comfy.. really it dont matter what you talk about they are either going to get the dance or not.. i find that if im open and friendly bout famliy life (theirs not mine) they usualy get the dance 9 times out of 10
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I only bring up their family if they do. The worst case scenerio is when they start telling me that I am as old as their daughter. Then I have to remind them that I am not their daugher, and I am there for their pleasure. }:D
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Sometimes their children are actually older than me (I'm twenty) that's the worse, think I'll steer clear of this topic from now on!
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Lots of customers are married or have girlfriends, and they don't want to talk about their family while at the strip club. I will only talk about their family if the customer brings it up first. I usually try to keep the conversation light hearted, and I'll talk about something like what kind of music they like or if they've seen any good movies lately.
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i only talk about it if they start first. i usually redirect conversations about the wife though, because if it's depressing or whatever, it tends to start ruining their mood. most of them love to talk about their kids though. i get shown pictures ALL the time.