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How do you respond when customers say...
How do you respond when customers say stuff like "Why would you want to work in a place like this?" or "You seem like a smart girl, can't you find something better to do?" or other stuff along those lines?
Obviously I think it's really insulting but for some reason I can't come up with a good response. I usually just say "Actually, I like dancing" but it doesn't seem to get the point across because usually they just respond with something like "Well, I hope for your sake that you find a real job soon"! So I was just wondering how everyone else deals with this kind of thing, and if you have any good, witty responses that you use.
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I just say im having a rebelious streak in my life. I say I train horses when im not dancing so dancing is my secret life. If they go any further I say my horses take all my money so I need to do this so I can eat myself :D Then I say no other job is willing to work around my hours with the horses. I usually dont have to go that far, once I say that dancing is my secret life the guys get into it.
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if it's such a horrible place for me to be working at, why are they there either?
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^^^ They are our White Knights liz remember :D
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I say this is the best job I've ever had, I get to hang out, drink, and meet all kinds of people, oh and make $$$, find me a better job? men are idiots
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i usually tell them that i need to focus most of my energy on school..with dancing i only need to work a few days a week so i have more time to concentrate on more important things. i use the money to pay for rent/tuition, etc. i try to get across that i am not a full-blooded 'stripper' (which has all kinds of negative stereotypes attached to it), but instead, a real person with a real life and goals outside of dancing.
i havent yet decided whether or not it is a good idea for customers to see me as a 'real person'...or just a fantasy. sometimes i think i should just keep my mouth shut about myself altogether.
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I always say "the same reason you want to come in here, there are beautiful girls, and its a fun bar." if they say anything further and aren't tipping, i say something like "well sweetie if you want to ruin your own night by psychoanalyzing everyone in this room go ahead, but i'm going to go have fun" and leave
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i tell them that they must have been assuming all of the girls were dumb or "deserved" to be strippers, and that i don't appreciate that. when a guy says something like "wow you're actually smart" or "you too good for this" i get extreamely irritated. it's like they think all strippers are shit and they still come in, which means they want to be taking advantage of women.
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These kinds of questions from custys irritate the hell out of me. I used to respond and try to "defend" the job and myself, but I've realized that I waste so much time with these conversations and just end up annoyed with no money at the end. Now, I either go with the "Why are you here then?" response, or else roll my eyes and say, "I really don't have the time or energy to get into this conversation. If you'd like to get a private dance, I'd be more than happy to give you one. Otherwise, I'm going to get back to work. Have a nice night." Walk away and don't bother going back.
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"why would you want to come to a place like this?"
"good question... how 'bout we talk about it some more over a private dance?"
"I'm smart, funny, pretty, and I like to take my clothes off... why are you complaining?"
"I can't believe you're dumb enough to ask that question"
" 'cause I'm a nympho."
"somebody's gotta support three kids and a coke habit. god knows my pimp ain't doin' it."
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^^^ lol im going to go with
" somebody's gotta support three kids and a coke habit. God knows my pimp ain't doin it" lol
fucking best yet I will be using this line.
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I always have a smart assed answer to this question as well. Depending on my mood I'll come up with all kinds of goofy answers. If it is busy, I'll simply ask him to clarify why he is asking. If the "white knight" is part of his fantasy I'll just come up with some stupid story about my alcoholic parents and needing to support younger siblings or something. He'll get what he wants, and I'll get paid for my time ;D .
On a side note, those questions usually follow the "So what's your real name?" line. When this is the first thing out of their mouth, I know that I am wasting my time.
Translation on the real name question: I'm a cheap bastard that thinks I'm cool enough to get laid for free by a stripper. All I have to do is get her talking about herself and she'll be putty in my hands. After she is comfortable with me I'll tell her how good I am at eating pussy, and then it's a sure thing. For a price of a beer I'll be banging a hot chick tonight! :P
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If I have one more "white knight" this month I will scream. These guys bug the hell out of me. I actually had a guy do the whole, "you know somebody has to be forcing you to be here," line a little while back. Dude, is it possible I WANT to be here? We are not all abused wives that are forced to be here by our alcoholic husbands.
And the "what's your real name?" line is an on-going thing. I have a fake real name. Sad, but once I say my name is really Virginia, they normally leave me alone on it. But I would rather have a real name guy than a white knight any day.
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"Honey, I've got a Master's degree with highest honors and a career I enjoy by day. I wouldn't be here unless I really wanted to be, so just be glad there are sexy exhibitionists in this world. Wanna sneak off to the back and let me show you what I like to do?"
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This ties in to my post about stripper stereotypes. I'm not a young girl so I think guys know better than to ask me questions that are lame or rude...sometimes I don't necessarily think they're being mean, it could be what appears to be industry standard type questions. But if they get pushy about it with me, look out.
" What's a girl like you doing taking off her clothes for a living?"
To which I said," What's a guy like you..." pointing to his wedding ring, " Doing in a place like this getting lap dances...does your wife know about it?"
" You don't seem like the type to work here."
Me: " And you definitely seem like the type that comes here all the time"
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Well being Asian I can always say that " Yes, I was put on a boat from China and strapped to the bottom of the bilge....I'm trapped here by the local Triad gangsters...forced to work in servitude....I'l get beaten if I don't come home with 1200 a night so hurry up and take me into the VIP room will ya, mister?" With fake accent and all.
White knights, BAH.
You know what's even funnier...when I drive away in a car nicer than most of the men drive.
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^^hahaha, that's fantastic!
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It sounds terrible LOL but occasionally, the stereotypes do work in my favor. I've gotten away from a cop more than a few times by pretending like I didn't know I was speeding because I was 'new' to the country, etc.
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I just say It's fun, you can wear cute little outfits and walk around, and the money helps a lot. haha
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Originally Posted by AlluringAva
... You know what's even funnier...when I drive away in a car nicer than most of the men drive.
Don't knock it!
My car payment used to be nearly $1000 a month. When I paid the car off, I had an extra $1000 each month to spend. Guess where it goes? Yup -- strip clubs! Every time I consider buying a new car, I think about how much more fun I have in the strip clubs than I do driving a new car!
Though I do realize others have smarter ways to spend their money!
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My car was given to me as a gift from my grandmother, by the way. ;) But you are quite right, I'd rather have guys like yourself spend that money IN the club not on a new car ;D
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Stupid Question: "Why would you want to work in a place like this?"
Smartass Answer: "I could tell you but it'll cost you $10"
If he actually ponies up the money:
"Why do I work here? Where else is some dumbass gonna pay me $10 to answer a question?!"
Stupid Question: "You seem like a smart girl, can't you find something better to do?"
Smartass Answer: "Sure. There's this cool trick I can do with my knee. I can use my foot too when the situation calls for it. Can I show you? I promise you that you'll be speechless. Just stand right there with your legs slightly spread apart."
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I really wonder sometimes if these guys say this to every single girl they encounter as some conversational tool or if they're really that ignorant to adhere to stereotypes about dancers.
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Originally Posted by Cally
^^^ They are our White Knights liz remember :D
oh yes, silly me. i love the shiny armour.
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I always keep to some variant of the truth: I used to work at Radio Shack, I'm a grad student working part-time, this job has MUCH less bullshit than Radio Shack and I get to drink!
"It's like working retail, but pays better -- and you get to set your own hours and drink and party."