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Do you ever feel guilty?
Yes I know its their decision to come and spend money, and I take it from them like I would from anyone. - Im certainly NOT working for free!
But there are just those custies who look like they REALLY cant afford a basic dance, let alone any of the deluxe shows, and I always feel kinda bad taking thier money.
Has this happened to you?
Or am I just a freak :P
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well.. they went all the way to the strip club... had a drink ... watched the stage... they better take a dance! I hate it when guys go to strip clubs and just watch the free stage... NO you shouldn't feel guilty you offered a fantasy they took it they have to pay for it!
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Gee nobody should be limited to always buying only what they can afford... don't feel guilty...
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Ive had some well paying customers that were unemployed. They would get tired of spending the day looking for jobs and wanted a pick me up. Dont feel guilty, its their choice to come in and most of the time you are making thier day.
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a fool and his money are soon parted
you can't fight it, so just profit off it
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I used to feel bad sometimes, but then I realized that they came in the club to spend money, and if I don't take their money, then someone else will.
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I used to feel bad all the time. I worked in a military town where I knew exactly what the guys got paid. But I snapped out of that real quick and now I almost NEVER feel bad about it. Maybe once every 6 months I feel bad, but other than that I take what they give!
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it depends on the situation... blue collar types, mabye yes, but businessmen with a lot of money...... no.. not at all.
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case by case i guess. i had one young guy that spent a lot of money. he looked in his wakket and only had 30 left (thats how much our dances are) i told him to take his money and go on home. he did
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What about if they are "in love" with you, knowing that I am married, and want to keep spending huge amounts on you, on a daily basis?
I actually took a month off so that guy would forget about me, cos I hate taking him money
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God when I first started dancing, I was PENNILESS!! I was always raised to try and put myself in the other person's shoes. At that time when I was just starting out, a $20 couch dance seemed so expensive. I mean, would *I* want to be approached by a dancer for a 4-min dance that costed more money than I could afford? So as a result, yeah I felt guilty seeing customers spend $20s at a time on dances for me. Thousands of dollars later, I am in a completely different financial situation and as a result I don't see $20 as being as big of a deal. I am a lot more assertive with asking guys for dances(but I do it in a nice & polite way!), and as a result my earnings have increased a LOT since I first started. Well I guess most dancers go through that awkward stage when they first start...right? I don't know.
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No. Never feel guilty. If they are in love with you, then you're obviously just doing your job properly.
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I can understand how you would feel guilty, i have felt the same in the past but have got over it now. After taking the Dancerwealth course I realised that you could never really effectively sell dances unless you truely believe that they are worth what you are charging. You wouldnt buy a car from someone who didnt believe the car was worth the money they were charing, so why should a guy buy a dance from you. The custys know the score when they come into the club and they come in to spend money, if you dont take it off them someone else will.
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I have never felt guilty.. they enter our clubs out of their own freewill!
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If he's so broke, he shouldn't be going out. :P
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Originally Posted by sexy_celeste
Yes I know its their decision to come and spend money, and I take it from them like I would from anyone. - Im certainly NOT working for free!
But there are just those custies who look like they REALLY cant afford a basic dance, let alone any of the deluxe shows, and I always feel kinda bad taking thier money.
Has this happened to you?
Or am I just a freak :P
No you are not a freak. You are a good hearted person.
Personally when I get the feeling that a custy can't afford my services I just do not offer them or kindly refuse them if asked. The only exception to that is stage tips.
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Are you kidding me? You think there is anyone in the club that actually feels guilt? I used to feel sorry for people who had no money too, but alot of the time you are being set up. It's not like that in the real (liberal) world, but in the world of stripping, dog-eat-dog! Nobody gives a flying shit.
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its only natural too feel bad for them .. but if they didnt want it and really couldnt afford it then really they cant afford to be in there in my eyes
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i was never a good salewoman working retail because i have a hard time selling something to someone that they don't want or don't need (or even making them just feel they need it!). people appreciated me as an honest saleswoman but mgmts weren't too pleased. i love my job as a dancer because never have i ever felt that i'm selling someone something they don't want!
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^^you go girl!! Honey.........if you feel bad about taking a man's money, you shouldn't be out there entertaining them. I NEVER let them touch unless they have at least $100 in their grubby little (or big) hands.
We provide a service that is more valuable than you realize, we provide fantasy, a break from their dull, boring, sexless lives, we give them a reason to masturbate at night when their ugly ole' wives with curlers in their hair refuse to give them a blow job.
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Maybe I'm cold, but I have no remorse, especially thinking of all of the crap these guys at SCs have given me.
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Ok heres a scenerio to comment on.... My ex-fiance cheated on me with a dancer and kept the truth from both of us (playing a double life in other words). They met outside of the club but when he found out what she did and where she worked he constantly went there WITH MY MONEY (he was unempoyed at the time) and buy private dances and what not. When I started getting suspicious of why he was going to that club ALL the time I put my computer genius to work and found out her number and who she was. When I confronted her about it she backed off and basically told him to f*ck himself. At first I was so upset over losing him to another girl that I felt I had to keep him to prove something (I dont know what, i was an idiot for that) Anyway me and the girl sort of became friends after all of this (mind you I was pregnant going through all of this too) and I would talk to her every once in a while. She called me one day and appologized and said she had to come over my house and see me, it was important. She came over handed me $300 and said he had gone to see her at work the week before and paid her $300 for a half hour private dance. She thought about it all week and said that giving me the money back seemed like the right thing to do after all I went through. I left him after that but I was wondering what you girls think about it. Should she have given me the money back? Told me about it at all? Or should she have just took the money and ran?
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Well, since you said he was running a double life, and after she found out she told him to fuck himself, I'd say she's decent. She didn't have to dump him when she found out. She didn't need to give you that money either, she worked hard for it. But obviously this girl has a good heart which is rare to find these days :)
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thats what i thought and to be honest i didnt want to take the money. i know shes not there just look pretty. me and her are good friends now, shes the one that got me really thinking about dancing seriously. i just wanted to see what you girls thought about it.....
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Nope, I don't. I bet MAC or Nordstroms don't feel guilty either if you or I go into their places of businesses and spend money we don't really have - our last $50 dollars in cash or with plastic we can only make the minimum payments on. Usually though I never know which custys can't truly be affording to spend as much as they do at our club. They don't tell me and I don't ask.