Sometimes I do. And when I don't get tuned on I pretend that he is the finest man I've ever seen!! I like this technique but it can easily attract stockers and not just regulars.
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Sometimes I do. And when I don't get tuned on I pretend that he is the finest man I've ever seen!! I like this technique but it can easily attract stockers and not just regulars.
you could also attract stalkers by acting completely aloof and uninterested. If a man is going to stalk you, trust me-- he will come up with a way to make you the focus of his world no matter what vibes you are actually sending out.
hmm, and yeah, sometimes I get turned on-- but normally it's by me or the moves that I'm doing and definitely not by the guy. I tend to be more careful with the hot guys oddly enough, not to get turned on...probably to avoid temptation ;)
I don't get turned on at all- it's just a job to me. I kinda just go through the motions and don't even really think about it.
Yep, though less often now than when I started.
that's funny-- I'm only starting to get turned on now after being in the biz for three years, before that-- nothing.
I found that as soon as I switched over from a touching (customer to dancer) environment to a no touching (customer to dancer, dancer can touch customer) that I definately enjoy the private/lap dances a hell of a lot more... sometimes yes I do turn myself on esp. if the custy allows me to do my thing without me having to keep him in check.
i can honestly say that i don't think i have ever once been turned on by lap dancing. i dunno, that's just me. i guess that's maybe why i've always been such a crappy lap dancer lol - when i was doing club work and i'd be doing a private dance for a guy, if he'd ask me "so does doing this turn you on?" i'd always quite bluntly reply "no, not in the slightest" (i am quite possibly the world's worst hustler, i cannot lie to guys and openly talk about sex and tell them i'm 'horny' etc)
i dunno. sex is the absolute furthest thing from my mind while i'm lap dancing.
nope never .. i cant even say that i would ever try to either ..
Yes.
Yes, I do.
I like to tie a man up before I do a lap dance on him, it drives them crazy with anticipation!!!
Yes. Let's just leave it at that.
...In my 11 years as a DJ in this industry, and having had a few lap, table, and VIP dances myself, I have discovered that if I just sit down and be a "good boy", I will get a better dance than if I was "all hands." Someone once told me that "it's the dancer's job to tease. Not yours."Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl
How do you separate yourself from being aroused? I would think turning a guy on would have that same effect on you. Is it a zen thing? Or is it just experience? Or is it just business, like waiting tables or working in a store? (I'm interested in pursuing this as a career so I ask dumb questions! Sorry!)
It's just a job.You have to separate your life from it.If you don't,you won't make it in this business.Quote:
Originally Posted by Chinese Desiree
the best actors become and feel the necessary emotions for their scenes. if one considers a stripper an erotic performer, then the very best probably do enjoy their dances for the duration of the time they are with each customer, regardless of contact level.
I once got turned on by this dude who was hiding from the police at my work. He kept playing like he was a pirate and made me say HAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRR all the time. I was so aroused i took him in the boom boom room and executed standing position 12 from the Kama Sutra
I put on my robe and wizard hat
Sometimes I do, and I dont even know why. I find that if I put myself in that frame of mind each night I work, the more successfull I am. I just go into a zone - I guess :)
one time only, in my entire 10 years of dancing !
Only once
Sometimes but only if I'm comfortable with the guy. But look out when it happens, someones in for a wild ride! ;)
Yes, I have gotten aroused before, but it is not a very common thing. I do have very pleasurable dances for other reasons though. Money, nice conversations, a back massage, good music, etc. will put me in a good mood and I will enjoy dancing much more than if I just got excited over some hot guy.
i've been dancing almost a year and i can tell you that in that year i've only found ONE guy i've danced for attractive.
wait, two. yep... two.
what if it's the exact opposite, what if you are totally repulsed by the guy? how do you deal with that? I know you have to pretend to like them, but what if he is like really dirty and stinks and keeps trying to touch you or something like that?
When a guy spends a lot of money on me it turns me on. ;D
I rarely get turned on sexually (like, maybe twice in nearly two years) but I do enjoy giving dances about half the time -- when customers are respectful, pleasant, and sit back to let me do my job. When I have to dance evasively the whole time to avoid being grabbed or licked, then it feels very much like a job. Occasionally I'll dance for someone so unpleasant that I have to go to my happy place until the dance is over...but that's blessedly rare.