too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
random....i have been procrastinating about applying in a brisbane club for sooooo long (yeah like 3 months!!!) i just cant seem to bring myself to go in.
i went in once- applied,and was ment to start a few nights later- but i freaked out that afternoon and neevr turned up (or rung)
now i really need to start dancing somewhere here, and im still putting it off. all day ill tell myself "tonight ill go in check out the clubs, and start tomorrow" but once late afternoon hits,i kinda start freaking out again... keep making excuses why tonights not a good night to go in etc...
its not that i have a problem with working or anything, im just worried the girls will be bitchy (sheesh youd think after working in some of the bitchiest clubs in tokyo id be fine) and i hate being the "new girl" i hate not knowing where things are and what to do....i know after a few weeks i wont care and ill think about how immature im being right now and laugh, but right now...i really really really dont want to have to go in there and apply.
sorry for the long post, im just really confused about why im even feeling like this after almost 4 years dancing...im so scared!!
HELP!!! what to do? its like i want to fastforward the first few weeks and instantly be in that im-at-home-in-this-club feeling. :(
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
Don't be scared-I've seen your pic and you're hot! I know what you mean though-I hate the first couple of days at a new place, and girls can be bitchy towards a new girl.
Just motivate yourself by thinking of the money you'll be making. I usually make more money when I first start out at a club (unless the club flat out sucks)-it's the whole "fresh meat" thing. Guys get sick of seeing the same girls all the time.
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
ive been doing the same thing. but the only thing thats actually stopping me is that im worried im not good-looking enough. i know im pretty, but my body can use some toning and a little bit of a tan. i tried some self tanner and it worked great! (go loreal sublime bronze!!) and i havent really started making an effort to exericise (stupid move, i know) but i can do all that after i get hired, right? my boyfriend wants me to exercise with him and go tanning, which i have no problem with, but he wants me to do all that now and then go audition around summertime. i feel like im ready to go now. but i dont know if i look ready enough yet. i dont know which i should do, go now or wait?
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
i know exactly what you mean, when i first moved here, i procrastinated until my bank account was dry, and its true, you make more when you first start out being new sucks, but in a way its good b/c no one knows you, and you aren't invovled in any drama, and $$$$ the hardest thing is getting your ass in there for the first time...good luck girl ps...you are a hottie
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
I was really scared when I first applied. I got the job like real easy though. But like when I started all the girls were like total bitches. It's like they don't want me to be there. But like I know it's like they are just jealous of me. Because they have like been there for like ever and they are like soooooooo old and all saggy. Once you learn to like ignore all the haters it's like a lot easier I think. I don't know yet though cause like I just started like 2 months ago.
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
I was so scared my first night at my new club!! A few people who have worked there told me that it's a stressful environment, that the girls are catty, and that it was competitive. That didn't help much, because I'm not a catty, competitive girl and I can do without the stress. My best [male] friend (the DJ) and I started the new gig on the same night. I was so stressed after my orientation that I was going to check-in for rotation and I was standing in the DJ booth with tears in my eyes and said, "I don't think I'm gonna like it here; I wanna go home!" Then, I decided to go down to the bar, have a smoke and gather myself before my first stage. I never made it to the bar. I started doing dances and stayed busy ALL night!
A month later, I feel like I'm finally fitting in a bit, I'm still making decent money and most of all, I'm happy there!
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
How about starting on a slower shift when there will be fewer girls in the club? Like day shift or Sun-Wed nights?
Maybe you are just through with dancing altogether. I'm feeling that way, so I may be projecting.:-[
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
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Originally Posted by beckysnot
i feel like im ready to go now. but i dont know if i look ready enough yet. i dont know which i should do, go now or wait?
you feel ready now- go for it now!!! :)
thanks for all your kind words girls :) i know i am holding myself back by avoiding applying somewhere, ive just never felt so damn scared about starting somewhere new before, lol maybe im getting old and afraid of change?
i was even considering driving 1.5hours to the gold coast so i could work in my old club,where id feel comfortable. but i know thats a really silly,and a huge waste of petrol!
ok...tonight...ill try again tonight... *sigh*
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
Being new sucks no matter what you do and where you go, but everyone was new at one time. It will get better and you'll feel at home in no time. The main thing is to just moving and stay confident. You're beautiful and I'm sure you'll be a delight to any club you go to.
Re: too scared to apply in a club here wtf? urgent help plz
Awww, that sucks - I am occasionally like this myself.
Remember that once you get to the club if you dont like it and the girls are horrible etc you can always just walk on out again!
Have a think about when the best time to go in is. For me if I'm at a totally new club I prefur to start when it's quiet so I can get to know how the club runs and where everything is etc. Also when it's quiet other people are more inclined to be friendly and help out with any questions you may have. So ideally I will start early on a not so busy night and / or at an early time at a new club.
Alternatively, if I'm going back to an old club or club I know I prefur to jump in at the deep end and start at a busy time on a busy night as I know as soon as I've done that first podium I will be back in the swing of things (-:
Once you've done it you'll be fine!!!!!! Think about your house you want, that's more important than attitudes of stupid bitch girls!!!!!!!!!!!!