i have a question...
in your opinion, is it better to say you have a boyfriend or not?
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i have a question...
in your opinion, is it better to say you have a boyfriend or not?
You mean is it better to be single while stripping?
Probably better to say you're single and in my honest opinion, it's probably better to be single anyway whey you're dancing. As long as I'm dancing, I'm staying single. I don't think most men would be able to handle their girlfriend dancing naked for a bunch of horney men.
mine does and loves it.
IMO, single is better. Might be cliche bc I did it when I was single.
But what might work for someone, might not work for you. Or vise versa. It all depends. ;)
I always tell the truth. I love my man and our daughter, I won't deny them just to try and make an extra buck. Besides, I really don't have the patience to deal with guys looking to date. Usually they are the energy draining, no money spending jerkoffs anyway. ::) So if someone asks, yes I tell them I have a man. It's not something I volunteer, after all they came in for fantasy right..but if they insist on knowing about me...
My thoughts exactly as LeoGirl.
My boyfriend is incredibly supportive about me dancing, so it IS possible. I never bring him up, but if someone asks, then I will say that I'm "seeing someone." It might turn off a few who are looking for dates, but like Lyssa Lynn says, I don't have much patient with those guys anyway. Many seem to be happy to tell themselves that maybe if I were single I'd date them, so being "taken" actually saves me from having to tell them the brutal truth. I've actually considered buying a wedding band to wear at work so I won't get asked out...is that crazy?
I always say no man, but I managed to hurt a couple boyfriends by having to ignore them when they came into my club....Oh, and "men aren't sensitive".. ; P (Their egoes are..)
HAHAHAHA. Amen to this.Quote:
Originally Posted by madmaxine
I only say I have a guy if I REALLY don't like the customer or actually like him enough that I think he would be better off not pursuing me, this usually happens after getting to know the guy. As for lying about my guy, well my customers REALLY don't want to know. I am not myself in the club so they don't need to know about my personal life. If they really wanted to know they need only ask another dancer, everyone knows my boyfriend and would tell the guy if he felt compelled to ask. Other than that, I don't do private parties or agree to go out with any customer so I am not leading them on to the point where they would be upset if I was "taken."
Well, I used to tell the truth until people told me flat out they wouldn't get dances from me any more because of it. Then I got wise and realized that my work persona is not me, she is a fantasy and part of that is her being single. So no, I do not tell them anymore.
If they're being really creepy or I don't think htey'll spend, I'll admit to having a bf. Other than that, I just deny it... Help's with the fantasy... Unforetunatly, there are guys that ABUSE this fantasy and think they'll get u outside the club... But, I'd rather have their money and turn down the amazing opportunity to let them fuck me in a hotel room... then not have their money.
Ha! I usually say I'm single even though I am very happily attached with my boyfriend and have been for over a year. He and I came up with a pretty cool little idea though... When pressured for my status I say I have a GIRLFRIEND!
This shocks most guys into not pursuing the issue and most of them find the idea quite arousing. If they ask more questions I'm actually bisexual but taking a break from guys for a bit. My girlfriends name is Nikki and she does everyhing that my boyfriend does so my stories don't get confused because I'm only switching a name and telling the truth. Plus guys still think they have a chance becuase I'm only taking a break... and most say that they could turn me straight again, lol!
-=Phoenix
I say I have "friends"..
I have a friend that says that she has three boyfriends but hasn't decided which one to sleep with..
I have been thinking about admitting that I have a boyfriend, "but he doesn't know I am here."
I always admitmy b/f when asked and it doesnt seem to be a problem as the club i work in is mostly populated by stags. I dont really have any long term regulars who might be less willing to spend if they knew i had a b/f. If i can sense that a custy has alot of cash and wants to book me for the night i might just say that im "seeing someone." It can get me out of a tight space as i can act like its not a particularly serious relationship but i they really push to see me OTC i can say, "Well i did tell you i was seeing someone and im not they type of girl who would cheat." Sometime i find that if the custys hear you have a b/f it makes them want you more and therefore send more because they see it like a challenge.
I always deflect with a 'nothing serious'. It tells them pretty much nothing about my actual life, keeps the flirt going and usually passes without comment. Or when I get "what are you doing after work?" I can tell them I have a date. And another date after that. And yeah, next Saturday too...
hehe i like this reply. good idea!Quote:
Originally Posted by Silver Phoenix
If you are in a committed relationship with a guy, he should understand that customers for whatever reason want to feel that we are available. Many guys look at the strip club just like a night club, and want to feel that everyone they spend money on is potentially available. If your boyfriend or husband truly loves you and is ambitious about making money, he will see your money as his, understand the psychology of men in a club (since he should have been in enough of them and observed the ropes) and know that the more available you seem, the more money guys will spend on you hoping you may choose them. A smart boyfriend/husband knows you are not going to hook up with guy after guy you dance for in a club. He knows that each guy we dance for in a club is like each customer a checker rings up at the grocery store. That we don't even remember them after we've been paid. If the boyfriend/husband doesn't know that, he is kinda got a screw loose upstairs.
My guy understands the ropes. He reminds me about my ring if I forget before I go to work. Some clubs the guys are not as "nosy" as others. If you work in clubs where you have a lot of regular customers who know everyone, you are setting yourself up for trouble by admitting to having someone. If you work in a big transient club like in Vegas, it may not matter too much if you have a ring on or what you say, as you are not working in a "Cheers" type environment.
Ditto.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lyssa Lynn
One girl tells them, "I have a husband, two boyfriends, and seven baby-daddies on the side!" It gets a laugh. And then they stop pestering.
It really depends on the rapport I have with that customer. 90% of my regulars (mostly older men) know I have a boyfriend, and it doesn't bother them. Occasionally I will say I'm single, but some guys get pushy and say "I'll only get a lapdance with you if I can get your number"; that pisses me off and so I just I tell them I'm taken and move on.