What to do? (sorry, a bit long)
I feel like such an idiot.
I danced for the first time on Tuesday and I haven't been back. Why? For one thing, my thighs are STILL so sore that it's difficult to walk barefoot, much less with those heels on. I expected to be sore, but it's been 2 full days and I'm still so stiff and sore.
Aside from the body - I learned a few things Tuesday that really freaked me out - God, I'm niave! I can't believe guys are so disgusting. As a customer, I never really noticed how disgusting guys could be - probably because I wasn't talking to them. As slow as it was Tuesday, I had some Lebanese guy who tried to talk me into "making sex with him". He told me all about the places in Lebanon where he could go get a Russian girl for $25 an hour, in a clean room with a bed and bathroom. EWWWW! Even after I said I don't do that, he persisted. Then there was a 70 year old man who wanted me to put my nipple in his mouth on stage. Then there was the 50 year old who kept sticking his tongue out like he was licking the girl on stage. None of them wanted to spend any money - just looking for sex.
Ironically, the guys who just wanted to touch didn't bother me. I got two lap dances and the guy was pretty grabby, but that didn't phase me at all. The talking part really got under my skin. These guys are just insulting. There is no sign on the front door that says House of Prostitution, but apparently that's what they are thinking. Now I really understand why dancers want to hang with hubby and me when we are in the club. We're worth at least one dance and we don't say or do anything disgusting.
So what do I do now? I really need extra money, but I just don't know if I can do this....my hustle doesn't exist (at least not sober), my dancing needs work (I feel pretty awkward on stage). I need about $5,000 grand by the end of summer (in addition to my regular salary). I don't want to be the lame-ass dancer that girls feel sorry for and guys try to take advantage of. I could switch clubs (the one I started at is one of the nastiest in town), but I don't feel confident. Confidence is the key to this business, right?
Re: What to do? (sorry, a bit long)
Here's my advice and feel free not to use it haha. You say you don't feel confident enough to move to a new club yet.....why is that? Just your performance? Work on it.....use these gross dregs to practice on, ignore them lady!! You have to have tough skin sadly to say, just block them out unless they are doing something extremely offensive. Then get a bouncer involved. If this club is gross........how do you think you'll make 5000$ there in basically 2. 5 months? Will you go nuts there?? My advice- work on your dancing or whatever it is that you're uncomfortable with for a week or 2 more. Then........change clubs! Start looking around now though, see what the dancers and custies are like etc etc....You deserve better you just have to believe in yourself! Good luck
Re: What to do? (sorry, a bit long)
Dani hit it right on!
Work on whatever is keeping you back from trying out at the nicer clubs in town, and once you feel more confident, GO! I work at one of the nicest clubs in my town (yay!), and while I do get asked for prostitution maybe once a night, it's once or twice a night, maybe none some nights, and it tends to be the guys who've spent money on me and don't want to let me go.
If nothing else, when you have to deal with asshole customers, tell yourself, "I'm smarter, sexier, and more beautiful than he could ever be - and than he could ever have!"
Sometimes I'm surprised at how much that does to dissapate my terrible mood.