For all you lovely dommes out there...
Okay, so I have this regular. He's been coming in to see me every week for about two months... dropping cash, tons of dances, buying me gifts, the works.
Then he drops this wierd bomb on me - "I want to be your bitch."
He has asked me to pinch his nipples while I give him a LD so that he knows I "own" him, and tells me he wants to be "trained" by me, and "belong" to me, and be my slut, whore, bitch, etc. He also asked "Would you like me to wear some women's panties next time I come see you?" I got a little thrown off but smiled and said yes. Sure enough, next time he was in, red sheer panties.
I don't think he wants to be hurt physically (those kind of guys, I can handle) but more like he wants to be, for lack of a better phrase, trained like my puppy dog.
I have NO FREAKING IDEA what I'm doing, but with as slow as it's been, I want to keep him. PaigeDWinter, I'm waiting on your opinion, as well as all you other wise lovelies. Help a girl out!!!
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OOooo, Lucky you. These guys are the best to have as regulars. You are fulfilling a fantasy for this man so enjoy it while you can.
These guys are what is called a sub or submissive. They need to be told what to do - thats your job. Tell him what to do. If you want him to wear panties , tell him. He needs a schedule.
Like, when you come in get a drink for you and me. Wait till I come over before you speak to someone and so forth. You can judge the intensity of how harsh you need to be with him by how he acts.
I had one reg that loved it when I danced for him with my stiletto in his crotch and called him .. "A bad boy" and "Mommas bitch"
Odd but he loved it. He will show you what he needs and or wants. Just be controlling with him. Bottom line is HE WANTS YOU TO CONTROL HIM.
It's just that simple.
Does this help?
If not you can pm me and I can go into more detail.
Good luck and happy Domme'ing!
Also, as a footnote I wanted to add I am by no way
a professional Domme. This is simply my experience with sub guys at my work.
Big hugs!
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I ask questions as to what they like but I see he already gave you a bunch of clues to work with. You can always ask more questions. I get guys who love to dress in womens lingerie. I tell him his fantasies as I dance over him of how he's going to be gang raped by bunch of gay men and how he'll suck all of them off as I watch. I like to tell fantasies as I dance it seems they like it.
Also, found this site awhile back http://bondage.com/id/12/which/154/show_column.html might help you too.
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Thanks, both of you!
The most feasible thing I've heard so far is what Crow was saying about the drink thing. I get the feeling that he doesn't want to be hurt or anything, he just wants me to order him around. And thanks for the site, TigersMilk. I found a link on there about a "slave training" program that sounds.... interesting.
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Yep, just order him around. Tell him he's so pathetic as a man that he'd better hope you'll make him into a good sissy slut. Tell him he's only allowed to masturbate if you give him permission before he leaves the club, and that'll cost him $100. Tell him next time he comes in he better bring you (whatever) or you won't speak to him. Then tell him how cute he is when he does exactly what you say and laugh at him a little.
Those'll give you a feel for which direction to really go with him.
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Originally Posted by cherry_sin
PaigeDWinter, I'm waiting on your opinion, as well as all you other wise lovelies. Help a girl out!!!
Here I come to save the daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! o/`o/`
So far, so good on the replies. Set him up with rules.
He is not allowed to be entertained by any other females without your permission.
Make him wear ladies lingerie under his clothing.
Make him clean your shoes.
Make him massage your legs after you dance on stage.
Make him buy every single one of your drinks
Call him your bitch. Do it a lot. Tell other girls yer friendly with. Be like, "Look (insert dancer name here)! This is my bitch. Isnt he pathetic and cute?" Stuff like that.
Lead him around by his ear, or by the collar of his shirt.
Make him wear a collar with (stage name)'s Bitch on the tags. Drag him to the lapdance area by it... I would say use a leash, but some clubs arent ok with that.
If the floor isnt TOO gross, make him kneel next to you when you sit.
All questions and requests to him are to be answered how you like... IE: YEs Ma'am, Yes Mistress, Yess Goddess.... etc.
Thats good for starters. Lemme know how it goes!
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Seem to be a lot of those in Tucson, I can't wait till I find my own custy like that!
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Omg, I would LOVE to hae a custy like this! Good luck with it babes, keep us updated, im really interested to see how this one turns out.
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Thank God for you, Paige. Lists are good... Me being a Cancer and all that. LOL.
Thanks everybody, actually. So, I went in to work last night, and he was there.... Did the masturbation thing like Lena said (cha-ching!) and the look on his face was of complete and total bliss. I drug him around by the collar all night and every three-four songs or so, I was all "Come on bitch, I can tell you need another lapdance."
I also realized that for the first time ever someone would pay ME to rub my feet with lotion after being on stage. I read Paige's website and took a cue from her - told him when he came in he wasn't allowed to speak to anyone, or any other entertainer, until I came and sat with him, and I wouldn't do that unless he had an envelope full of cash on the table in front of him - marked "tribute" of course.
Thanks everyone! This is much easier than I was making it out to be.
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See. We TOLD you.
You are a Goddess! :D
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Well, Crow, sometimes it takes some convincing. LOL. Thanks super-much.
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I used to have one... or so he thought he was... then I started to scare him and he ran away :( He couldnt handle being called a sissy bitch and he actually started to cry the night I told him hes my bitch. Even though he asked me to do all that stuff... he ran away from me and is now with another dancer who is like the girl next door and is very sweet with him. Guess he really was a sissy :( Cherry im jealous I want a real bitch!
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Huzzah! Great job, cherry!!!! Rock on!
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What a pussy Cally!
Men have no idea what they want; and they say women are bad....
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LOL a friend of mine was over when I was reading the post the first time around. She just texted me, saying I should be a Dominatrix Trainer. ;D
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You should. I would so pay for lessons. I know some people that do "couples training" and bank. I'd LOVE to be a prof. dominatrix after this. uh-oh.... we've created a monster.
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Okay, I take that back. You are a Goddess-in-training. :D :P
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sounds like i'm the customer all of you dommes are looking for....
i'd love to be made to be a dancer's complete and total slave......
especially have her use me as her footstool during breaks...........
making me lick her heels clean and massage her feet....................
in this same vein........
would any of you seek to dominate a customer outside the club???
i'm glad to see all of you interested in having more subs as your regulars....
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Originally Posted by jakekingwarren
in this same vein........
would any of you seek to dominate a customer outside the club???
I've been a Pro Domme for 10 years, much longer then I've been dancing. }:D