Re: GOOD hustling drink tips
Hun, I wish I had some pointers for you. I really can't think of anything. That's a tough one! I mean, $20 is a lot of money for some freakin juice! I guess you could try some different approached and see which one worked the best. You could try the "empathic" approach by being all understand and agreeing with them when they say $20!! That's a lot! You could say, "I sorry, I know it does SEEM like a lot of money for a drink but the drinks we make are the best in town and you're not just paying for the drink, you're paying for the incredible service we give you" And then be all flirty, smile, bat your eyes, maybe touch him a little bit. What I've read and found is all people want is "to be heard" and "to be right" when you give that to them, then they'll still get it. If the first approach doesn't work, you could always try the reverse psychology, you still "agree" with them that by saying "You're right, that is pretty expensive, but it's not just the drink you're paying for, you're paying for the fabulous service we provide. BUT if the drink is too expensive for you, I will gladly take it back to the bar or gladly cancel your order" I'd say most of the time the guy would say "Oh, no, no, no, that's ok, I'll take the drink, don't cancel my order or don't take it back." All people want is to bitch and complain and be heard and that you "agree" with them, once you do, they'll still get it anyway. Try those techniques, that's really all I can think of because I honestly wouldn't want to spend $20 on juice or an alcoholic drink. If those don't work, let us know maybe some other girls here have some good ideas. If you haven't read the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie, then READ IT!!!!!!! It teaches you how to get whatever you want out of people without really manipulating, just kinda giving them what they want and "hearing them out" and they'll be all yours! It's also a really easy read, it's not boring, you'll breeze through it within a week! Good luck!
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I would frame it differently. After you've sat with them for a couple minutes say, "wow, I'm having such a great time with you" (or, omg you're so interesting/smart/funny, I'm having a great time). They'll say they're having a good time too. Then say, "shall I stay for a drink? Otherwise I have to get back to work." That way it's very clear that they're buying your time.
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Okay, first, keep in mind that the vast majority of guys are fucking with you. They know the rules, they know the system, and believe me it is perfectly normal there. Guys who bitch about it are the same guys who complain about the cost of dances and how girls are constantly hounding them for dances here. So.
1) Believe that it is worth it. Know that your time is worth money; you are entirely worth buying a drink for. Keep that firmly in front of you, even if you have to fake it.
2)You are not surprising these guys. When you sit down to be charming, they KNOW that you will be asking them or someone else will be asking them for the drink. Don't be embarassed, but make it worth it. Be charming.
3)Keep in mind that you are, in fact, primarily there to push drinks. Look after the dancers. You are a waitress, keep it in mind. (Sorry, but I've worked in clubs like this - clubs in which the waitresses forget that they are waitresses immediately go into a downward sprial. If you want to hostess full time give up waitressing).
4)Do not lie about the content of your drinks. It is illegal and the bar could lose their license.
Outside of that, just do what works for you.
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Jenny's right. Customers proabably know the score a lot better than they admit -- in a lot of places there are bars where buying the hostesses a drink to get their time is the whole point.
If for some reason the customers are new to it, there is no reason to be defensive about the content of the drink. They are buying your time, and there is no reason why they shouldn't pay for it.
So from the customer's perspective, I would think you should hustle pretty much the same way dancers hustle dances. Sell yourself, be happy, focus on the guy to make him feel good and help him decide that it would be a lot of fun to sit with you for a while.
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PS -- looking at your photo, you are definitely worth it!
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hey thanks for all the tips...i'll try them tonight!!!!!!!! ;) and i will read that how to infulence people or whatever book! :)