how to be a tease while lapdancing?
OK...i'm new. I've worked three shifts so far, and I picked up nearly everything quickly (people didn't believe me when i said it was my first time dancing, so i took that as a sign i'm doing something right! :) )
BUT...lapdances. I don't have too much trouble getting them to say yes, but I have trouble keeping them once I've got them. As in, going for more than one song.
I know this is because I just grind on them for the most part, instead of teasing them and drawing it out and making them want more. But what else can i DO but grind? In our club, we're allowed to touch the customers but they can't touch us.
Might be a stupid question, but...like i said, I'm new to the whole couch-dance thing.
If anyone could give me some tips on how to draw it out and make them want more than one song, or give me some ideas on what else to do besides just grind, I will officially love you forever ;D
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I like to start off standing. I bend over and slide my hands up the back of my legs slowly, stand up and take a good 20-30 seconds to take my clothes off, while dancing and teasing- a wicked smirk will kill them while you do this. Then, I lean in close, and slide down their body to the floor and start the real dance from there. Grinding doesn't come into play until about 45-60 seconds before I'm asking for a second dance :) The second song- do a little more, third- a little more, after that switch back and forth between withholding and giving. Make them want another, and another, and another Hehehehe ;)
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thanks! the only thing is, we have to do lapdances with tops and bottoms on. We're allowed to go topless in VIP (which i remind them of when they ask me if they can see my tits during a lapdance..."oh, sorry, not here, but UPSTAIRS..."*mischevious look*)
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I start off looking them straight in the eyes like they're the sexiest piece of meat on earth... then I slowly crawl onto them like I want to draw out a huge love-making session. Breathe heavy, like you're aroused. Lean in close and nuzzle their cheek. Make a big ordeal of it.
Remember, the grinding is 'sex'. And you can't have 'sex' without 'foreplay'. :P
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At the end of the first dance I always ask "may I have another?" insted of asking if they would like another. It works better.
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I have the same prob, just cant think of anything to do! But lately Ive been more of a therapist than a dancer... They just want me to sit there and listen to their probs about divorse, job loss, ect. It doesnt bother me though, less pain from my legs the next day!
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it's got to be personal. very personal.
the best way I found to get them hook, line, and sinker is to build up a deeper rapport before asking - as in - when it comes to the initial conversation - try to go beyond small talk - discuss more pressing issues that concern their interests. a lot of men - usually the older ones - I come across seem to enjoy more the women that can hold up a conversation just as much as they do the ones who can get down and dirty. they appreciate it more knowing they're getting a lapdance from a girl who is perceptive of her surroundings.
aside from that - never take your eyes from theirs - the moment you do you're running the risk of losing the next dance. I hear more often than not from customers it's the girls who look disinterested or aloof that turn them off the most. thus - always look like you're having fun/getting turned on - as if they were the very reason - and the only reason you started dancing. it's really the same rules that apply when you're on stage - just on a condensed level. personally - I find private dances easier because you can pull all of your focus on one person rather than try to appease several. by the end I always say something "oh I'm just getting started on you (insert name here)." make it as personal as you can. it never fails.
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ooh, those are some awesome tips! :D
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Originally Posted by SilverSaturn0
At the end of the first dance I always ask "may I have another?" insted of asking if they would like another. It works better.
omfg. that's the coolest thing ever. does it work?
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Look up burlesque dancing. Seriously, I saw my first burlesque show last night and it totally changed my opinion of the power of a striptease. There was more hooting and hollering and stage tips for one girl dancing 5 minutes with at the least pasties, then Ive ever seen at any strip club!
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omfg. that's the coolest thing ever. does it work?
YES! I used this all the time.
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That whole paying attention to them is a huge must imo. I got a couple of dances from a girl a few weeks ago in the couch room and she had my attention enough to go into VIP a bit later. After a couple of minutes in there she just started going through the motions and not really paying much attention to me. Was looking around more then at me. That killed the rest of the dance for me and felt a bit jipped actually. Think she hadn't danced at that club very much before cause she spent more time bitching about how much the club took out of the dance during it then really dancing. I don't mind talking about whatever out in the club but during a dance I would personally like a dance. I know some guys get them to talk but likely if they aren't very talkative they just want to sit back and enjoy themselves.
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Breath hot air into his ear. Whisper "sweet nothings" in his ear. Maybe nibble on it. Lots of eye contact. Run your fingers through his hair. Tug on it if it's long enough. Get really close to his face like you might kiss him, then coyly turn away. Rub your hands on his chest and grip his shoulders. Compliment him. Tell him in a breathy voice how much fun your having. Touch your own legs/breast/stomach if it's allowed.
Most girls I see look bored, and are really passive. Grinding should only be a very small part of the dance. Give him just enough, then switch to something else. Be aggressive like he's your boyfriend and your so overcome with desire. Hell, think about your boyfriend if that's what can get you in a sexy mindset.
At the end of the dance I always smile at the guy and tell him I would love to have another dance with him. If he says no I say thank you and give him a big hug. A lot of times he will come looking for me later after he's had a dance with a boring girl.
Lapdance's should be about making the guy all hot and bothered, NOT about making him cum. Think foreplay, not sex.
I've had lots of guys tell me that my lapdances were so sexy and sensual they enjoyed them more then the "dirty" dances they've had.
It's all in your mindset and attitude. Fake it till you make it if you have to. I used to imagine all kinds of sexy/nasty/porn worthy images and that made it easier to project a sexy attitude. Learn how to be an actress. Learn how to seduce.
It really just takes practice. You'll get the hang of it, trust me. My lapdances sucked when I first started, and now I get complimented on them ALL THE TIME.
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A gentle tickle (on an arm, etc) can work wonders on some guys (and girls!). There's a whole sensual (non-sexual sensual) realm there that you can exploit as well.
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I'm considering dancing and have been on and off about it because of the idea of lap dances, but those tips really make it seem more manageable!
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Originally Posted by Picaresque
we have to do lapdances with tops and bottoms on. We're allowed to go topless in VIP (which i remind them of when they ask me if they can see my tits during a lapdance..."oh, sorry, not here, but UPSTAIRS..."*mischevious look*)
NEVER say sorry! Say "I'ld love to show you them, they're so (insert adjective, like perky, beautiful, w/e). Let's go upstairs to vip, I know you'll like what you see."
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shit, how did i miss the rest of these replies? i thought this thread had died awhile ago.
Thanks so much for the suggestions--this is a huge help :)
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These are great tips!
A question though-I'm pretty sure in Portland there is NO TOUCHING whatsoever (haven't started dancing yet so I'm not sure if this applies to private dances as well). If this is the case, what other things would you do during the private dances?
I guess it all comes down to eye contact, attention, flirting with your body/eyes...but it seems like with no touching I'll have to get more creative...
::)
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If YOU look like you are having fun..HE'LL have more fun. Act like he is the only guy there. Moan in his ear...nibble on his earlobe...or his nipples(through his shirt..making sure to pull his shirt up with your teeth so it LOOKS like you are biting hard without him being in pain...unless he's into that!!)....at the VERY end of the song grab his shirt collar and grind REALLY hard....then "oh..the song's over ALREADY??? You dont want me to stop do you? It was just starting to feel REALLY good"
He'll rarely say no....
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Originally Posted by SilverSaturn0
At the end of the first dance I always ask "may I have another?" insted of asking if they would like another. It works better.
Asking this from your knees between his legs with puppy dog eyes works on me every time.
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Originally Posted by vincenza
it's got to be personal. very personal.
the best way I found to get them hook, line, and sinker is to build up a deeper rapport before asking - as in - when it comes to the initial conversation - try to go beyond small talk - discuss more pressing issues that concern their interests. a lot of men - usually the older ones - I come across seem to enjoy more the women that can hold up a conversation just as much as they do the ones who can get down and dirty. they appreciate it more knowing they're getting a lapdance from a girl who is perceptive of her surroundings.
aside from that - never take your eyes from theirs - the moment you do you're running the risk of losing the next dance. I hear more often than not from customers it's the girls who look disinterested or aloof that turn them off the most. thus - always look like you're having fun/getting turned on - as if they were the very reason - and the only reason you started dancing. it's really the same rules that apply when you're on stage - just on a condensed level. personally - I find private dances easier because you can pull all of your focus on one person rather than try to appease several. by the end I always say something "oh I'm just getting started on you (insert name here)." make it as personal as you can. it never fails.
on that note, the grind while facing away(like reverse cg) is boring... if you are gonna do that, look over your shoulder a lot for eye contact