I did it, but a little worried....
Well, I did my audition, in front of a customer, the general manager, a fellow dancer, and the DJ.
They just play R&B for the most part in the club, so when I asked for something slow to dance to, I figured they'd give me some R.Kelly, Usher or something like that to dance to. Well, the stupid DJ gave me Phil Collins.
Yeah, I got that "cool" ass song by Phil Collins with the urban legend about his friend drowning or some shit like that. "Calling In The Air Tonight".
Well, to make a long story short, I got the job!
But, I was noticing the customers and they seemed a little mixed about me. One guy was super friendly when I found out I was new, and kept touching my leg as I sat with him (does this happen often?!) and the other snapped at me to hurry up and get my panties off already. And when I did and spread my legs in front of him for awhile, he gave me 5 singles and then "waved" me off. How rude!
Either way, when I left today, I felt kind of dirty. I questioned myself whether or not this is what I want to do.
Are all men customers so degrading?
Re: I did it, but a little worried....
no all men are not that degrading but sometimes they test the new girl. And genral rudeness is a fact of the biz. It will get better i would give it a good 2 week shot and if you still feel its not for you then its probaly not but hang in there so you can't get a good feel for it first. good luck.
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Dont admit your new. This will save you a huge headache in the long run. Or if you do admit your new just say you've been working in SCs all along and you know people who are dancers so that way they know you know what goes on in a club.
Fuck I hate idiotic men.
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That's a perfect idea, the two week idea!
Thanks and I'm glad to hear things are better than this. :D
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I still feel like it at times, like kind of dirty... I just don't know why but I feel sooo bad when I work. Sometimes I wonder if this is something I want to do, becuz in this business, eh you gonna get some pervs, some assholes, and all that mixed in.. I've had some sweet custys who actually became my regulars, and came across plenty who were just flat out rude! That's just apart of this business..
After a few months of dancing, I got used to it. Just takes a extra backbone to deal with men who are rude and disrespectful.. yeah, and about the feeling dirty thing, I feel like that especially when I'm dancing and dudes is throwing the money at me.. I think its just something I'll never get over with...
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I guess you're right, it kinda goes with the territory of being a dancer and you do need that extra backbone. I'm with you on it, I think the dirty feeling (and right on like you said about guys throwing singles at you, that's exactly when I felt like a trick) is something that won't leave me.
But hey, having an apartment, my bills paid, and some spending money is worth it, I guess, haha. :-\ ;)
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I was very nervous my first night dancing and I think the custys could tell. I was sitting by myself, not talking to anyone and this big fat troll motions for me to come over and talk to him. So I did go over and talk to him. He looks at me very rudely and then says "oh your tits are not that big. He then says are you on coke? I said no. (I have never done any drugs, and hardly ever drink) He then looks at me and says, no you are lying all strippers are on drugs. At that point I just ran back to the dressing room.
He was the most rude and mean custy I have ever had. For the most part the custys are there to have fun. I think sometimes they can tell when you are new and they power trip on that. There will always be that one troll or perv in the crowd. Krchab99 is right, give it two weeks and then see how you feel.
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My first customer said to me, "You look good and all, but you need to show more ass"
It's a rite of passage. I think once you've done this for a while you get over the feeling dirty thing. Well actually, once you realize that you are the one in control, and how to take control of the situation, you will feel powerful and liberated. It takes a while to build a thicker skinf that's required.
Also, might I suggest trying to find the humor in these situations? If you think about it, that fat troll giving you his cold appraisal is hilarious. The very idea that some oily fat dude would have the audacity to ctritique you is quite funny. This shit would not play in the real world but somehow in the SC environment it's commonplace. I would have called him out if he said that crap to me. I have no problem being a smartass to rude people. Sometimes it works in my favor.
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Its funny reading this because my first night was great and everyone was nice to me. They said things like, "dont worry you'll get the hang of it" or "do whatever your comfortable with, you dont have to do anything your not ok with"..... But THEN on my second shift forget it. I got ALL the assholes! One guy was pissed off I didnt flash my kitty, one guy was pissed I didnt bend over enough, another one was pissed that I wouldnt grind his FACE, ect. Then there was these 4 thugs that came in and all they did was sit there and talk dirty to all the girls and didnt tip a dollar! Not even a dollar!
Moral to the story is, its not the job or the club most of the time, its mostly just the men that go in there and think they own you since they pay you.... Sometimes you'll get guys that treat you like gold and others will treat you like a whore...
Keep your head up and stick with it for alittle while, and good luck!