What are your thoughts?
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What are your thoughts?
Even though I believe in the forever love thing, you have to be realisitic and say things do happen. I think it's important to protect yourself, women or men, so on both sides of the fence. I don't see anything wrong with it.
I think it's in everyones best interest to write up a pre-nup while both parties are happily in love with one another. I've seen things get mighty hateful in the midst of divorce...I'm not sure I understand wanting to be lawfully bound to anyone in the first place...well unless he's very rich and you stand to gain..but I digress...I say pre-nups are a must.
I think everyone should have a prenump. It protects both parties. Your money will go to you instead of to the lawyers and court costs. Lawyers are the only real winners in divorce.
And Vyanka, I am new here so I am sure it has been said before to you, but your signature of Tyra is freggin hilarious.
I thought about having a Pre-nup with my fiance but then I remembered neither of us has shit so what's the point...
But seriously, I do see why they're a good idea if you have assets to protect.
If you have value before going into a marriage - I would say get one.
If not, then one basically earned that money together. As Suze Ormon says, "If you are not willing to go into business with this person, then you should not get married to them!"
Would never get married (again) without one.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vyanka
i think its very unromantic but i see its purpase its good for the wife to aleast she knows what she is getting and can budget accoridinly esspically if she has to plan to leaver husband due to circumstances.
Hell yes times have changed - doesnt mean you love the person any less . But when the shit hits the fan its good to have your safety glasses on .
This is how I feel about it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Deogol
it reminds of the line in the Italian Job, "I trust everyone. It's the devil inside them I don't trust."
For me, it's a tough decision. Part of me feels like this: "if I don't trust this person, and they do not trust me, then why the hell should we get married in the first place?" But then another part of me realizes that should a divorce happen, you NEVER know what could happen. No one actually anticipates getting divorced while they're getting ready for their wedding, but you really should be prepared.
My close friend is currently unhappy with me for suggesting she get one to protect herself from her fiance. Her father is rich and is planning on buying HER a house (not as a wedding gift, it's just for her, but the fiance will be with her). She is also in the middle of medical school and will soon be done and potentially makng good money. The fiance, on the other hand, comes from a trailer park, is a recovering drug addict who drinks a lot, has a child and texts the baby's mama "I still love you"-type messages, but my friend 'trusts him' and 'knows that he wouldn't do anything' behind her back. Oh, and they've only been together 1 yr and they met a week before her mom died (she admits she wasn't attracted to him until after her mom died).
So, yeah, in my opinion, people need pre-nups, ESPECIALLY in situations like that.
I don't mean to be off-topic or highjack the thread, but it's sad that a promising, bright young woman ends up with a loser like that. Sad but not uncommon.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hello_Kitty27
Ugh, Hello_Kitty...yeah, your friend sounds to good to be with that dude. :-\
If he truely loves me, he'll sign it.
as long as it's not someone dumping a prenup on the other person and expecting them to sign it without any input whatsoever.
a financial agreement should be exactly that - an agreement. both parties should be able to have an adult discussion about money to work it out while you're happy, agreeing to sane terms that take into account a variety of circumstances. i totally agree with the Suze Orman thing as well.
on the other note, it sounds like med student girl wants to 'save' this boy. sounds like k-fed to me.
;D Us eitherQuote:
Originally Posted by Miss_Luscious
I'm going to inherit. To be vague, I stand to inherit a lot. In order to weed out the assholes, I would always tell guys with whom I planned on becoming serious that I want a prenup if and when I marry. I want to be certain that they're marrying me for me, and not the cash and property. My fiance has absolutely no problem with this (being as ridiculously in love with me as he is) and there have been many talks. I never saw it as a lack of trust, but as a safeguard for my heart.