Ever met anyone at a bar or club and had sex with them that night? What was the outcome of it?
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Ever met anyone at a bar or club and had sex with them that night? What was the outcome of it?
oh man, back in college, that was every other weekend...
yeah, and it was just sex
Yep, it never went anywhere.
One time though, I fooled around with a guy at a party - got naked in a shower, made out - but no actual sex - and that turned into a relationship.
Yeah, I met someone I really liked last night and I did that for the first time. I feel really weird about it today but it seems as though we had a connection. It was a wonderful experience sexually. Who knows if it'll go any further :-\ It was fun while it lasted but I unfornuately wear my heart on my sleeve.
I'd let it go. He probably doesn't want to see you again, except maybe for more sex.
And maybe you won't want him either. Good sex doesn't mean he's a good guy.
Yeah, that's true. He wanted my name and number so he can call me, I took his as well. He is in Dulles which is where I live part-time now until the end of October, he wanted to know what I was doing the rest of the weekend and all about me leaving in October. Maybe I am just a little unexperienced. I swear it was very close to being the best sex I ever had though ;D. But you are right, just because it was good sex doesn't mean he is a good guy and he probably just wants me around to have casual sex with and that's it. I would end up getting attached unfornuately.
It's weird too, since I quit dancing and got separated I have been more wild and hornier than ever }:D
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Originally Posted by greenidlady1
rofl :juggle:
Um, yeah - recently separated and divorced gals are generally all pretty horny (rebound sex is much better than makeup sex). The best place to troll is divorce support groups...}:DQuote:
Originally Posted by greenidlady1
(Um, that's what my friends tell me...;D)
Hey, you're recently separated so you know you have a six month to a year timeframe where you can't expect to get into a healthy relationship. So just take it easy and keep your expectations low. Focus on what makes YOU happy. And if that means great sex with a guy you know little about, then call him the next time you're horny and just don't ask him too many questions.
^^Ya damn right Emily. Yes, I have done that numerous times.. we wont say how many though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Emily
Really if doing that is something you want to do not only be careful but realize that was just sex and only sex. Sure thats nice if he wants to get all romantic but really take that one night stand at face value.
Well, I went ahead and called him tonight and he called me back. We agreed that we would like to get to know each other better. He said he would call me tommorrow and we would talk more. It's just weird. I've never met anyone and right off the bat have sex with them the same night or week for that matter. And usually the first time you are with someone new it's not great but it's like this guy who happens to be three years YOUNGER than me knew my body like a road map. He knew exactly what do and when and how to do it. Then he acted embarrassed when I told him how much I enjoyed it. I told him I was surprised that he wanted to get to know me better considering how we met and stuff and he said I should have more confidence in myself. I guess that's what 8 years of a bad relationship did to me.. :-\
^^ hey, and if the return of your confidence is all this eventually leads to, then no harm, no foul, right?
Heh. It happens to guys too; well at least me:) When I was single some girls were just sex but others hit a real emotional chord. I wonder how many real players there are who have no feelings for someone they have sex with? I've seen a lot of guys who said they were cold stone fuck machines and then a lady or two would really throw them for a loop. I know a young woman who swears she is a player and doesn't have feelings for her fuckbuddy/sorta boyfriend. Unfortunately for her it taint so.
Yeah, lol!Quote:
Originally Posted by greenidlady1
Im sure more than one relationship Ive had has started out that way. All of my relationships have been good, so I guess the outcome was good :)
[QUOTE=azcustomer]Um, yeah - recently separated and divorced gals are generally all pretty horny (rebound sex is much better than makeup sex). QUOTE]
Heehee, too funny. Can't wait to find out. I just went on my first date since I've been seperated and I didn't even give him a good night kiss! How weird! I guess it's cos I really like him and want to take things slow. Talk about a sweetheart.... and he's firggin' adorably sexy. I feel like I am in high school again, damn butterflies. It's so nice. ;D
Krystal
Hah. In response to the O.P. it normally is just the result of a very powerful sexual urge. But if he's worth two shits, he'll follow up what he says to you with actions.
If he was the one saying he'd call and he wants to get to know you, let him. If he doesn't actually DO that, than take it for what it is. And move on. You're a great girl, his loss. And it was great sex, so YOU definatly didn't lose :D
It sucks, but some guys are so insecure and horny that they'll put their desire to have sex over their own integrity. Mixing the two, however, has much more powerful results.
In response to Emily and Tiger:
Sex on the First Date, DOESN'T mean 'Bad Guy' though. Takes two to have sex, only one of the two to ruin it by being disingenuous. A situation that baffles me. Why is getting laid worth lying about your intentions, or anything for that matter? I know it sounds horrible to say, but being honest about my intentions has not affected me sexually, as well as left me with less drama to clean up. But then again, I'm ok with 'No' and saying 'No' when I'm being asked/asking to do something I'm not completely O.K. with doing :/
Green:
Make sure you're not validating on this dudes call. Don't feel bad of yourself if he doesn't return your call soon. Actually, feel liberated. Enjoy your spontaneity. You only live once.
Oh, and if the sex is as good as you say, he'll call. You had sex on the first date, but only you can choose whether or not you're ok with being a booty call. Remember, you're in control of your end :D
But glad to see you're enjoying yourself as you deserve!
Mast.
Thanks for the great advice hon :)
Hooray! I'm useful!
I agree, but women tend to romanticize sex in a way that men don't.....so when she "feels" something, it gets confused. Sometimes good sex is just good sex. I don't think anyone is inherently bad because they sleep with someone on the first date. I'm just saying he's not necessarily "the one" because she saw god during sex.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
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Originally Posted by Emily
You know, there is a great irony here... though my limited vocabulary keeps me from putting what I'm thinking into words. :D It's kinda like "The Custy Dilemma"
yah i admit done it a few times... not too proud of a few of the people it happened with.. thats for sure.
^^ I bet they are ;)
except there is no "I gave him $200 and he did XYZ. Does he really like me?"Quote:
Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
right, I was referring to something along the lines of: When she gets PAID for her attention, he's the one left wondering. It's just ironic that when she picks someone to give her attention to for FREE, SHE gets left wondering. However in greenidlady's scenario if this dude falls off the map, it wont be long for her to find someone better.