Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
On Tuesday (my first scheduled shift) I will probably have to do a few lap dances.
The girls at my club get pretty dirty on the guys. Usually sit on their lap and rub their back on the guys chest.
Honestly I dont want to do that. I know my rubbin and all that I can make so much more money but I rather just give a private dance on like a chair or somethin in front of them.
Isnt that like rules anyways? (I live in Mass) And if I'm not ON the guy its called "air dancing?"
I'm worried my manager will push me to get rounchy like the other girls but thats not my style. My style of dance got me $21 in a 3 min stage set... I dont thik I need to rub up on guys. I had one guy ASK for a lapdance but he said he just wanted me to sit and talk with him.
How do you do your lapdances?
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You are probably dealing with a full contact club, as in, you can grind on the guy and he may or may not be able to touch you. Now, this does not necessarily mean it has to be distastful, you can do it very sensually. At my club, girls go all out... rubbing their breasts on the guys crotch(over the pants obviously), dropping on their hands and upside down grinding... I find that (the latter) tacky. I do very sensual dances where I do make contact with the guy, but in my honest opinion: if you get the man aroused, the more money he will spend. If you have girls at your club who are "grinding", you are going to have to do the same or you will be the "girl that doesnt grind". If you have a problem with contact, I suggest another club. But contact clubs are usually where the money is at, but like I said, it doesn't have to be raunchy.
Depending on the music, is how I dance. I like to show off my body slowly and sensually, perhaps shake my booty, carres body (chest, backside, etc) displaying my sexual prowess.
At the club I'm at now, which you set your own dance prices.... you go to your own pace. If you are a beginner at a full contact, always let the man know what he can and cannot do and if he acts up, let him know. You are there to be their fantasy so I try to act as into them as I can be. I can't really describe my dances because all guys like different things and all clubs are different. For instance, the club I work at now, men are allowed to touch your breasts and your backside. I only know one girl who will not allow it (out of almost 100+) I have worked at clubs that are full contact where you cannot pick your feet off the ground yet they can touch you. I've worked at clubs where you can grind on them, but they can't touch you. If you give me more specific details on what your clubs allows, PM me and I can give you some advice on a sensual dance that won't overstep your boundries. Just remember, when you are giving a dance: The more into me he is, the more money he will spend. Good luck... and don't worry.. just think as if you were to dance with a guy at a normal club, you may grind... but atleast you are getting paid to do it at a strip club
Re: Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
Thanks Kalli
I dont know the rules. I *think* (from what I observed) the guys keep there hands by there sides and the girls (usually with there back on them) grind and touch themselves and do a lot of crotch in the face. Another girl did a lot of air dancing and it was SO cool to watch.
When we are on stage guys can walk up to the stage and you hold your garder open and they slide the money in. They arnt allowed to touch you... After they tip you, most guys want you to spread you legs to them.
If I give a lap dance I want it to be sesual. I have no problem rubbing my boobs,butt,crotcharea on a guy but I dont want to rub ANYTHING on his hard dick.... ya know?
I also dont mind like using my hair (I read some girls use tere hair kind of slide it on the guys face)
Basically the foriegn girls (when they are giving a dance) looks like they are having sex with them. If the guy took his pants off it would be sex. LOL... I dont think the American girls do as much because they also talk with the guys.
The girl whos assigned as "my big sister" seems cool and professional. I will watch her and see what she does. I just much rather get my advise here because here you guys are trying to help me.... at my club those girls (wether they like me or not) are my compitition. I dont want to "steal" anything from them... They do offer a lot of there stuff and advise but as much as I want to fit in at my club I dont want to be like all the other girls.
Re: Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
:) It is hard to get used to at first, but the more you grind on their dick, the longer they will get dances, I know its hard to deal with at first but its true. Especially if you tell them what a big dick they have. Remember, the more you act into them, the more chance of money they have. Now, you don't have to grind the whole song and even if they hard to begin with, you can just brush your boobs/ass/thigh/hair.. a lot of girls, including me, will rub one of my legs against it while my boobs are in his face. That may be better for you to do to get into the swing of it. Ask your "big sister" what she does, watch girls in the club, and mimic their actions. Youll get the swing of it no time. Good luck :)
Re: Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
Why dont you dance at a club that have no contact! I would look around for a club that has no contact. It is nice that you have no promblems with customers, in the club. What will happen if a customer touches you! How will you feel about that! Most customer that come into a full contact club expects full contact. If you are not comfterable with full contact. I think it will serve you better to work at a club with no contact. That way if a customer touches you or do something you are not comfterable with! They will kick him out or give him an warning!
Re: Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
You must remember that guys go to clubs for as much contact as they can get. If full contact dancing is the norm in your club, you MUST offer full contact lap dances or why should a guy buy from you? If all the girls offer contact and you offer none, you are not a good deal for the money, are you?
Just go with the flow. You don't have to offer sexual favors to the guys, but lap dancing is just that, lap dancing. You have no control over a customer getting a hard on while you are dancing. Some guys may cum while you are dancing for them as well. As long as you are getting paid for your dances, that isn't your problem, is it?
You are thinking ahead of yourself right now. Just learn the business. At least you are in a club where there is some training.
You are there to sell as many dances as possible. That is how we as dancers make our money.
Don't worry. Everything will be fine. Just go with the flow.
Re: Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
I was going to say something similiar. Don't overthink it. Just get in there adn do it. Thinking about it is weirder than doing it I think!
Re: Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
welcome to the great 'Catch 22' of exotic dancing in 2006. Legally speaking, it is only 100% OK if you do 'air dances'. Financially speaking, once word gets around among club customers that, in a club where most of the dancers are providing major grinding/contact while you are only doing air dances, your earnings potential is probably NOT going to be OK. Job security wise, if the clubowner / manager sees that you are 'occupying a slot' in their club, but that you are not delivering very many lap dance sales (of which the club collects a percentage) compared to other dancers, you may NOT be OK in the long term either.
In the vast majority of clubs today, dancers are faced with the dilemma that in order to earn decent money they must 'bend the law' in regard to contact levels on a nightly basis. Clubowners / managers often encourage dancers to 'bend the law' in order to enhance the club's profits (which are based on a percentage of the dancers' lap dance sales), with the knowledge that if the club is ever busted that it will be the independent contractor dancers who will be charged and not the clubowner / manager ("honest, officer, I had NO IDEA what those dancers were doing in the VIP room !"). Thus every dancer must make her own decisions in this area, and accept the associated consequences.
Re: Is it ok if my lap dance is only an air dance?
If the standard dance is full contact and you only do air dances, you will not make money.
I work at a no contact club because it fits my comfort level.
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Tough spot to be in, but the girls have it right...if you are one of say two girls out of say a dozen, and you are doing air dances...well, the boys will go the other way (most all).
The club I work at is a no touch club....we can climb on them, sit in their lap etc...but they have to keep their hands at their sides (right). It took a lot of getting used to for me, I watched many girls do things that shocked the hell out of me! But I decided I would give sexy, sensual dances, light contact, no grinding but I would sit or curl up in their lap and stay within my comfort zone. It works....they guys still get some contact and I don't feel like gagging. It's a WIN WIN!
~B